Do you notice when people stop posting?
People who were prolific on the forum sometimes disappear all of a sudden for whatever reason....
do you notice that you havent seen them for a few weeks and feel prompted to PM them, do you notice that thyeve gone and wonder to yourself whats happened
or do you not even notice theyve gone until someone says "wonder whatever happened to such and such" or someone reminds you of a thread where you see their names, and think "oh wow, THAT names a blast from the past"
Im not very observant on things like that, but i do notice the odd one or two of my fave people when they havent posted in a while, but on the whole, it takes someone else to jog my memory LOL
What about you lot!
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Do you notice when people are missing?
Quote by splendid_
nope,
I don't notice. I certainly wouldn't PM someone unless they were on my radar anyway and then I would know why they weren't posting cos they would be a mate so I wouldn't need to PM them specifically.
I think that is understandable.
As clear as mud.................as eloquent as ever..am sure you know what you meant
RWL
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Quote by redwine_lover
nope,
I don't notice. I certainly wouldn't PM someone unless they were on my radar anyway and then I would know why they weren't posting cos they would be a mate so I wouldn't need to PM them specifically.
I think that is understandable.
As clear as mud.................as eloquent as ever..am sure you know what you meant
RWL
xxx
git
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People come and go often, I don't worry unless someone I know hasn't been around for maybe weeks. The odd day or two or three wouldn't worry me.
Also people huff, puff and flounce so I think sometimes it's best to leave them until they've calmed down.
It's like you say Boney, I'm way too busy sometimes and don't always notice that people haven't been in as I don't actually read each and every thread content.
Also people huff, puff and flounce so I think sometimes it's best to leave them until they've calmed down.
It's like you say Boney, I'm way too busy sometimes and don't always notice that people haven't been in as I don't actually read each and every thread content.
I am patchy on here timewise, this is one of what have been my first few posts in weeks on here.A lot of names I knew from the old days seem long gone, people I met even.
We all have so much going on in our modern, busy lives.I also admit to experiencing mixed emotions about my being on SH, my personal issues in my life that's all.
There are a few people I keep in touch with regardless of our having first contacting through this there being so many members there's a very good chance you'll make at least a couple of genuine, lasting friends.
I have!
We all have so much going on in our modern, busy lives.I also admit to experiencing mixed emotions about my being on SH, my personal issues in my life that's all.
There are a few people I keep in touch with regardless of our having first contacting through this there being so many members there's a very good chance you'll make at least a couple of genuine, lasting friends.
I have!
Sex God
I always notice when my favourite people are missing, and I'll try to contact them to make sure they're ok.
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Sex God
There a indeed some people I really miss in the forum I have to admit because I do look forward to seeing them post. I just wish there were lots more new people posting too I like that. whether regurgitating old topics or not.
Master of Sex
Occasionally, somebody will resuscitate an old post from years ago. It's interesting to look back and see who is still around ............. and how many of them have been banned! 
Sex God
Quote by splendid_
nope,
I don't notice. I certainly wouldn't PM someone unless they were on my radar anyway and then I would know why they weren't posting cos they would be a mate so I wouldn't need to PM them specifically.
I think that is understandable.
I think I subscribe to this!
The other thing that wakes me up to the 'lost' is when an old thread gets resurrected - and I think 'Ohh shit I remember/like them - where's they bin?'
Having said that the real buzz about this place is the new faces that appear - all potentially new friends to add to the growing list of quality people.
Sarah - stop puking into that bag!! :wink:
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In my experience it's out of sight and out of mind. 
Yes I'm refering to you, yes you know who I mean. Those people who never PM to see how I am or indeed answer my PMs :x :x :x :x
Rant over
It's the nature of the site, people come and people go. You rarely build a really strong bond with people. After all most of the people you read or write to are only names on a computer.
Yes I'm refering to you, yes you know who I mean. Those people who never PM to see how I am or indeed answer my PMs :x :x :x :x
Rant over
It's the nature of the site, people come and people go. You rarely build a really strong bond with people. After all most of the people you read or write to are only names on a computer.
Sex God
Quote by keeno
It's the nature of the site, people come and people go. You rarely build a really strong bond with people. After all most of the people you read or write to are only names on a computer.
I so agree with you though I cant help but think that with some I have made a 'bond' with thats why when I don't see them (especially in chat and maybe three in forum)It has an effect on me. At one time I would of said that this isn't my 'real life' but guess what it is. Sad or not as some might see it, I expend time out of the hours i have left on this planet here on S-H and for te most part I enjoy it.
The site has made me laugh sigh swear and cry in different quantities admitted but it all goes to make me who I am. And the people here are integral to that.
Quote by keeno
In my experience it's out of sight and out of mind.
Yes I'm refering to you, yes you know who I mean. Those people who never PM to see how I am or indeed answer my PMs :x :x :x :x
Rant over
It's the nature of the site, people come and people go. You rarely build a really strong bond with people. After all most of the people you read or write to are only names on a computer.
That's really unfair Keeno, esp on the people who take the time to PM you AND always answer your PM's and make sure they look out for you!
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
In my experience it's out of sight and out of mind.
Yes I'm refering to you, yes you know who I mean. Those people who never PM to see how I am or indeed answer my PMs :x :x :x :x
Rant over
It's the nature of the site, people come and people go. You rarely build a really strong bond with people. After all most of the people you read or write to are only names on a computer.
That's really unfair Keeno, esp on the people who take the time to PM you AND always answer your PM's and make sure they look out for you!
A plain odd post I think from keeno, but if it helps getting your arse out in public I guess then its therapy
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
Do you notice when people stop posting?
People who were prolific on the forum sometimes disappear all of a sudden for whatever reason....
do you notice that you havent seen them for a few weeks and feel prompted to PM them, do you notice that thyeve gone and wonder to yourself whats happened
or do you not even notice theyve gone until someone says "wonder whatever happened to such and such" or someone reminds you of a thread where you see their names, and think "oh wow, THAT names a blast from the past"
Im not very observant on things like that, but i do notice the odd one or two of my fave people when they havent posted in a while, but on the whole, it takes someone else to jog my memory LOL
What about you lot!
Hmm, interesting post. I'm guilty of both to be honest and it does make me feel a little guilty at times
The last time I dropped off the radar I was going through some very rough personal issues and was surprised and overwhelmed by the amount of PM's and emails just saying stuff like 'hey, noticed you're MIA, everything ok?'
These short messages made a HUGE impact on me, especially those from people with whom I'd had no prior contact. To be honest these really helped to get me through a very tough time.
I have done it in the past, noticed missing people, and I have mailed them so see if they are ok, but all to often I don't notice and that makes me feel bad
ops:I guess a lot depends on whats going on in our own lives at the time, sounds selfish i know but i think at a time when we have our own stuff going on it's more difficult to pay attention to who's about and who's not.
Sex God
Interesting, Mrs B...
I do notice when people stop posting. However, I'm a bit unsure if I would contact anyone. I think that's a bit intrusive. Despite the fact that I use this site regularly, enjoy the forums etc and consider that I have made friends with people that also use the forum etc, I do keep a perspective on this place. If I am busy or other things take over, or if I just get bored for a bit then I won't post. I don't need to be checked up on.
Tough one. I do miss people's posts. But I do also try and remember that this is just an internet forum and sometimes other stuff (i.e. life!) just needs to be a priority!
I do admit though, that when someone you've missed starts posting again, it is great to read them again!
Nola x
I do notice when people stop posting. However, I'm a bit unsure if I would contact anyone. I think that's a bit intrusive. Despite the fact that I use this site regularly, enjoy the forums etc and consider that I have made friends with people that also use the forum etc, I do keep a perspective on this place. If I am busy or other things take over, or if I just get bored for a bit then I won't post. I don't need to be checked up on.
Tough one. I do miss people's posts. But I do also try and remember that this is just an internet forum and sometimes other stuff (i.e. life!) just needs to be a priority!I do admit though, that when someone you've missed starts posting again, it is great to read them again!
Nola x
I often wonder!
I was also chatting to a guy the other night he seemed really nice and had a great friendly chat with him.
I added him as a friend and a couple of days later went into his profile to sent a pm just to say enjoyed the chat the other evening. I was suprised to find he had gone, no details on this database came up.
He only joined the site in July 2008 surely he would have paid for a month, how has be disapeared so quickly
I am not that scary, at least I don't think I am.
I was also chatting to a guy the other night he seemed really nice and had a great friendly chat with him.
I added him as a friend and a couple of days later went into his profile to sent a pm just to say enjoyed the chat the other evening. I was suprised to find he had gone, no details on this database came up.
He only joined the site in July 2008 surely he would have paid for a month, how has be disapeared so quickly
I am not that scary, at least I don't think I am.
