I seem to be letting a few secrets out lately. It has set me wondering, do our secrets define us? We all have secrets, some we share with this person, others with that person.
Does sharing a secret draw people closer? Is that part of the swinging thing, we share secrets?
Hmmm what's that line .... summat about a secret only being a secret when only 2 people know it and one of them is dead?
I know secret about someone. I kept it a secret. Then someone else told me they knew the secret. So it's not a secret is it?
I don't think there's such a thing as secrets in the swinging world. When at least one other person knows something about you it's likely that will spread.
I do tend to give certain information to certain people. My bestest mate knows more than anyone. I have other friends with whom I only discuss certain things and not others. It's always been like that. i have different friends for different reasons - doesn't make them any less a friend though.
i dont understand what you mean by our secrets 'defining' us
Shared secrets? I wouldn't go as far as saying that secrets define us as individuals, but shared secrets definitely help bind a group together. So do shared ideals, shared experiences...
Anything that provides some common identity for members of the group, and excludes outsiders.
I dont really understand what u mean by "defining us" tbh.. however yes of course we all have some secrets. I have told my partner long held secrets and afterwards i wish i hadnt cos i think its quite good to have some skeletons in the cupboard!
I agree with Marya that there are different secrets for different friends - bestest friends get to know the whole shebang. Middle friends maybe a little bit and others, nothing. But i have to say, if someone confides in me then i keep that totally to myself... hard sometimes, but i really do.
Suze xx
The only person I don't have any secrets from is my therapist! And that's only because I've been seeing her for years.
I'm far too complex to know inside and out.
We all have some secrets, whether it's harmless white lies or damaging stuff that's well hidden.
But there are circumstances when you are drawn into a secret, especially at work, where you feel you are compelled to keep the secret. This is where I think your behaviour can be surreptitiously defined, sometimes unknowingly or quite beyond your expectations.
is revealing secrets a case of acknowledging the trust you have with someone, rather than 'unburdening'?
prolly THE reason why i love this place and the people on it with a passion! 
maybe? 
Yes.. I feel the odd little secret draws people closer, it's a way of opening up a closed book so to speak.. 
