Perhap threads like the word association are fine but kept on topic .. .makes it harder and the rules are that when it's run it gets deleted??
Then everyone knows where they stand .. can take part but there's no silliness with bumping post counts etc.
Frogster you had your public response on the other thread.
You obviously read it as you pick up some of the points given in it.
The thread won't be getting reinstated - it's gone.
Jas
I was wearing fluffy slippers, and be very careful because that's fairly offensive to me personally.
Jas
TBH, i'm one of the people who may have posted utter drivel over the months ive been here, so i'm not going to comment on the deletion of the Word Association and SH Clock threads. HOWEVER, i have had a thread deleted because it may have caused trouble and bad feeling in the cafe. now, i could have complained, i could have started another thread to the same effect, or i could even have started a thread slagging off the mod who decided to delete it... if my memory serves me correctly, i think it was Jags... anyway, the point is, if it was Jags, she felt the need to delete the thread for the best interests of the site. and why not? i dont want to be personally responsible for creating bad feeling amongst others. and i felt the way it was dealt with by the mods was fantstic, i had a PM telling me it had been deleted, and the reasons as to why, and i was also told it would be discussed by the mods and i would be informed as to whether the thread would be put back or not. not once did i feel the mods were being "Nazis", nor did i have any doubt that the desicion was the right one.
My point is this..... the mods are there for a REASON, and if something is not in the best interests of the site, then they have EVERY RIGHT to get rid of it. nothing is done without a reason, they dont just log on and think.."oh, i'll delete a couple of threads just to piss so and so off...". The mods have been chosen by Mark and the other mods because they can do the job, and keep this site the fun place it always has been. So before everyone starts complaining, think about whether you could do it or not... i would love to be a mod, but i dont have the patience or level headedness to do it, and seeing the way the mods get treated now, and the abuse they get hurled at them, i personally dont envy them. would you talk to your boss at work the way some people talk to the mods?? No, i thought not. so why do it here??
Oh, and i forgot the mention the post count..... WTF???? there has been one time when i have tried to increase my post count rapidly... and that was in my race to beat Ice Pie to 1000 posts, which i felt was lighthearted fun, and i would hope didnt affect the forum in any negative way. Other than that, i rarely look at howm many posts ive done, unless its a big milestone such as 1000 or something. (Correct me if im wrong, if my memory serves me then i havent flooded the forum with threads about my post count, lol!)
Hey - an interesting thread at last!!
Come on guys - don't fall out over it. Discussion is good.
Yes - I am guilty of having started non-swinging related posts recently. So - have sat myself down and asked myself why.
I think the non pertinent threads start when there are a lot of non pertinent threads. You're bored with all the other threads - but you're addicted to SH, you view a lot of the people online as your friends - and if you've had a particulary shitty or good day - you tend to share that in some way with your friends.
Yip - probably not the best way to do it but there isn't a hell of a lot going on - so you do.
Well - that's the conclusion I came to after having a discussion with me.
So now I've read this thread through - and I think there are a lot of valid points put forward.
I personally don't like the idea of swinging only topics. When I first joined (being very inexperienced - and at that time not a swinger) I did the search thing, which answered a lot of my questions - and I posted two question posts (which I think I reffered to as a "Question" in my header). I got a lot of great advice. But most advice IS there already. So what is left, except for the odd good discussion after the press decide to slip their tuppence in? I guess I'd get bored and fade away. But I don't know - becuase that hasn't happend yet.
I also personally believe that you can ascertain a lot about a person from the way they talk about "normal" things. So would hate to see those go away.
Do I have a solution of my own to this dilemma? No I don't - but I do believe that we have mods who are there to make decisions and regulate the forum. Sometimes you may get a slap on the wrists. Sometimes they may decide to do things you don't agree with. But at the end of the day - they are there for a reason -and by signing up to this forum we signed up with that knowledge.
I just think that it is great that we can discuss it, and I personally hope that this doesn't turn into a slanging match with personal insults exchanged.
Some excellent and very honest posts in here. I think I'm pretty much in agreement with the bulk of the comments. Yes to a mixed forum for on and off topic threads but with a reasonalbe balance of topics and styles of posting.
I know this seems a bit simplistic but a wee symbol attached to the initial post to say - on topic, off topic, joke, moan, game, naval gazing, request for help - that would be visible in the index and folk could decide whether to read or not?
If trivial threads are merely started so that people can boost their post counts the answer is simple. Remove the post count from public view. It serves no useful function. It's easy enough to work out who the regular posters are
I look at people's words, not their post count, when I am deciding if I agree with them or if I am interested in their opinion.
The only valid point that I can see that's been made for the removal of the 2 threads that were deleted was the time taken to check them. The threads that really clutter up the board still remain. Those 2 threads were well known and easily avoided by non-mods. I looked in the clock thread occasionally but noone forced me to...I knew the type of thread it was. I have avoided the thread in dogging completely...it wasn't difficult to avoid clicking on it, I knew which one it was.
The 3some thread is all about post counts, in-so-far as your position in the league table dictates your 3some. There have been posts from others, intended to be funny I'm sure, saying that they need to post more to get to a more favourable position. Get rid of post counts, get rid of threads that relate to post counts.
Speaking as someone who has never posted any drivel........What? WHAT?
I have the following to contribute:
1) I don't and won't swing
2) I enjoy being in the company of open minded people who seem to be more plentiful here.
3) I like to contribute serious comment and bollox.
4) The Ooo-errr Mrs or meaningless 'commiserations' offered to someone when they've pricked their finger on a needle drives me fucking crazy. Total waste of space and other peole's time and should be locked - immediate.
5) The look at me threads/posts are more pernicious but are also a waste of space and should be treated similarly.
6) Trolls should be identified earliest and labelled as such. They make everybody they come to contact with look stupid.
7) The Cafe would lose quite a lot if the swinging part was hived of into another forum but I do have sympathy with the majority (and most of all the Mods), who have to wade through oceans of drivel to get to meaningful material.
8) Oh and I enjoy flirting but I generally do it in private.
I think there is a case for slightly tighter guidelines to reduce drivel and strengthen Mods hands in dealing with it.
Change?? Seems that as long as you conform youre ok!??
I dont understand all the locked threads?? There just now seems to be an abundance of them! And to be honest why the fuck are half of them locked???
. There's more to life! So what, get over it! No-one pays for space on here, no-one has the divine right to be here (even mods), and it is meant to be fun... so I say again, what is the f*cking problem? There really is more to life, maybe if some people can't see that they should move away from their PCs and take one long look at the big picture.
) above because, I actually think she has summed up the whole issue. We all knew what we were signing up for. Including the Mods.
