I was talking the other day to someone about why I felt I wanted to stop meeting people for fun.
One of the reasons is I came to try out a couple of fantasies and feel I have done more and beyond what I originally set out to do.
I have really enjoyed my time in doing them and have no regrets.
But what I was feeling is that when you have a fantasy that you act out, that no longer is a fantasy, you can act out the same fantasy with others but I started to feel how many times do I need to do that.
What I found then was happening is you think of other fantasies that you would like to try so the cycle continues.
I have pushed my boundaries as far I want to push them, but this person then said don’t you have other fantasies, yes I have other fantasies but don’t feel the need to act them all out.
They said you only get one chance so they would act them out.
I am happy to take some of mine with me when I go.
So am I odd?
Do others feel this cycle or is it just me?
Do others feel they came to try a few fantasies or is the urge just to have sex with someone different each time.
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Do we have to act out all our fantasies?
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I was talking the other day to someone about why I felt I wanted to stop meeting people for fun.
One of the reasons is I came to try out a couple of fantasies and feel I have done more and beyond what I originally set out to do.
I have really enjoyed my time in doing them and have no regrets.
But what I was feeling is that when you have a fantasy that you act out, that no longer is a fantasy, you can act out the same fantasy with others but I started to feel how many times do I need to do that.
What I found then was happening is you think of other fantasies that you would like to try so the cycle continues.
I have pushed my boundaries as far I want to push them, but this person then said don’t you have other fantasies, yes I have other fantasies but don’t feel the need to act them all out.
They said you only get one chance so they would act them out.
I am happy to take some of mine with me when I go.
So am I odd?
Do others feel this cycle or is it just me?
Do others feel they came to try a few fantasies or is the urge just to have sex with someone different each time.
I have loads of fantasies :shock: when I have done one just move on to the next :shock: with the help of a few friends of course xxx :P :P :P
steve x
Some of my fantasies would require participants to be at least double jointed so unlikely to work in real life. Some I use when having a lady-wank and if I want to continue to use them for that purpose they have to stay in my head. I do, however, have some I have acted out and thoroughly enjoyed, others were less successful and a few still to try :twisted:
Any volunteers?
Any volunteers?
Sex God
Quote by Mrsgoggins
Some of my fantasies would require participants to be at least double jointed so unlikely to work in real life.
lmao!
Mrs G! I'd love a peek inside your imagination!
Mod
I don't have to act out all my fantasies. I enjoy doing those that I can and often find these lead me to discover new fantasies, so a moving feast really. I also enjoy helping others achieve their fantasies and quite often by sharing your fantasy with someone else you both can move it forward to something neither of you had originally thought of!
Some fantasies will never become real, but that doesn't make them any less fun!!
Mal
Some fantasies will never become real, but that doesn't make them any less fun!!
Mal
we think your right to hold on to some fantasies, we've been on the swing scene over 25 years and fulfilled all our fantasies, (we've either seen or took part in everything imaginable that we wanted too)now some people think were boring when we tell them we aint got no fantasies fact we tell them our only fantasy left is if "you" turn up for the meet,lol.
Quote by cockslut
we think your right to hold on to some fantasies, we've been on the swing scene over 25 years and fulfilled all our fantasies, (we've either seen or took part in everything imaginable that we wanted too)now some people think were boring when we tell them we aint got no fantasies fact we tell them our only fantasy left is if "you" turn up for the meet,lol.
Hi cockslut,
I hope you don’t think I am prying, but would you say acting them all out, has left you with a sense of fulfilment?
I think it would leave me personally with a sense of where do I go from here, I still get great pleasure of holding onto fantasies as the unknown keeps the mind wondering.
I liken it to having a surprise, I am always eager to find out what the surprise is, in swinging I have the chance to find out as I see fantasies as surprises but really enjoy too the not knowing.
I wonder if it could be I have a great imagination so I just use that instead.
I don’t know if I am making sense here.
Fantasies... hmmmm.
Well... I like to think I have an imagination that can create scenarios, and bring forth interesting acticities and scenarios.
Though it tends to act on a more spontaneous level... little ideas trip through my mind and I'll enjoy them whilst they are there, even better should I have the chance to discuss or enact them in some manner or other.
However, my mind is not something that likes to be organised... by me or anyone else. It rebels against me and doesn't take kindly to planning and listing.
(and thats from me, never mind anyone else!!)
So, for me it works best that a 'fantasy' may trip through the consciousness, find a fertile breeding ground and be developed... poked with sticks and see if moves...if there is any life in it... and if there should be, it can be freed to run and breed amongst all the other wildlife in my head. Penning it in for examination later (for me) kind tames it to a degree... takes away some of freedom and stultifies its originality... a zoo-fantasy, rather than a wild and hairy beast that is tearing around the Steppe feeding on all it finds.
So: fantasies, yes, I have them, but they are dificult to find again in thier original form, and even then hard to pin down and examine.
They remain free... and can always been seen... a tantalising glimpse in undergrowth, high in the trees.. or running wild in the urban wastelands.. ferral.
beware
lp
Well... I like to think I have an imagination that can create scenarios, and bring forth interesting acticities and scenarios.
Though it tends to act on a more spontaneous level... little ideas trip through my mind and I'll enjoy them whilst they are there, even better should I have the chance to discuss or enact them in some manner or other.
However, my mind is not something that likes to be organised... by me or anyone else. It rebels against me and doesn't take kindly to planning and listing.
(and thats from me, never mind anyone else!!)
So, for me it works best that a 'fantasy' may trip through the consciousness, find a fertile breeding ground and be developed... poked with sticks and see if moves...if there is any life in it... and if there should be, it can be freed to run and breed amongst all the other wildlife in my head. Penning it in for examination later (for me) kind tames it to a degree... takes away some of freedom and stultifies its originality... a zoo-fantasy, rather than a wild and hairy beast that is tearing around the Steppe feeding on all it finds.
So: fantasies, yes, I have them, but they are dificult to find again in thier original form, and even then hard to pin down and examine.
They remain free... and can always been seen... a tantalising glimpse in undergrowth, high in the trees.. or running wild in the urban wastelands.. ferral.
beware
lp
Quote by Lucyandmike7
Having sex with two men pushed my boundries, it was not a fantasy, just a seed that was sown by Mike, so actually it did becme one!
My fantasies now largely remain in my head, and maybe thats the best place for them.
One may pop out of my head soon and become a reality, lets just see!
I still have 2 left both of which I so far havent done :shock: :shock:
1.. is to have sex with 2 women at the same time , have done one after another but not the same time
:D :D 2.. the other is in a threesome to follow a black guy :D :D :D
the rest I have achieved lucky me :P :P :P
steve x
Sex God
Quote by Mal
I don't have to act out all my fantasies. I enjoy doing those that I can and often find these lead me to discover new fantasies, so a moving feast really. I also enjoy helping others achieve their fantasies and quite often by sharing your fantasy with someone else you both can move it forward to something neither of you had originally thought of!
Some fantasies will never become real, but that doesn't make them any less fun!!
Mal
I think I was pretty much going to say all of that! :thumbup:
Cheers Mal for saving me the effort
Sex God
I've been thinking this through.
2 fantasies are physically impossible for a woman of my age.
At least 5 are impossible cos they involve someone who is dead or fictional. (No not necrophilia - they are alive and well in my mind).
1 is probably illegal.
The rest? I look forward to having a go at them in the coming years. And who said you can only act a fantasy out once? There are a lot of people on this site - a fantasy would be different with each one Now there's a challenge. :giggle:
2 fantasies are physically impossible for a woman of my age.
At least 5 are impossible cos they involve someone who is dead or fictional. (No not necrophilia - they are alive and well in my mind).
1 is probably illegal.
The rest? I look forward to having a go at them in the coming years. And who said you can only act a fantasy out once? There are a lot of people on this site - a fantasy would be different with each one
Now there's a challenge. :giggle: I actually dont want to act out all my fantasies, as i like the fact that i still have something to fantasy over, i feel that once you have done it, the feeling behind it is no longer the same, although its nice to have an actual event to talk about, it sets bounderies as you cant discuss what never happened, obviousy you can say well i wish this could of happened or that, but surely then that makes the fantasy forfilment a waste of time as you never did get to do everything. I like the fact with fantasies you have no bounderies, so can always change to how the fantasy suits you at that partiuclar time. So Yes i have acted out some of my fantasies, but others i want to keep to jus what they are!
Warming the Bed
i have fulfilled 1 or 2 but i will always have a fantasy of some kind. my dream/fantasy is to find out the wifes so i can assist in making them come real! now thats a fantasy thats gonna be hard to do!
I also believe in u only live once so if u wanna do it at least try, u cant say then u never tried! what if u do like it and want it again? if ur to old to try again then ur stuffed.
I get a real kick out of the chase, when u 1st start chatting to someone and get to REALLY know them, if u do actually take it further then its dynamite!
Live the dream, or at least what of it you can, death comes 2 soon!
I also believe in u only live once so if u wanna do it at least try, u cant say then u never tried! what if u do like it and want it again? if ur to old to try again then ur stuffed.
I get a real kick out of the chase, when u 1st start chatting to someone and get to REALLY know them, if u do actually take it further then its dynamite!
Live the dream, or at least what of it you can, death comes 2 soon!
Sex God
I worry about my fantasies as the last year or two have seen them evolve into ones that I never would of thought in a million years. Mainly they consist of bdsm and the dishing out of lightly painful controlled corporal punishment and less of the general dipping the willy type stuff. Perversly less sexual .... I think. 
All I know is that om keeping a lid on it and enjoying what we do now for what it is and thats bloody good sexy fun with me Mrs and other people occasionally sharing our pleasures.
All in all Minx I side with you I think. Some stuff remains cool to keep to oneself.
All I know is that om keeping a lid on it and enjoying what we do now for what it is and thats bloody good sexy fun with me Mrs and other people occasionally sharing our pleasures.
All in all Minx I side with you I think. Some stuff remains cool to keep to oneself.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
we think your right to hold on to some fantasies, we've been on the swing scene over 25 years and fulfilled all our fantasies, (we've either seen or took part in everything imaginable that we wanted too)now some people think were boring when we tell them we aint got no fantasies fact we tell them our only fantasy left is if "you" turn up for the meet,lol.
Hi cockslut,
I hope you don’t think I am prying, but would you say acting them all out, has left you with a sense of fulfilment?
I think it would leave me personally with a sense of where do I go from here, I still get great pleasure of holding onto fantasies as the unknown keeps the mind wondering.
I liken it to having a surprise, I am always eager to find out what the surprise is, in swinging I have the chance to find out as I see fantasies as surprises but really enjoy too the not knowing.
I wonder if it could be I have a great imagination so I just use that instead.
I don’t know if I am making sense here.
yes and no, glad we did them, liked most so got pleasure/fulfilment from them. some not so good after trying them so bit of a let down,but as we tend to look to the future, whats left to do?so our advice is keep a few back don't do them all while your young.
Quote by Lucyandmike7
Having sex with two men pushed my boundries, it was not a fantasy, just a seed that was sown by Mike, so actually it did becme one!
My fantasies now largely remain in my head, and maybe thats the best place for them.
One may pop out of my head soon and become a reality, lets just see!
Oooo you cant tease us like that. Tell us a bit more Lucy please
Sex God
Quote by __random_orbit__
nothing too grand there then eh Lost?
Thanks Lp I looked again and thought you were right so I edited Out that shite bit - thankyou for not quoting it mate :thumbup:
I have fantasies that I have lived out and thoroughly enjoyed them. I have other fantasies which form part of my 'horny place' - somewhere my mind wanders to when I'm having a lady wank. They're far too perverse for me to consider living out but they do the trick for me in my imagination :twisted:
I have fantasies that will never come to fruition.
Bumping into Kylie at Hedonism and us being the only two singles there......
Witton Albion getting into the premiership, the championship....or any division.
Going dpown the pub on a sunday with my mates, only to find The Rolling Stones doing an acoustic set in the tap room.
some stuff just has to remain a fantasy......
Bumping into Kylie at Hedonism and us being the only two singles there......
Witton Albion getting into the premiership, the championship....or any division.
Going dpown the pub on a sunday with my mates, only to find The Rolling Stones doing an acoustic set in the tap room.
some stuff just has to remain a fantasy......
Quote by M8-Me
Having sex with two men pushed my boundries, it was not a fantasy, just a seed that was sown by Mike, so actually it did becme one!
My fantasies now largely remain in my head, and maybe thats the best place for them.
One may pop out of my head soon and become a reality, lets just see!
Oooo you cant tease us like that. Tell us a bit more Lucy please
You are my fantasy Matey, you just dont know it yet.....ooo you do now!!!! :wink:
Quote by Lucyandmike7
Having sex with two men pushed my boundries, it was not a fantasy, just a seed that was sown by Mike, so actually it did becme one!
My fantasies now largely remain in my head, and maybe thats the best place for them.
One may pop out of my head soon and become a reality, lets just see!
Oooo you cant tease us like that. Tell us a bit more Lucy please
You are my fantasy Matey, you just dont know it yet.....ooo you do now!!!! :wink:
Mmmmmmm gone all tingly now
Quote by M8-Me
Having sex with two men pushed my boundries, it was not a fantasy, just a seed that was sown by Mike, so actually it did becme one!
My fantasies now largely remain in my head, and maybe thats the best place for them.
One may pop out of my head soon and become a reality, lets just see!
Oooo you cant tease us like that. Tell us a bit more Lucy please
You are my fantasy Matey, you just dont know it yet.....ooo you do now!!!! :wink:
Mmmmmmm gone all tingly now
oooo can I watch? :shock:
ops: 
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Having sex with two men pushed my boundries, it was not a fantasy, just a seed that was sown by Mike, so actually it did becme one!
My fantasies now largely remain in my head, and maybe thats the best place for them.
One may pop out of my head soon and become a reality, lets just see!
Oooo you cant tease us like that. Tell us a bit more Lucy please
You are my fantasy Matey, you just dont know it yet.....ooo you do now!!!! :wink:
Mmmmmmm gone all tingly now
oooo can I watch? :shock:
ops: Yes!
Quote by Lucyandmike7
Having sex with two men pushed my boundries, it was not a fantasy, just a seed that was sown by Mike, so actually it did becme one!
My fantasies now largely remain in my head, and maybe thats the best place for them.
One may pop out of my head soon and become a reality, lets just see!
Oooo you cant tease us like that. Tell us a bit more Lucy please
You are my fantasy Matey, you just dont know it yet.....ooo you do now!!!! :wink:
Mmmmmmm gone all tingly now
oooo can I watch? :shock:
ops: Yes!
Is that another fantasy?? we'll be getting high scores on DGs chart :wink:
Do we have to act out all our fantasies?
Oooh definitely not I'd say Minxy!
I've had all sorts of fantasies over the years and have eventually had an opportunity to make them happen - all but one of which were fantastic. However, I firmly believe that it's great to have at least one tucked away that isn't likely to happen as the unknown "what if" factor is an important part of fantasising. One of my favourite fantasies is something that I probably wouldn't try to set up in real life so it has endless possibilities that keep my imagination fired up :twisted:
I would actually really hate to have run out of fantasies!
