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You are not alone and it's not the site that's at issue for me either. I too threw myself into the forums and munches and for the most part, I do still thoroughly enjoy it and I have made some very good friends on here. I've even ventured into chat as you know :grin:
There is something in the air I think. I've been coming in here but my enthusiasm has waned a little and akin to what Fabio said, it's not always the first place I visit when I log on these days. I started to get a bit worried when the first thing I started doing last week was checking my work email first :eeek: As part of this I have spent the last week or so assessing what I want, is this scene still for me?; Do I want to remain a swinger?; Am I now ready again for a relationship?; Do I want a relationship where swinging is part of the relationship? So many questions running around in my head lol.
Tomorrow I may feel totally differentlyI think a lot of how I am feeling this week stems from my ex informing me that he was emigrating to Canada to be with the woman he had an affair with. I won't miss my ex but I do sometimes get miffed that he is happily settling down again with partner number 5 lmao. Then I think, why am I bothered, as I don't want to settle down again, I am happy with NSA, and then I start questioning myself again lol
I'm not sure I've answered the original question but I hope you decide on what is right for you hon :kiss:
PS I do hope you are still coming to Wigan, my wine needs to make friends with your pink plastic glasses :grin:
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Another lost soul here
You might have noticed i don't post on any of the sites much anymore, probably less in a month than i used to in a day. just can't be arsed and don't find that much interesting, i was looking at the posts earlier and thought 'is that all?'.
I come here for flirtennis with a few friends, to have a quick nose at whats going on and pop in the odd comment here and there. As you've said it's not just this site that fallen on it's arse a little and i think a few of the old bunch have fallen at the same time, just in a slightly different direction.
I don't have any ex's getting married or anything so it can't be that (i wouldn't get upset if they were) i think it's just burn out and a 'been there, done that' feeling, i hardly ever flirt and tart with newbies these days :shock: .
So for now i'll continue my rediscovered interest in 'Vanilla World :shock: ' new job and old friends, pop on here occasionally and maybe make it to the odd munch
Quote by meat2pleaseu
I'll join the lost souls club..if you'll have me![]()
I have felt a distinct lack of belonging anywhere recently.
Double Ohh you haven't lost your flirtiness knack by the way, just thought I'd tell you
Quote by meat2pleaseu
I'll join the lost souls club..if you'll have me![]()
I have felt a distinct lack of belonging anywhere recently.
Double Ohh you haven't lost your flirtiness knack by the way, just thought I'd tell you
Quote by varca
I'll join the lost souls club..if you'll have me![]()
I have felt a distinct lack of belonging anywhere recently.
Double Ohh you haven't lost your flirtiness knack by the way, just thought I'd tell you
Quote by varca
A pleasure to have you indeed WarmerSo how many have we so far lol? Double Ohh (adding an mmmmmmm here too) :grin: Earthy, me, Warmer, any more for any more? :D When does our first meeting convene and who's looking at the agenda? :D
Quote by LondonPlaything
never have been one to feel particularly a *part* of things in the first place here...
Quote by earthchild
....gone are the days when i was that new person everyone wanted to know.....
Quote by varca
I'll join the lost souls club..if you'll have me![]()
I have felt a distinct lack of belonging anywhere recently.
Double Ohh you haven't lost your flirtiness knack by the way, just thought I'd tell you
Quote by varca
A pleasure to have you indeed WarmerSo how many have we so far lol? Double Ohh (adding an mmmmmmm here too) :grin: Earthy, me, Warmer, any more for any more? :D When does our first meeting convene and who's looking at the agenda? :D
Quote by LondonPlaything
never have been one to feel particularly a *part* of things in the first place here...
Quote by earthchild
you dont belong anymore
its quite strange, been thinking about this a bit lately and sometimes i feel like i dont belong here, i dont mean the site as such, more the scene.
gone are the days when i was that new person everyone wanted to know, which isnt necessarily a bad thing, but even some people i thought were really good friends hardly even speak to me now, they will say a few words on msn if i speak to them then say brb and never come back.
the forums dont excite me anymore, and no thats not a dig at the people posting, i think its more to do with how i am feeling, i dont use them much on either site anymore
i am finding i tend to spend most of my time in the north east chat room with people who are in my area.
i have spent the last 18 months travelling all over the country to meet people, and i have met some fantastic people, one or two who will remain special friends no matter what.
so, is it just me or do others go through this feeling, is it like seasons it changes and goes in circles.
this isnt a look at me post, i am genuinely interested to know if anyone else goes through this phase as i am seriously considering my place here right now.
Earthy xx
Quote by Bigpaul45
As a newbie..and I'm sure other newbies are the same,I sometimes feel like one of those meerkats (if you've watched the programme ,you know what i'm talking about).The single male lone meerkat who from a distance is watching the established pack of meerkats and is hoping to be accepted in so he can shag the other females,but usually gets chased off with his tale between his legs!!
Apologies to earthy(I'm coming up your way soon)if this is a hijack,i'll gladly accept a
Quote by Suze43
Earthy just a thought - theres loads of peeps going to Chams on Saturday, including us, course u belong hun and dont u dare think otherwise!!
Love ya,
Suze xx