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do members think its important to have an attraction when u meet , or do u have sex just for the sake of it
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Do u think its important to have an attraction
do u think its important to have an attraction towards the person before you play
Quote by easycome2003_1
do members think its important to have an attraction when u meet , or do u have sex just for the sake of it
I personally think its very important to have an attraction present. I wouldnt like to think that someone is shagging me just for the sake of it and vice versa.
Louise xx
Orgasminator
Personally I Definitely need some sort of chemistry -- may be looks or personality or both, but if there's no attraction at all it really doesn't work.
Forum Virgin
Very important any cock or pussy needs an inteliigent body attached and a hard cock of course
Warming the Bed
I think that you have a majority for your poll.
I have never met anybody for whom an attraction (of some kind) wasn't important.....don't forget that we are all on here to have fun, not (in most cases) to procreate.
I have never met anybody for whom an attraction (of some kind) wasn't important.....don't forget that we are all on here to have fun, not (in most cases) to procreate.
Orgasminator
i am pleased u all agree its not just about the sex an attraction is important
Orgasminator
pmsl austin
Sex God
Quote by flower411
pmsl austin
Well !! Isn`t always the same !! I make a joke and the international man of mystery gets the credit !!! :cry:
ask for your money back flower- how dare they?!!??!?!?!
m xx
as with the dogging angle, I have heard (and seen) that the 'need' for attraction doesnt need to be there with some people, especially in clubs, dogging or even some group situations - every hole's a goal, a cock's a cock, regardless of who its attatched to ...in the heat of a horny moment I guess it doesnt matter 
its precisely that bit of all this swinging malarchy (
) I dont 'get', probably never will - because for me there most definately needs to be an attraction, both physical or mental, that also exists outside of the 'sexual situation' to even think about playing! :dunno:
its precisely that bit of all this swinging malarchy (
) I dont 'get', probably never will - because for me there most definately needs to be an attraction, both physical or mental, that also exists outside of the 'sexual situation' to even think about playing! :dunno: Quote by easycome2003_1:idea:
do members think its important to have an attraction when u meet , or do u have sex just for the sake of it
A very big factor ofcourse would be the scenario. One to Ones might require more specific direct connections/attraction. Especially for men(surprise ladies) it is us who needs to have the eRection
if thats a diezel.
Sex God
Quote by delsutton
For me, there has to be some mental as well as physical attraction. Given that the brain is the biggest sex organ I guess that's not too suprising
Absolutely :thumbup:
Quote by Darkfire
as with the dogging angle, I have heard (and seen) that the 'need' for attraction doesnt need to be there with some people, especially in clubs, dogging or even some group situations - every hole's a goal, a cock's a cock, regardless of who its attatched to ...in the heat of a horny moment I guess it doesnt matter
its precisely that bit of all this swinging malarchy (
totally agree darkfire.
i cant imagine ever getting to a point in my life where it doesnt matter to me who im shagging lol it matters, if theres no attraction there...why am i shagging? doesnt make sense to me
i might aswell do it myself! 
Sex God
Quote by flower411
i am pleased u all agree its not just about the sex an attraction is important
Maybe you should ask the same question in the dogging section... see if the result is the same.
Yes maybe you should ask the question, but I suggest you ask it to doggers and not outdoor swingers, which are two completely different things
Quote by from the Dogging Section
Dogging is a predominantly British activity that involves outdoor exhibitionism in car-parks, wooded areas and the like. The term dogging originated in the early Seventies to describe men who spied on couples having sex outdoors. These men would 'dog' the couples' every move in an effort to watch them. When the swinging scene discovered that open-air sex has its own special thrill they began meeting in car-parks, and the doggers found a new and rich supply of voyeuristic fun. Moreover, the doggers soon realised that these couples were actively encouraging them to watch, even performing for them, and sometimes allowing them to join in.
I think even from a 'true' doggers perspective there has to be some form of attraction, but I would also add that it is probably a different level of attraction than it is for swingers, because 'proper' dogging does not include any form of physical contact between the couple and the dogger. However, a bit pointless watching if it is not doing anything for you.
Perhaps Flower, you could ask the same question in the Chatroom lounge and see if you get the same response (I know you are always after topics to discuss in there and you could ask it from a Chatroom perspective)
Orgasminator
where did the poll results go lol
there totally has to be an attraction both psychically and mentally, i cant just shag anyone which is why i am a bit uncomfortable in clubs and always make sure i am chaperoned
i simply couldnt do it if there was no attraction and i wouldnt shag anyone i thought was just after a shag.
i had a conversation with someone the other day about the fact i was at a club last saturday and didnt play, my choice, his response was he was more of a fill your boots man and get as much as is on offer while you can. this is just not how i see it at all, and was told thats because i am female and have the 'power' ffs.
Earthy xx
i simply couldnt do it if there was no attraction and i wouldnt shag anyone i thought was just after a shag.
i had a conversation with someone the other day about the fact i was at a club last saturday and didnt play, my choice, his response was he was more of a fill your boots man and get as much as is on offer while you can. this is just not how i see it at all, and was told thats because i am female and have the 'power' ffs.
Earthy xx
Sex God
Quote by Miss_Kiss
I couldn't even snog somebody I didn't find attractive. :!:
Ditto for me! :smile:
Quote by flower411
Perhaps Flower, you could ask the same question in the Chatroom lounge and see if you get the same response (I know you are always after topics to discuss in there and you could ask it from a Chatroom perspective)
Funny you should mention that!! As no matter how much I tell them, most chatters still can`t be bothered with the lounge. This sort of thing gets discussed all the time in certain rooms but of course the results just pass away into the night and are not there for us all to view and think about. I have noticed one or two new posters in there lately but it still seems to be confined mostly to complaints!!
Oh well, never mind
would you like me to try for you, considering i've already taken credit for your remark!
Quote by flower411
Perhaps Flower, you could ask the same question in the Chatroom lounge and see if you get the same response (I know you are always after topics to discuss in there and you could ask it from a Chatroom perspective)
Funny you should mention that!! As no matter how much I tell them, most chatters still can`t be bothered with the lounge. This sort of thing gets discussed all the time in certain rooms but of course the results just pass away into the night and are not there for us all to view and think about. I have noticed one or two new posters in there lately but it still seems to be confined mostly to complaints!!
Oh well, never mind
Well Mr Powers I`m not sure you remember but it`s all your fault I ended up going into the chatrooms in the first place !!!
So if you could help me out now it would just be following a trend
ok...if i must.....damn its hard work being me!
Orgasminator
wheres the poll gone
as with the dogging angle, I have heard (and seen) that the 'need' for attraction doesnt need to be there with some people, especially in clubs, dogging or even some group situations - every hole's a goal, a cock's a cock, regardless of who its attatched to ...in the heat of a horny moment I guess it doesnt matter
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Glad you added some
It was dogging & clubs that brought me in to this scene, but I wouldnt say a cock's a cock regardless, I do have to have an attraction to the persons involved :D
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Glad you added some
It was dogging & clubs that brought me in to this scene, but I wouldnt say a cock's a cock regardless, I do have to have an attraction to the persons involved :D
