do you ever get the feeling

19 Apr 2007

Quote by earthchild
Earthy just a thought - theres loads of peeps going to Chams on Saturday, including us, course u belong hun and dont u dare think otherwise!!
Love ya,
Suze xx

thanks suze it was more the bigger picture i meant than with the people that are good and close friends and special to me, by posting this thread i have upset one very special one in particular by not wording things properly
Earthy xx
Surely they will realise it wasnt meant in that way sad

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
Earthy just a thought - theres loads of peeps going to Chams on Saturday, including us, course u belong hun and dont u dare think otherwise!!
Love ya,
Suze xx

thanks suze it was more the bigger picture i meant than with the people that are good and close friends and special to me, by posting this thread i have upset one very special one in particular by not wording things properly
Earthy xx
Surely they will realise it wasnt meant in that way sad

Hopefully they won't. This thread for me is a reminder that our prioties are always changing. And that it's best to step back and think about it so that you don't compromise your own values.
kiss

Earthy

19 Apr 2007

Quote by webster
then occasionally I recognise the humour and irreverence which seems to be part of the lifestyle and I realise why I joined in the first place and I don't think that has changed.
Ed.

Yeah I feel that too!
Earthchild. I have a lot of respect for people here and i really hope you can balance the feelings your getting.I have only regularily been reading and replying in Forum since Christmaa so it's all stil new to me and I enjoy the stuff that goes on her though i feel axasperated at times.
Sayimg that some of the enjoyment comes from thinking, oh my god here we go again or did they really post that! And the single thumbs up posts/emote ones do my head in big time but at least its a feeling i am getting. The day i dont feel is the day i will stop.
Just at the moment I hope you get to a better place soon.

19 Apr 2007

Quote by earthchild
you dont belong anymore

I do. It comes and goes tbh, a bit like the ebb and flow of the forum.
I never have really considered myself to be a 'full on swinger' so in that respect I'm never going to have a sense of belonging. I do however have it, strongly, towards the 'community' and the site itself.
I think Lost is right:

Sayimg that some of the enjoyment comes from thinking, oh my god here we go again or did they really post that! And the single thumbs up posts/emote ones do my head in big time but at least its a feeling i am getting. The day i dont feel is the day i will stop.

once you stop feeling, its time for a break, or at least a few steps back. And that's what I'm doing with particular regard to Munches. The lustre has gone (for me) and I totally feel the same as you Earthy about feeling a bit 'lost' at them. Gone are the days when people do the 'oooo Dark's coming' & simply want to come up and meet you & have a natter, spend some time with me etc because they've read my posts...& i'm not sure whether that's because I've been here too long and done too many and have already met everyone who wants to meet me so to speak, or if once you are known, there's simply no place for you any more in the big scheme of things and the social side of all this evolves into simply seeing your own little group of friends ... or if (for me) I'm simply very crap at making conversation with people who I know absolutely nothing about, and they have no idea who I am either because I dontuse the chatrooms dunno

Aside from that, and going back to Lost's post, I very definately do still feel in the forum. Posts infuriate me, make me laugh, some make me cry with laughing, make me all concerned and mother-hen-like, cetain things really piss me off and others bore me stupid...but I feelit.
I think when it stops doing that, and I become completely indifferent, stop defending the site when people slag us off, stop mentoring newbies and pulling threads out my ass when its quiet and dont give a shit if it is, that's when I'll know I dont belong anymore. wink

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Darkfire
Gone are the days when people do the 'oooo Dark's coming' & simply want to come up and meet you & have a natter, spend some time with me etc because they've read my posts

ah, now then... don't be so sure...
I'm feeling a little brave here posting this, but there coytanly are people out there who feel like this, for yourself, and for others who have posted with a similar feel in this thread... so there!
However, whether or not this gets expressed, or indeed whether the bounding-up and saying *hi* at muches etc happens is down to thier own shyness or lack of confidence... and thats a whole other thread altogther:
that's a whole other thread!
sorry about that
lp

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Darkfire
you dont belong anymore

I do. It comes and goes tbh, a bit like the ebb and flow of the forum.
I never have really considered myself to be a 'full on swinger' so in that respect I'm never going to have a sense of belonging. I do however have it, strongly, towards the 'community' and the site itself.
I think Lost is right:

Sayimg that some of the enjoyment comes from thinking, oh my god here we go again or did they really post that! And the single thumbs up posts/emote ones do my head in big time but at least its a feeling i am getting. The day i dont feel is the day i will stop.

once you stop feeling, its time for a break, or at least a few steps back. And that's what I'm doing with particular regard to Munches. The lustre has gone (for me) and I totally feel the same as you Earthy about feeling a bit 'lost' at them. Gone are the days when people do the 'oooo Dark's coming' & simply want to come up and meet you & have a natter, spend some time with me etc because they've read my posts...& i'm not sure whether that's because I've been here too long and done too many and have already met everyone who wants to meet me so to speak, or if once you are known, there's simply no place for you any more in the big scheme of things and the social side of all this evolves into simply seeing your own little group of friends ... or if (for me) I'm simply very crap at making conversation with people who I know absolutely nothing about, and they have no idea who I am either because I dontuse the chatrooms dunno

Aside from that, and going back to Lost's post, I very definately do still feel in the forum. Posts infuriate me, make me laugh, some make me cry with laughing, make me all concerned and mother-hen-like, cetain things really piss me off and others bore me stupid...but I feelit.
I think when it stops doing that, and I become completely indifferent, stop defending the site when people slag us off, stop mentoring newbies and pulling threads out my ass when its quiet and dont give a shit if it is, that's when I'll know I dont belong anymore. wink

Oi!!!!!
No those days hav'nt gone!!! redface

we still wanna natter....and stuff surprised

ops:

19 Apr 2007

I've been thinking a lot about this since the thread started.
I did say i was feeling tired and i am. (no, not housework, norts ya baldy geordie git!)
A couple of comments on other people's posts have stuck with me.
Darkfire said summat about not getting the "ooo Dark's coming!" thing for Munches etc. I feel that too. It goes with another post someone (sorry, it's pages back) about not being the new girl again.
I guess, for a time, I did throw myself into it all and now I'm tired cos it's "samey".
Only yourself can sort that i suppose?

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast
I've been thinking a lot about this since the thread started.

Therin lies the problem, you think too much! lol

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Happy Cats
I've been thinking a lot about this since the thread started.

Therin lies the problem, you drink too much! lol

thats just simply not true, sicky queen biggrin

19 Apr 2007

cruel! that bloody vodka was watered down!

19 Apr 2007

Quote by earthchild
you dont belong anymore
the forums dont excite me anymore, and no thats not a dig at the people posting, i think its more to do with how i am feeling, i dont use them much on either site anymore
so, is it just me or do others go through this feeling, is it like seasons it changes and goes in circles.
Earthy xx

Absolutely!!
I rarely post much now, we rarely have meet ups with people and tend to only do the big munches and avoid socials, and I'm rarely on MSN and tend to chat to the same people when I do.
I do miss it all, and think its all part of being the furniture, you get used to being around, seeing the same old posts, and it kinda passes you by .. before too long, you are the furniture, the newer ones don't know who you are and it's harder to get back into posting, joining in etc, then you don't want to because you feel like you don't fit in ... and so on and so on.
The community stays the same, but the dynamics change! That's not a bad thing necessarily, but it does sneak up on you sometimes.
I really should make more effort! You get out what you put it .... putting in is sometimes hard though
:shock:
Cx

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Tiger_lily
never really made much attempt.... socials ....but that's it.
...never wanting to be "deep"

Really?

19 Apr 2007

Quote by varca
thank you to everyone who has taken the time to reply and to those that ventured into my pm box
and to the hijackers, you'll get your bottoms smacked when i see you :twisted:
Earthy xxx

You promise?? :giggle:
Hope today brought a brighter dawn for you hon kiss

i have got a book out of my attic that is now 30 yrs old and cost 75p when it was bought for me about a witches cat
i am happy wink

19 Apr 2007

I find it goes in a cycle for me. I'll get bored with it all, stop posting as much for a while and then something (usually a Munch) will spark my interest and I'll be off again. I think that's part of the reason why I don't go to every event. It seems all too easy to get to everything (both here and other sites) and I know I'd get bored with that, plus I'm not a great traveller so the stress would kill me. lol

I find that going to a Munch every now and again helps to break the cycle of the site becoming dull and gives it a new dimension ...... sometimes.
I also go through periods of bouncing off certain people either in the forum or via PM and that can give my posting a boost as well. biggrin

Well I guess it gives you something to log in for. :giggle:
Don't know if this is of any help (or even any sense) Earthy, but it's how I've found that I've used the site over the last few years. ;)

19 Apr 2007

we sooo need to go on a mojo hunt rolleyes

come on, who's nicked em? evil

:lol:

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Darkfire
we sooo need to go on a mojo hunt
come on, who's nicked em? :lol:

not me....i've got plenty of my own!

19 Apr 2007

Quote by earthchild
so, is it just me or do others go through this feeling,

I wouldn’t call it a feeling – more (as alcoholics put it) moments of clarity.
The conscious reawakening that this place isn't really what people make it out to be and it is just an internet site... which bluntly reminds me why I am actually here – to have interesting, varied, fun sex with interesting, varied, fun people….
And the forum isn’t the place to find that!
The forum is a place to use as a distraction from work.
However, the chatrooms (and photo ads) do offer a stunning array of handsome bucks with eager willies (which you don’t have to wait for a blue moon to appear before one pops up and then get caught in a dishevelled stampede of XX’s as they discard their former values like socks which have been worn for too many hot days in fake leather shoes).

20 Apr 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast
cruel! that bloody vodka was watered down!

sorry i could not make the bog lol

earthchild Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 8:16 pm Post subject:
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varca wrote:
earthchild wrote:
thank you to everyone who has taken the time to reply and to those that ventured into my pm box
and to the hijackers, you'll get your bottoms smacked when i see you
Earthy xxx
You promise??
Hope today brought a brighter dawn for you hon
i have got a book out of my attic that is now 30 yrs old and cost 75p when it was bought for me about a witches cat
i am happy

hope it still got 9 lifes :lol:

20 Apr 2007

Quote by northeastcoupleuk
cruel! that bloody vodka was watered down!

sorry i could not make the bog lol

earthchild Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 8:16 pm Post subject:
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varca wrote:
earthchild wrote:
thank you to everyone who has taken the time to reply and to those that ventured into my pm box
and to the hijackers, you'll get your bottoms smacked when i see you
Earthy xxx
You promise??
Hope today brought a brighter dawn for you hon
i have got a book out of my attic that is now 30 yrs old and cost 75p when it was bought for me about a witches cat
i am happy

hope it still got 9 lifes :lol:
havent you gone yet rolleyes

:lol:

20 Apr 2007

i wouldn't be suprised if they don't let him in. I sincerley hope they do. And keep him there. lol

20 Apr 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast
i wouldn't be suprised if they don't let him in. I sincerley hope they do. And keep him there.

now that would be funny :lol:

20 Apr 2007

I actually think easy summed this up best for me rolleyes

Which in itself is a miracle because ive never known him even make sense before lol

I dont post much these days but i pop in the chatrooms most weeks, :shock:
it doesnt mean i wont post again
(run for the hils)
just as and when.....incidentally am i now the longest serving member never to have flounced and if so does my prize include something naughty from down-mads :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
ttfn be good.....
.or not :twisted:

20 Apr 2007

Quote by warwick
just as and when.....incidentally am i now the longest serving member never to have flounced

Absolutely certain about that ;-)

20 Apr 2007

I haven't flounced!
this week

20 Apr 2007

Probs been said before as i cant even begin to try reading all 85 replies but for me (as im the main and usually only poster in our SH relationship)i have waves of interest in the site and then tend not to use it much for a little while.
Normally when i have time off work i come on write a few posts and reply to the few good ones, have a look through the photo adds and get on the NE chatroom and catch up with a few peeps we know, but as we have little time to ourselves during the working week i use the forums and subsequently the site less often!
I like it here but that doesnt mean i dont get bored using the site every now and again, and i dont think earthy that its that you dont fit in here anymore etc, i think its just that you might be going through a bit of the "same old same old syndrome" with the site?
Anyway be a shame to see you go, lots of the old SH lot i used to say hi to and know through the forums have gone so stay here you old fossil lol

20 Apr 2007

Quote by warwick
just as and when.....incidentally am i now the longest serving member never to have flounced and if so does my prize include something naughty from down-mads :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

Oi warpick, don't bring me into this :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:
I haven't flounced so perhaps we should have a joint prize :rascal:

20 Apr 2007

Quote by varca
Okay, call me young, naive and innocent, errm okay I lied on all 3 counts but what on earth is flouncing? :lol2:

Example coming up......
Thats it, you lot are all miserable bastards. I'm not going to post on the forum again or use the chatroom. Actually, fLuck it, I'm going to cancel my account mad

:x:x
Type of thing confused

20 Apr 2007

don't forget the obligatory hair-flick and door-slam on way out Dawnie :lol2:
and then the coming back in 2 minutes later for another go rotflmao

20 Apr 2007

Quote by Darkfire
don't forget the obligatory hair-flick and door-slam on way out Dawnie :lol2:
and then the coming back in 2 minutes later for another go

I'm not ever come back to post again, not now, not ever mad

Shave your head and make a murkin out of it you, you, you Rotweiller flipa

(I think I've taken it too far now redface

)

20 Apr 2007

Quote by Darkfire
don't forget the obligatory hair-flick and door-slam on way out Dawnie :lol2:
and then the coming back in 2 minutes later for another go

It's more than two minutes, silly - you have to wait until at least six people have posted, begging you to stay rolleyes