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Sex God
The poet A. E. Housman (a great favourite with a certain friend of ours who lives in a tin shed) once said that if anyone ever thinks that they can love more than one person in their life, they are deluding themselves. I think there is something in that sentiment.
Mike.
Mike.
I bumped into the guy I lost my virginity with at the tender age of 14 
at a mutual friend's b'day party. We ended up going out after the party and trust me .... three ex childhood boyfriends and the guy i fancied all those years dd my ego the world of good :twisted:
The ine i lost my virginity with wanted me to sleep with him again and I said no ...... have often wondered what I missed out on.
The guy whose b'day it was is my real childhood love ... and I would love to play with him ;) we still see a lot of him and luckily his name is same as hubby's so no telltale wrong names hehehehehe. I've known him since I was 4 and he's so like a brother to me that nothing would ever happen.
at a mutual friend's b'day party. We ended up going out after the party and trust me .... three ex childhood boyfriends and the guy i fancied all those years dd my ego the world of good :twisted: The ine i lost my virginity with wanted me to sleep with him again and I said no ...... have often wondered what I missed out on.
The guy whose b'day it was is my real childhood love ... and I would love to play with him ;) we still see a lot of him and luckily his name is same as hubby's so no telltale wrong names hehehehehe. I've known him since I was 4 and he's so like a brother to me that nothing would ever happen.
Sex God
I got over my first proper shag very quickly. I choose not to remember 
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Sex God
no. not yet any way <<< sobs >>> ;-)
never heard that quote before, but yeah i'd agree. never had anything like the same intensity or depth as i did with my first long term g/f as a 17 year old. after 3-4 frustrating months of unfulfilled urges, she gave me her virginity as my 17th birthday pressie, and i gave her mine in exchange for it. late starters i know but that's a catholic education for ya! ;-) truly awful awkward fumbling, andi barely remember the sex itself, but i don't think i've ever felt that good since.
i know it's completely unrealistic to expect that at 35, but somehow there's still always this nagging thing going on that maybe somethings missing or wrong if the passion's not all-consuming like it was for the both of us back then. unfair on a new girlfriend, and it sets me up to fail setting a standard noone can meet, least of all myself, cos it'll never be quite such a novel adventure again without the excitement of all those teenage hormones pumping. rose tinted nostalgia i know, but there ya go!
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damnit where's the tissues . . . . :smile:
neil x x x x x ;-)
Quote by MikeNorth
if anyone ever thinks that they can love more than one person in their life, they are deluding themselves. I think there is something in that sentiment.
never heard that quote before, but yeah i'd agree. never had anything like the same intensity or depth as i did with my first long term g/f as a 17 year old. after 3-4 frustrating months of unfulfilled urges, she gave me her virginity as my 17th birthday pressie, and i gave her mine in exchange for it. late starters i know but that's a catholic education for ya! ;-) truly awful awkward fumbling, andi barely remember the sex itself, but i don't think i've ever felt that good since.
i know it's completely unrealistic to expect that at 35, but somehow there's still always this nagging thing going on that maybe somethings missing or wrong if the passion's not all-consuming like it was for the both of us back then. unfair on a new girlfriend, and it sets me up to fail setting a standard noone can meet, least of all myself, cos it'll never be quite such a novel adventure again without the excitement of all those teenage hormones pumping. rose tinted nostalgia i know, but there ya go!
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damnit where's the tissues . . . . :smile:
neil x x x x x ;-)
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Quote by JudyTV
The sensitivity in some males astounds me and constantly helps to restore my faith in them, especial the gorgeous ones
where i was brought up when i we're a lad etc, most would say that makes me anything but straight.
but i've never stressed too much about what passes for the strong and manly way of emotional denial?: i suspect it's that kinda sentimentality that gets me labelled as overly-familiar with my feminine side! :lol: i maybe had to get a bit better at being emotional a bit quicker than some of my peers.
when even the hard Glesga men in my family are seen to be heartbroken at times, to feel you're not allowed those feelings, and can't talk about it because it might ask questions of you as a man? or maybe it's ust that i'm a mummy's boy like they always said :lol: lone parent issues ya know . . .
i don't know it's at all unusual to think and feel like that, but being able to actually admit as much may be? without worrying about the piss being ripped for it. i'd expect that here at least you'll find many who value the honesty more highly than "the real men don't blub" thing ? surprising that we are still surprised to find it apart from in our own head.:dunno: it's what i come here for anyways! ;-) thanks for your kind words. appreciated and touched ;-)
n x x x ;-)
and apologies for the rambling hijack. already chopped out over half of it, but i can witter on at times eh?
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Quote by novice1
Yes you get over it.
No, you never forget.
I agree
Mr Ex-VeryReligious, Mr MarriedAt19 and still a virgin (At the time!!!!!, Jeeze!!!) can safely he wont forget the first time, but certainly got over it LOL
Orgasminator
Neil sweetheart... don't lose that standard because that ellusive 'someone' for you is out there 'cos me and GT are living proof... I thought the same as you and settled for second best twice. Within three or four dates GT and I knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. It meant him leaving a marriage of 26 years and his thirteen year old daughter, selling his business to move fifty miles north to be with me. We had all the mushy brain, can't eat, can't concentrate feelings that teenagers have...
GT's ex seems, this week, like she has just found her all consuming love with bells and whistles on... hopefully she will begin to understand the love and passion we have for each other... she deserves a whole big pack of happiness.
As a quick aside she sent us the most perfect ex-wife card to us when we got married... everyone else sent doves and church bell type cards. She sent a funny cartoon type card with the words 'let's toast the happy couple'. The picture was of a bride and group being spit roasted over a bonfire!.. Hilarious!
Anyway back to you Neil... Do not lose hope that you will find her but in the mean time have fun!
GT's ex seems, this week, like she has just found her all consuming love with bells and whistles on... hopefully she will begin to understand the love and passion we have for each other... she deserves a whole big pack of happiness.
As a quick aside she sent us the most perfect ex-wife card to us when we got married... everyone else sent doves and church bell type cards. She sent a funny cartoon type card with the words 'let's toast the happy couple'. The picture was of a bride and group being spit roasted over a bonfire!.. Hilarious!
Anyway back to you Neil... Do not lose hope that you will find her but in the mean time have fun!
Quote by corriefem
My last long term relationship was my first real true love and it took me by surprise. We moved in together after just 10 days :shock: :shock: I think that we will never forget each other and I may never find that kind of love again but it was worth waiting for
BIG HUGS!!!!
My first was vastly more experienced than me, knew how to get everything undone without a fuss, and not to be too crude about it I will remember that first penetration and the following weeks we spent together as long as I live. Both the first discovery of quite the best sensation life has ever offered me, and the freshness and intensity of that first time will be with me always.
The lady in question popped round to see my mother a few weeks ago, but I haven't seen her for (lets say) several decades.
The lady in question popped round to see my mother a few weeks ago, but I haven't seen her for (lets say) several decades.
Sex God
Quote by neilinleeds
late starters i know but that's a catholic education for ya! ;-)
Neil~
Ha! Vix & I were both brought up in Catholic school as well...and look how we turned out! :twisted:
To be honest, my first didn't have that much of an impact on me. It was a guy who was living with my older brother and his g/f - I was 15 - and we fumbled around with each other on occasion whenever I was spending the night over there. About 15 years later, I finally told my brother about this - and he'd had no idea what was going on under his roof (which is strange, because we once went at it on the couch while my brother slept on a chair next to us!)!
However, my first experience with a woman was an entirely different matter: I was 16 and she was 17, and the only times we shagged were in a threesome with her 19-year-old homophobic fiancee. It was an incredible experience with her which still brings fond memories. We were truly in love, but not in the romantic sense of the word. We'd just been best friends for the longest time beforehand, and stayed that way long after we were no longer having sex. We still got a bit physical with each other from time to time - her term for it was "body buddies" - but we were never a real couple. It was just a totally comfortable relationship for both of us, and we got to explore our sexuality in a friendly, uncomplicated way.
Vix has encouraged me to get back in touch with her - so I signed up for the U.S.-based site - but haven't been able to find her as yet...
~Reese!
I still remember my first very fondly. I was just 17. We actually went out for 5 yrs and got engaged. Then I got a job abroad and discovered the joys of meeting many, many, many more women. Last saw her about 20 years ago. And of course she still looked wonderful.
Oh well... such is life
Paul
Oh well... such is life
Paul
