Do you kiss?

29 Jun 2006

Quote by neilinleeds
i understand the "kissing is too intimate and personal" thing completely. infinitely more intimate than oral sex, for example, IMO, and i completely understand it could be a kind of boundary that reserves at least one act of intimacy for the couple, and only the couple?
but . . . sex without kissing just seems wrong? it's just soooooo mechanical if you dive straight down without so much as a snog? it's definitely the most pleasurable part of foreplay, and the single biggest turn on, so without it it's kind of hard work to get started?
neil x x x ;)

Ah, I've been sitting here trying to work out how to say that, thanks.
H.x

29 Jun 2006

You can't beat sharing a kiss but to me it's got to mean something. That's the turn-on.
A snog for a snog's sake doesn't do much fer me.
So, in a club situation, I can see why people just wouldn't want to kiss a casual meet.
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29 Jun 2006

Sex without kissing for me is like strawberries without cream.
For Mr w, however.....he had some intimacy "issues". Its taken years for him to let down his barriers and actually enjoy kissing me. So for me to see him kissing anyone else is just too weird.

29 Jun 2006

Quote by SexySara
My own personal opinion is that I love kissing, pure and simple, it's a big turn on for me and is as much a part of foreplay as all the rest.

:thumbup: i would agree with you! wink

this lady is not the only person with this opinion on kissing,,,,,,i have meet a few men that have the same idea ..... some don't wish to kiss at all and others will kiss but with NO TONGUES (shame!) their reasons for not kissing are more or less the same .... they feel it is too personal for a open minded relationship/meet but either way .... KISS OR NO KISSING poeples wishes must be respected
KISSES .....always better with TONGUES passionkiss

29 Jun 2006

I LOVE kissing........... nothing better than a good ole passionate snog! With a yummy person who can kiss well and enjoys it as much as you do.
I dont swing...... but i have discussed kissing in a swinging situation with someone before and I did think that no kissing would make it very cold an mechanical, no build up like.
If I saw my *partner* kissing someone I would be quite upset, so in a swinging situation Im not sure how I would feel. Probably quite jealous cos I want those kisses for me! There mine..all mine!
I agree with Tania to a point in that I reserve my kisses for special people (so far anyway). Although, when you first meet someone in a Vanilla situation, kissing is like a benchmark...... if a kiss doesnt make your stomach turn to butterflies for me its a no go!
Heck, Ive kissed a few fish along the way... lol

xanaisx

29 Jun 2006

Quote by neilinleeds
and tania, as for kissing at munches, it's the SH equivalent of a handshake! ;) at least for those of us comfortable with it anyways, though you always have to be careful on that one! ;)
neil x x x ;)

Interesting theory but I have another one to juxtapose: alchohol! biggrin

29 Jun 2006

Quote by anais
I agree with Tania to a point in that I reserve my kisses for special people (so far anyway). Although, when you first meet someone in a Vanilla situation, kissing is like a benchmark...... if a kiss doesnt make your stomach turn to butterflies for me its a no go!
xanaisx

And when your stomach fills with butterflies, then what? Sometimes there is nowhere to go; sometimes there is just that moment, that place, that person. Blink and it's gone!

29 Jun 2006

Quote by Tania
and tania, as for kissing at munches, it's the SH equivalent of a handshake! ;) at least for those of us comfortable with it anyways, though you always have to be careful on that one! ;)
neil x x x ;)

Interesting theory but I have another one to juxtapose: alchohol! biggrin

There are those of us who drive to/from munches (so don't drink alcohol) and still kiss - theory blown out of the water!

29 Jun 2006

Quote by Tania
I agree with Tania to a point in that I reserve my kisses for special people (so far anyway). Although, when you first meet someone in a Vanilla situation, kissing is like a benchmark...... if a kiss doesnt make your stomach turn to butterflies for me its a no go!
xanaisx

And when your stomach fills with butterflies, then what? Sometimes there is nowhere to go; sometimes there is just that moment, that place, that person. Blink and it's gone!
It depends on what the situation really is about Tania... sometimes, its about enojying that moment in time and seeing it for what it is...... a beautiful moment and savouring the pleasure it brings. Yes, it can be gone in a blink but ohhhhhhhh sweet memories!
In a relationship... kissing for me is very deep and meaninful, so I respect and understand those who request no kissing in a swinging situation. I still cant get my head around sex and no kissing though... its like sucking on a fruit pastel and not chewing! good job we are all different eh?
Anyway, at my age... I make the most of a peck on the cheek hehe
xanaisx
PS ( think Id make a lousy swinger... maybe I should have a go wink

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29 Jun 2006

Quote by da69ve
We enjoying the kissing part as well.......surely wouldn't having a cock in your mouth be considered very intimate aswell

For us
No !!
Kissing = Personal
Sucking = Horny
We keep sex and emotions apart .

30 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
My own personal opinion is that I love kissing, pure and simple, it's a big turn on for me and is as much a part of foreplay as all the rest.

pretty much spot on with this, bit of an odd analogy but i sort of see it like warming up before doing sports. nothing better than a long, passionate snogging session to get you up to full hornyness passionkiss

I also agree with this (omg get me a doc i actually agreed with meaty :shock: )
personally i wouldn't play with anyone who had a no kissing rule as i find the sex to cold and clinical, of course i respect other peoples rules and opinion but that don't mean i have to play with them if i don't like their rules smile

30 Jun 2006

Quote by Too Hot
We enjoying the kissing part as well.......surely wouldn't having a cock in your mouth be considered very intimate aswell

For us
No !!
Kissing = Personal
Sucking = Horny
We keep sex and emotions apart .
see now i do not understand such statments as this kissing is not emotinal its the meaning being it thats makes it personal, i can kiss someone i have no feeling for and someone i love and altho they both feel nice its not the same, i would have though putting you willy inside another woman was more personal than kissing her myself :shock:
what a strang out look us swingers have eh lol

30 Jun 2006

Our swinging experiences are exclusively in Clubs. We don't meet outside Clubs and don't meet socially. The swinging experience really is just about fulfilling the fantasy.
We like the idea that it is a stranger (or strangers!!) that are in the role and kissing strangers is just not on the agenda.
We accept that if you meet socially and get to know people on that basis then kissing may take on a different meaning.
I don't know why it is different in bi scenario's but Mrs Hot loves an intense snog with a woman and we have no problem meeting women (couples) time and time again because they happen to be regulars at the Club we go to. With a man though she does not want them anywhere near her face, kissing is just not on the agenda and the entire scenario is about her being 'used' by cocks and that is what she loves. We never meet a guy a second time so 'he' always remains a stranger.
WE have been told on this Site many times before that this is cold and unfeeling, but hey, it is our life and there are always willing cocks in a Club to fulfil our fantasies without having to make friends and start kissing people

30 Jun 2006

I wrote a whole big post on this last night just before the site went tits up and I've slept since then so can't remember exactly what I said but the condensed version follows.
I love snogging, could snog for hours and hours and it doesn't necessarily have to go further than just that, although I tend to get so incredibly turned on by snogging it invariably leads to sex. However, if it's a guy I'm with other than fektart then I tend to reserve snogging for foreplay and possibly after play... he's actually the only guy I'll snog during play if that makes any sense. However if I'm playing with girls then it's completely different, lots of snogging before, during and after.
Kissing is so incredibly sexual and sensual for me and that's what I look for in my play.
I know that some people don't like it, some people do. Doesn't the fact we're all different make it an exciting and fresh experience each time we try out a new partner or two?

30 Jun 2006

Quote by celestria
. However if I'm playing with girls then it's completely different, lots of snogging before, during and after.
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30 Jun 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren

. However if I'm playing with girls then it's completely different, lots of snogging before, during and after.
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Ladies... can't we make this a 3-way snogathon?

30 Jun 2006

Quote by de_sade
:On a serious note however, kissing is considered by many to be a very intimate - if not THE most intimate act ( even more than fellatio Da69ve ) - and it is therefore not uncommon for couples engaged in a swinging lifestyle to indulge in all except the act of kissing. Something to do with leaving one "untouched" portion of their sex lives to be indulged in only by them. Can't knock 'em though for that. One man's meat et al...
De_sade

Thank you. Our sentiments exactly

30 Jun 2006

Quote by Dawn_Mids
Just can't beat a real long, passionate snogging session
:twisted:

Is that so :rascal:
:giggle:
DAWNIE

30 Jun 2006

Quote by the_Laird
Just can't beat a real long, passionate snogging session
:twisted:

Is that so :rascal:
:giggle:
DAWNIE

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
I feel like I am floating :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy:
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

30 Jun 2006

Quote by Dawn_Mids
Just can't beat a real long, passionate snogging session
:twisted:

Is that so :rascal:
:giggle:
DAWNIE
wink

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30 Jun 2006

Well I know that kissing is very key to Mrs TnH as well, so while we dont play (although we have talked about it) she is unhappy with the thought of kissing someone else. So I follow the whole no kissing as a concept, although I love to kiss and share... Ahh the dilema's of life smile

However speaking from the sidelines of swinging a no kissing rule to me is no different to any other boundary. We all have things we will and wont do, and for some someone elses boundaries will mean they wont want to play or spend time with them. I suppose if you an oral maniac then someone who says I hate oral is not someone you will most likely swing with ...
Just part of the slide and thrust of the swingers lifestyle :)

30 Jun 2006

Quote by Dawn_Mids
Just can't beat a real long, passionate snogging session
:twisted:

Is that so :rascal:
:giggle:
DAWNIE

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
I feel like I am floating :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy:
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
Gonna float North then please
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

30 Jun 2006

Quote by westerross

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
I feel like I am floating :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy:
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

Oh Jeeez!!! wink

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:flipa: :flipa:

30 Jun 2006

Quote by the_Laird

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
I feel like I am floating :crazy: :crazy: :crazy: :crazy:
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

Oh Jeeez!!! wink

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:flipa: :flipa:
Never has a finger so poignantly been stuck!! lol

:wink:
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30 Jun 2006

hi having read your message about kissing either in clubs or private swingers parties, I've found it great sexual turn on to see Janet kissing other women or men, but only with married couples etc, she will draw the line sex with singles fem/male. We have decided that swinging is done together and we except that all fun is ok. . :swingingchair:

30 Jun 2006

Quote by celestria
I wrote a whole big post on this last night just before the site went tits up and I've slept since then so can't remember exactly what I said but the condensed version follows.
I love snogging, could snog for hours and hours and it doesn't necessarily have to go further than just that, although I tend to get so incredibly turned on by snogging it invariably leads to sex.
However if I'm playing with girls then it's completely different, lots of snogging before, during and after.
Kissing is so incredibly sexual and sensual for me and that's what I look for in my play.

This sums it up perfectly for me, in fact, reading back on some of the responses have left me rather flushed!
I just love kissing, I really do.
On a slight digression, and I aim this really at those who kiss people of the same sex, do you prefer to kiss men or the ladies? Can you put your finger on why they're are different (assuming you do notice a difference!). I love kissing either (I'm a snog tart, I can't help it), but there is just something about kissing another woman that sends me into overdrive. But they have to be a good kisser, nothing worse than feeling you're being eaten alive or covered in saliva!
Whaddya think?

30 Jun 2006

Without (over)stating the obvious the kiss of a woman is far more sensous and soft. No offence to all the blokes out there but while your kisses can be gentle they aren't as soft as those of a lady ( although I am a willing candidate for any male that would like to try and convince me otherwise :twisted: )
I find men's kisses more passionate than ladies (again no offence meant-maybe I haven't found a passionate enough lady yet ? :twisted: )
I couldn't say that I prefer one over the other as all kisses are fabby and I need more of them ;)
Minx x x

30 Jun 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Without (over)stating the obvious the kiss of a woman is far more sensous and soft. No offence to all the blokes out there but while your kisses can be gentle they aren't as soft as those of a lady ( although I am a willing candidate for any male that would like to try and convince me otherwise :twisted: )
I find men's kisses more passionate than ladies (again no offence meant-maybe I haven't found a passionate enough lady yet ? :twisted: )
I couldn't say that I prefer one over the other as all kisses are fabby and I need more of them ;)
Minx x x

/waves madly at Minxy
Over here Minxy....................can I bring the missus as well??
:twisted: :twisted:

30 Jun 2006

Quote by the_Laird
Without (over)stating the obvious the kiss of a woman is far more sensous and soft. No offence to all the blokes out there but while your kisses can be gentle they aren't as soft as those of a lady ( although I am a willing candidate for any male that would like to try and convince me otherwise :twisted: )
I find men's kisses more passionate than ladies (again no offence meant-maybe I haven't found a passionate enough lady yet ? :twisted: )
I couldn't say that I prefer one over the other as all kisses are fabby and I need more of them ;)
Minx x x

/waves madly at Minxy
Over here Minxy....................can I bring the missus as well??
:twisted: :twisted:
Well it would be rude not too really :twisted: :twisted:

You are a bad bad man Lardy!! You know what weekend it is..
Minx x x

30 Jun 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx

/waves madly at Minxy
Over here Minxy....................can I bring the missus as well??
:twisted: :twisted:

Well it would be rude not too really :twisted: :twisted:
You are a bad bad man Lardy!! You know what weekend it is..
Minx x x
I know....I've thought about it all day :cry: :cry: :cry: