Rather than people respond to creampies and the dangers of, they are responding to you are married, you have gang bang in your profile, totally off the point of the subject, basically you are picking holes, I have found the place to very cliiquey, some of the posters seem to know what they are talking about and there the ones I would listen too.
In the 21st century STD are everywhere and people still ignore the facts, if I did meet someone on here they would have to be like me and play things safe, there is no way in the world I would meet a cum slut purely for saftey reasons. This is ( Mods edit to remove ad number, not fair to talk about others on a public forum ) what I am on about, both man and woman are playing with fire, and yes I know it's upto them.
BTW I have visited the GUM clinic for tests and will continue to do so.
if people want telephone numbers for GUM clinics I can post a list of them.
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Quote by PoloLady
With regards to the STI issue of bareback - as raised earlier in this thread...
I would just like to comment that during the few times I have taken a look through some of the photo ads - it is apparent there are some people on there who would never be at risk of catching and STI if they never bought a condom in their life :grin:
Never a truer word spoken in jest...love it
Quote by tweeky
I will not link to any ads but some of the ads are borderline, example, cum slut loves creampie no condom fun, gang bangs etc, fill me up with cum etc...
I find these to be disgusting TBH, all the disese's about and people carry on doing things like this, surely their playing with fire?
It's upto them, it's just my opinion
Some might say that playing with a married man is playing with fire.
Each to their own, hmm?
You have an excellent eye for detail, well spotted
Shaz x
With all this free thinking what about when the two above combine and someones unsuspecting partner ends up with HIV?
Does that not matter as long as we were all free thinking?
Mr Tweeky
Free thinking is about just that, it's not about being bloody stupid...there is a big difference. For us swinging is all allowing others to be themselves and making their own choices in their sexual lives it is not about condeming those who don't play as we do.
Quote by m1970
Rather than people respond to creampies and the dangers of, they are responding to you are married, you have gang bang in your profile, totally off the point of the subject, basically you are picking holes, I have found the place to very cliiquey, some of the posters seem to know what they are talking about and there the ones I would listen too.
In the 21st century STD are everywhere and people still ignore the facts, if I did meet someone on here they would have to be like me and play things safe, there is no way in the world I would meet a cum slut purely for saftey reasons. This is ( Mods edit to remove ad number, not fair to talk about others on a public forum ) what I am on about, both man and woman are playing with fire, and yes I know it's upto them.
BTW I have visited the GUM clinic for tests and will continue to do so.
if people want telephone numbers for GUM clinics I can post a list of them.
It is not 'off the point' to ask why you condemn those that say they like 'gang bangs' when you say in your own profile you are into them. We are all still waiting for the explanation for that one.
We doubt there are many here who put themselves 'at risk' in the way you say but we will say that it is important that all swingers play sensibly and get themselves regularly checked.
What we do question is anyone who complains about an activity when they say,. quite clearly, they are into it themselves
I just wanted to make a point that if unprotected sex were likened to "dangerous" sports, then as a keen potholer I can assure you that every precaution is taken to be as safe as possible. If ever asked to assist in a rescue, many cavers don't curse those that have gotten into dificulties if they were well equiped to start with, that cursing is reserved for idiots that will risk their lives (and others) going underground without even considering the dangers.
Quote by PoloLady
With regards to the STI issue of bareback - as raised earlier in this thread...
I would just like to comment that during the few times I have taken a look through some of the photo ads - it is apparent there are some people on there who would never be at risk of catching and STI if they never bought a condom in their life :grin:
... you are evil itself 
Sex God
This topic never fails to confuse me - if you always use condoms why do you care if other people dont?
You are not at risk from them, yes those people who dont always use condoms take a risk when they dont but as everyone on here is a consenting adult that is their business.
Everyone takes responsibility for their own health and to take risks they are comfortable with. A woman advertising to be gang banged and filled with spunk by multiple guys is making her own choice and good luck to her. If it is not your thing then look at the next ad - it is that easy.
You are not at risk from them, yes those people who dont always use condoms take a risk when they dont but as everyone on here is a consenting adult that is their business.
Everyone takes responsibility for their own health and to take risks they are comfortable with. A woman advertising to be gang banged and filled with spunk by multiple guys is making her own choice and good luck to her. If it is not your thing then look at the next ad - it is that easy.
Quote by rogerthedragon
This topic never fails to confuse me - if you always use condoms why do you care if other people dont?
You are not at risk from them, yes those people who dont always use condoms take a risk when they dont but as everyone on here is a consenting adult that is their business.
Everyone takes responsibility for their own health and to take risks they are comfortable with. A woman advertising to be gang banged and filled with spunk by multiple guys is making her own choice and good luck to her. If it is not your thing then look at the next ad - it is that easy.
Agreed 100%
As for the condoms not 'always' 100% safe argument....yes, this is true but, as active swingers then that is a risk we all choose to take. If we decide that condoms don't constitute 'safe sex' either then they swinging world might as well give up?
It's a version of the old adage...."Anyone who drives slower than you is an idiot and should get off the road, anyone who drives faster than you is a maniac and should get off the road"
It comes down to diversity and not to judge others, just find your own comfort level.
I would much prefer that someone says in their ad that they want unprotected sex, as we try to meet people who are only into protected sex.
It comes down to diversity and not to judge others, just find your own comfort level.
I would much prefer that someone says in their ad that they want unprotected sex, as we try to meet people who are only into protected sex.
Sex God
Quote by flidais-media
I will not link to any ads but some of the ads are borderline, example, cum slut loves creampie no condom fun, gang bangs etc, fill me up with cum etc...
I find these to be disgusting TBH, all the disese's about and people carry on doing things like this, surely their playing with fire?
It's upto them, it's just my opinion
Some might say that playing with a married man is playing with fire.
Each to their own, hmm?
You have an excellent eye for detail, well spotted
Shaz x
With all this free thinking what about when the two above combine and someones unsuspecting partner ends up with HIV?
Does that not matter as long as we were all free thinking?
Mr Tweeky
Free thinking is about just that, it's not about being bloody stupid...there is a big difference. For us swinging is all allowing others to be themselves and making their own choices in their sexual lives it is not about condeming those who don't play as we do.
I guess I am not 100% free thinking. Anyone should be allowed to do as they wish as long as that activity can not unintentionaly harm others who have no way to avoid it or no knowledge of it. Sadly some people are not responsable enougth to do that and I choose not to be impressed by thier actions. So if that makes me not free thinking then I am happy not to be.
Mr Tweeky
Quote by tweeky
I will not link to any ads but some of the ads are borderline, example, cum slut loves creampie no condom fun, gang bangs etc, fill me up with cum etc...
I find these to be disgusting TBH, all the disese's about and people carry on doing things like this, surely their playing with fire?
It's upto them, it's just my opinion
Some might say that playing with a married man is playing with fire.
Each to their own, hmm?
You have an excellent eye for detail, well spotted
Shaz x
With all this free thinking what about when the two above combine and someones unsuspecting partner ends up with HIV?
Does that not matter as long as we were all free thinking?
Mr Tweeky
Free thinking is about just that, it's not about being bloody stupid...there is a big difference. For us swinging is all allowing others to be themselves and making their own choices in their sexual lives it is not about condeming those who don't play as we do.
I guess I am not 100% free thinking. Anyone should be allowed to do as they wish as long as that activity can not unintentionaly harm others who have no way to avoid it or no knowledge of it. Sadly some people are not responsable enougth to do that and I choose not to be impressed by thier actions. So if that makes me not free thinking then I am happy not to be.
Mr Tweeky
No one is saying you have to be 'impressed' with their actions, it's just a matter of not judging others and, if it has to be, letting others learn by their own mistakes. No one is forcing you or anyone to have unsafe sex or, even, swing if you don't want to but it's just not up to us to judge how others choose to live their lives. As long as everything involves consenting adults then who are we to judge?
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Are you sure you are a swinger
However - you dont even have to be a swinger to be able to accept people for what they are. As most people know - I'm not really a swinger (mmmmm I'd quite like to be though) - but I fully accept that everyone is different. And to be honest - I love the friends I have on here - whatever there sexual persuasion. I never judge - unless kids or non consentual violence is involved.
Best thing is to live and let live so long as we protect the innocents!
So - unless it is harming or corrupting someone - what is the issue??????
Quote by flidais-media
No one is saying you have to be 'impressed' with their actions, it's just a matter of not judging others and, if it has to be, letting others learn by their own mistakes. No one is forcing you or anyone to have unsafe sex or, even, swing if you don't want to but it's just not up to us to judge how others choose to live their lives. As long as everything involves consenting adults then who are we to judge?
But didn't you do just that in one of your previous comments
Quote by flidais-media
I remember seeing an ad from a single fem advertising for "Pregnancy Risk Sex" :shock:
Trust that ad was deleted, that sounds like a seriously disturbed person? :shock:
Quote by Dawn_Mids
No one is saying you have to be 'impressed' with their actions, it's just a matter of not judging others and, if it has to be, letting others learn by their own mistakes. No one is forcing you or anyone to have unsafe sex or, even, swing if you don't want to but it's just not up to us to judge how others choose to live their lives. As long as everything involves consenting adults then who are we to judge?
But didn't you do just that in one of your previous comments
Quote by flidais-media
I remember seeing an ad from a single fem advertising for "Pregnancy Risk Sex" :shock:
Trust that ad was deleted, that sounds like a seriously disturbed person? :shock:
Yes, but there is a difference there....trying to get pregnant via a swinging site (if indeed she was and we never did work that one out) is, in the long run, involving someone else (the child) so not quite the same as just doing stuff that involves the people concerned, imho.
At the end of the day it is down to what people are interested in. That's what swinging is about. You have to accept what people like and dislike and it's up to you if you want to contact the person or not.
But I aint catching no disease, and I certainly don't want a phone call saying "I'm pregnant and your the dad!" LOL
But I aint catching no disease, and I certainly don't want a phone call saying "I'm pregnant and your the dad!" LOL
Sex God
Quote by flidais-media
I will not link to any ads but some of the ads are borderline, example, cum slut loves creampie no condom fun, gang bangs etc, fill me up with cum etc...
I find these to be disgusting TBH, all the disese's about and people carry on doing things like this, surely their playing with fire?
It's upto them, it's just my opinion
Some might say that playing with a married man is playing with fire.
Each to their own, hmm?
You have an excellent eye for detail, well spotted
Shaz x
With all this free thinking what about when the two above combine and someones unsuspecting partner ends up with HIV?
Does that not matter as long as we were all free thinking?
Mr Tweeky
Free thinking is about just that, it's not about being bloody stupid...there is a big difference. For us swinging is all allowing others to be themselves and making their own choices in their sexual lives it is not about condeming those who don't play as we do.
I guess I am not 100% free thinking. Anyone should be allowed to do as they wish as long as that activity can not unintentionaly harm others who have no way to avoid it or no knowledge of it. Sadly some people are not responsable enougth to do that and I choose not to be impressed by thier actions. So if that makes me not free thinking then I am happy not to be.
Mr Tweeky
No one is saying you have to be 'impressed' with their actions, it's just a matter of not judging others and, if it has to be, letting others learn by their own mistakes. No one is forcing you or anyone to have unsafe sex or, even, swing if you don't want to but it's just not up to us to judge how others choose to live their lives. As long as everything involves consenting adults then who are we to judge?
Gonna have to leave this one we are going in circles. By being unimpressed I am already judging. As long as everything involves consenting adults then who are we to judge? when there is a person with no knowledge or no way to avoid the action I feel 100% inclined to express my opinion, and no this is not just in relation to married people at swingers clubs.
Mr Tweeky
Sex God
I once knew a woman who wanted a child. She didn't want a relationship with a man. So she picked someone up at a party, did the deed, then never had any contact with him again. She's a stable, sane, intelligent woman who is now a very good mother.
There's no way you can judge someone's motives from a few words in an ad. Without knowing the background, I don't think it's right to judge them. Maybe they are unbalanced. Maybe they're not. I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt.
There's no way you can judge someone's motives from a few words in an ad. Without knowing the background, I don't think it's right to judge them. Maybe they are unbalanced. Maybe they're not. I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Quote by DJohn
I once knew a woman who wanted a child. She didn't want a relationship with a man. So she picked someone up at a party, did the deed, then never had any contact with him again. She's a stable, sane, intelligent woman who is now a very good mother.
There's no way you can judge someone's motives from a few words in an ad. Without knowing the background, I don't think it's right to judge them. Maybe they are unbalanced. Maybe they're not. I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe, but just wonder how the child feels about it's origins? It's not just what the women wants that is important here, wanting a child isn't the same as wanting a dog or a new car...the child's feelings should come into it too.
I guess my feelings are tinged by the job I do, I have met many young women who have had very troubled lives, they will (and do) get pregnant because they have so little love in their lives they think having a child will mean someone will love them...sadly, as any intelligent person knows, life isn't that easy.
Fascinating to watch the ebb and flow of this thread...
The discussion opens with someone passing comment on what he feels about some of the ads...
He, in turn, is then criticised for not being sufficiently open-minded... which is dangerous territory to stray into folks - if we're saying that all opinions and viewpoints are valid then, by the same token, so are his! I didn't read the first post as a direct criticism of the acts themselves, rather the way some ads are, ahem, a little less subtle than others!
It always amuses me that we can be terribly uppity about open-mindedness - but only until we reach a subject upon which we are ourselves opinionated, at which point it's all too easy to forget the argument we were making in the first place.
(For the record, I'm sure I'm just as bad at that as anyone else! )
I agree that if people take risks knowingly that really is up to them. However, the logic which says that one can play dangerously and THEN go to a clinic for a check up, just to make sure everything is OK, is nonsensical. If you've gotten away with it, that's great, lucky you - this time. If you're not so lucky, then going to the clinic to be tested really is just shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted. Modern genitourinary medicine may be able to treat many relatively minor infections without too many complications but I suspect that many people do not truly appreciate the significance of some of the devastatingly life changing infections that can be transmitted sexually - never mind HIV folks, hepatitis is no joke. In many ways, the swinging lifestyle is a privelege - but it's also very easy to forget about the responsibility that goes with that; to ourselves as well as to others. I'm not trying to preach but I do sometimes wonder if people actually give enough thought to this aspect before they dive on in and enjoy themselves.
Broadly, I think southeaster has it about right though:
The discussion opens with someone passing comment on what he feels about some of the ads...
He, in turn, is then criticised for not being sufficiently open-minded... which is dangerous territory to stray into folks - if we're saying that all opinions and viewpoints are valid then, by the same token, so are his! I didn't read the first post as a direct criticism of the acts themselves, rather the way some ads are, ahem, a little less subtle than others!
It always amuses me that we can be terribly uppity about open-mindedness - but only until we reach a subject upon which we are ourselves opinionated, at which point it's all too easy to forget the argument we were making in the first place.
(For the record, I'm sure I'm just as bad at that as anyone else!
)I agree that if people take risks knowingly that really is up to them. However, the logic which says that one can play dangerously and THEN go to a clinic for a check up, just to make sure everything is OK, is nonsensical. If you've gotten away with it, that's great, lucky you - this time. If you're not so lucky, then going to the clinic to be tested really is just shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted. Modern genitourinary medicine may be able to treat many relatively minor infections without too many complications but I suspect that many people do not truly appreciate the significance of some of the devastatingly life changing infections that can be transmitted sexually - never mind HIV folks, hepatitis is no joke. In many ways, the swinging lifestyle is a privelege - but it's also very easy to forget about the responsibility that goes with that; to ourselves as well as to others. I'm not trying to preach but I do sometimes wonder if people actually give enough thought to this aspect before they dive on in and enjoy themselves.
Broadly, I think southeaster has it about right though:
southeastster
It's a version of the old adage...."Anyone who drives slower than you is an idiot and should get off the road, anyone who drives faster than you is a maniac and should get off the road"
It comes down to diversity and not to judge others, just find your own comfort level.
I would much prefer that someone says in their ad that they want unprotected sex, as we try to meet people who are only into protected sex.
Well put, you do just have to do what you feel comfortable with...it really is as simple as that.
Guess, just have a problem with others suggesting that one person's sexlife is more 'normal' or, come to that, 'abnormal' than the others.....as so many have said, as long as it's all between 'consenting' adults then each to his/her/their own.
Guess, just have a problem with others suggesting that one person's sexlife is more 'normal' or, come to that, 'abnormal' than the others.....as so many have said, as long as it's all between 'consenting' adults then each to his/her/their own.
Sex God
some of the ads r plain stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if u r stupid enough to reply...................
if u r stupid enough to reply...................
Quote by peenut
some of the ads r plain stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if u r stupid enough to reply...................
But the scary thing is that the placer of the ad actually expects replies !
Here we do agree......it's the ads where people are literally begging to be f*cked that amaze us...does anyone think that is appealing?
