I have on maybe 4 occasions while being in the forums send a pm to someone because I felt the need to do so.
Normally it is because I have been inspired by what they have written, or moved by what they have said.
I always feel a little embarrassed sending a private message as I feel I am somewhat invading their space, so generally I would respond in the forums.
Likewise I get very few pm’s from people from here too.
I would rather be open in public with my thoughts and feelings, so very rarely feel such a need to pm someone.
Do you ever feel the need to send someone a private message?
Do you enjoy it when you receive them?
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have on maybe 4 occasions while being in the forums send a pm to someone because I felt the need to do so.
Normally it is because I have been inspired by what they have written, or moved by what they have said.
I always feel a little embarrassed sending a private message as I feel I am somewhat invading their space, so generally I would respond in the forums.
Likewise I get very few pm’s from people from here too.
I would rather be open in public with my thoughts and feelings, so very rarely feel such a need to pm someone.
Do you ever feel the need to send someone a private message?
Do you enjoy it when you receive them?
On very rare occassions I have done this!
Yesterday was one of those very rare occassions!
I agree with you Minx, I prefer to post responses by the forum rather than privately, but quite like it when I get the odd PM about something I have typed, whether bad or good!!
Lucys post.
Sex God
I think it depends on the topic and what I feel I need to say to the individual. I have sometimes felt it easier to PM someone directly, either because what I need to say is slightly personal, or because I have so much to say that I feel it's inappropriate in an open forum and would bore people or would be so long that they wouldn't bother to read it anyway.
Also there are times when what I have to say doesn't warrant a debate, or angry retort (which seems to happen a lot these days), but is meant purely as information to the specific individual. So I think there are many reasons really, and has nothing to do with being open but more to do with being more targeted in one's messaging.
Also there are times when what I have to say doesn't warrant a debate, or angry retort (which seems to happen a lot these days), but is meant purely as information to the specific individual. So I think there are many reasons really, and has nothing to do with being open but more to do with being more targeted in one's messaging.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have on maybe 4 occasions while being in the forums send a pm to someone because I felt the need to do so.
Normally it is because I have been inspired by what they have written, or moved by what they have said.
I always feel a little embarrassed sending a private message as I feel I am somewhat invading their space, so generally I would respond in the forums.
Likewise I get very few pm’s from people from here too.
I would rather be open in public with my thoughts and feelings, so very rarely feel such a need to pm someone.
Do you ever feel the need to send someone a private message?
Do you enjoy it when you receive them?
I ...pm people quite a bit now and they do me ....mostly people I know or have met , I dont think there is anything wrong in it unless told no to do so by the may be a fine line between being friendly and being a pest ?,
but for the most I think its a gr8 way of chatting without making it public :shock:.
and it keeps the conversation private and between yourselfs, yes there are the chats but this and the forums are public places and you have to be carefull what you write esp in the forum as its there for all to see and return to weeks after the thread is done and dusted , but for me a p.m is a very usefull thing to have and wouldnt be without it .
steve x
I've sent a few pm's because I've read something by someone and wanted them to know that I thought what they contributed was enjoyable, well put and a good read. I've also received a few from lovely folk who think I am quite potty because of the nonsense I have typed in here of late, they are quite correct of course.
I tend to send the PM to people if what I say has nothing to do with the thread it is in. Otherwise I will post the comment within the thread. That seems the common sense approach to me.
I tend to send the PM to people if what I say has nothing to do with the thread it is in. Otherwise I will post the comment within the thread. That seems the common sense approach to me.
Sex God
All the time! :giggle:
Sometimes if I see a post which I think is informative or I agree with their views, I'll PM them rather than post it in the forums. People often forget that as a moderator, I am also a member like you and I have my own views and feelings which may or may not reflect 'the management'. Rather than folk misreading a genuine post from me and interpreting it as the 'partyline' I let folk know privately.
Mal
Mal
Quote by Mal
Sometimes if I see a post which I think is informative or I agree with their views, I'll PM them rather than post it in the forums. People often forget that as a moderator, I am also a member like you and I have my own views and feelings which may or may not reflect 'the management'. Rather than folk misreading a genuine post from me and interpreting it as the 'partyline' I let folk know privately.
Mal
:shock: I never get those ones.
But then I am pleased nobody agrees with me must mean I am unique :giggle:
or just odd
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Sometimes if I see a post which I think is informative or I agree with their views, I'll PM them rather than post it in the forums. People often forget that as a moderator, I am also a member like you and I have my own views and feelings which may or may not reflect 'the management'. Rather than folk misreading a genuine post from me and interpreting it as the 'partyline' I let folk know privately.
Mal
:shock: I never get those ones.
But then I am pleased nobody agrees with me must mean I am unique :giggle:
or just odd
You'd forget anyway!!
Sex God
i have recieved pm's and thought it lovely that peeps took the time out to do so really made my day
Quote by Mal
Sometimes if I see a post which I think is informative or I agree with their views, I'll PM them rather than post it in the forums. People often forget that as a moderator, I am also a member like you and I have my own views and feelings which may or may not reflect 'the management'. Rather than folk misreading a genuine post from me and interpreting it as the 'partyline' I let folk know privately.
Mal
Or you just buy em a roll of Izal
I very occasionally will PM someone about a post they've done, for pretty much the same reason as Mal, if somethings not entirely in line with 'management', but I totally see where they're coming from, regardless of whether I agree or disagree, I'll drop a PM. Cos of the modding thing, I wouldn't want a personal post to be attacked purely on the basis it isn't in line with the 'ideal'.
Quote by BIoke
I do sometimes if they make me grin or I think there's a lot of thought gone into them.
I've had a little flutter/barrage of them recently in regard to my posts on mr 'falsepisces' thread in LMU who has recently appeared on the Forums.
Not putting this one in a PM!
Bloke I commend you with your use of the English language, in your other post!
If you were into ladies, I would jump in my car and kiss you!!!
Sex God
Sometimes if what I have read interests me and I want to know more.
Yes, i have often felt the "need" to pm someone after reading there threads, though dont always go through with it. When i have however, its because my answer is somewhat "personal" as such, in a way to say that i have listened to what they are saying and my response may help them in some way, but may not want it to be public information. hope that makes some sort of sense.
Sex God
Yes, not often but I do.
