Do you take him and him to be your lawful wedded husbands?

28 Jan 2008

As swingers do some of us think that polygamy is ok? I mean that if we feel it is ok to practice polyamory then why not if all copncerned are ok about it allow polygamy?
I've been trying to formulate an opinion on this. At the moment - nada.
confused

28 Jan 2008

IMO, this is a very different issue to swinging.
Any kind of multiple marriage/relationship suggest intimacy, love, care etc that is not part of nsa sex thang that most people here seem to want.
I would suggest the majority of couples would say they're against the idea of any kind of polyamory but ... each to their own wink

28 Jan 2008

Quote by Marya_Northeast
IMO, this is a very different issue to swinging.
Any kind of multiple marriage/relationship suggest intimacy, love, care etc that is not part of nsa sex thang that most people here seem to want.
I would suggest the majority of couples would say they're against the idea of any kind of polyamory but ... each to their own

That's about the strength of it for me too, each to their own.

28 Jan 2008

polyamory is something I believe in as a concept. It isn't something that is to do with my experience of swinging tho' and just as my g/f was someone whom I met and established a relationship with in 'real life' I would neither expect or seek anyone to fall in love with 'here'.
Polygomy is something different entirely and is traditionally about a man having numerous wives. The wives don't have that 'choice'. As I believe in equal rights for all, Polygomy is something for people who believe that a man has more rights and choice than women.

28 Jan 2008

Lost,
I think your opinion would perhaps formulate better if you clarified (to yourself) the difference between Polyamory & sex with other people.
Poly meaning "many" & "Amory" meaning love (obviously.)
Swingers don't "love" everyone they have sex with, do they? In fact, I think if declarations of love were bandied about all over t'shop I think there would be havoc! :shock:
:thumbup:

28 Jan 2008

Quote by winchwench
I think if declarations of love were bandied about all over t'shop I think there would be havoc! :shock:
:thumbup:

I just :love: that avatar ;-)

28 Jan 2008

poly who :lickface: thought it was another healthy low fat butter :doh:
1 wife is bad enough bolt

imagine having 3 more to go shopping with innocent

28 Jan 2008

Quote by Lost
As swingers do some of us think that polygamy is ok? I mean that if we feel it is ok to practice polyamory then why not if all copncerned are ok about it allow polygamy?
I've been trying to formulate an opinion on this. At the moment - nada.

I havn't read any other replies in case I get sidetracked from my original reaction to the question.....which is in my own situation no it would definitely not work. I have learned that my marriage and our relationship is something that although has been touched by swinging ...in a good way....is not part of our swinging existance. I am willing to share sex with others but not my whole relationship.
I do however love to see Stormy form relationships with others on here...men included because I am still learning about what makes him tick even after all this time and seeing him interacting with others is a great way to do this.
Love
Fire xx

28 Jan 2008

Quote by Steve
I think if declarations of love were bandied about all over t'shop I think there would be havoc! :shock:
:thumbup:

I just :love: that avatar ;-)
smackbottom

Still trying to work out why it makes my fishnets look like a p***ed up spiders web though! dunno

28 Jan 2008

Quote by winchwench
I think if declarations of love were bandied about all over t'shop I think there would be havoc! :shock:
:thumbup:

I just :love: that avatar ;-)
smackbottom

Still trying to work out why it makes my fishnets look like a p***ed up spiders web though! dunno

my worse half said maybes the background :dunno:

28 Jan 2008

Quote by winchwench
Lost,
I think your opinion would perhaps formulate better if you clarified (to yourself) the difference between Polyamory & sex with other people.
Poly meaning "many" & "Amory" meaning love (obviously.)
Swingers don't "love" everyone they have sex with, do they? In fact, I think if declarations of love were bandied about all over t'shop I think there would be havoc! :shock:
:thumbup:

I appreciate what your saying here. I did however lookup the meaning before posting and found that the meaning - participation in multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships - Or being uppermost in my mind as i posted. Though i can see how it could be misconstrued, I should of been more explicit maybe.

28 Jan 2008

Quote by splendid_
polyamory is something I believe in as a concept. It isn't something that is to do with my experience of swinging tho' and just as my g/f was someone whom I met and established a relationship with in 'real life' I would neither expect or seek anyone to fall in love with 'here'.
Polygomy is something different entirely and is traditionally about a man having numerous wives. The wives don't have that 'choice'. As I believe in equal rights for all, Polygomy is something for people who believe that a man has more rights and choice than women.

I am in total agreement with you as regards equal rights. However, the literary term polygamy is not based soley upon the male having multiple wives/partners, and it is with regard to either sex that i used it.
Even though maybe through our understanding of polygamy we may presume that it is predominantly, a male with multiple female parners tendancy. History and religion exacerbate this idea. And lets face it religion is not the most egalitarian of ideologies when it comes to women.
I am more interested to find out whether the idea of a. for want of a better word. "relationship" would feel wrong in the main for swingers. Or whether, because as such, and the fact that we have multiple sex partners, makes a difference to how we feel towards this.
Though i belive i am far to possesive over my marriage to J and want no one sharing in it. I however dont find it appalling, as maybe i once would pre-swing. and if i knew of such people practicing it I don't think i'd be bothered unduly.
Unless it was through the religious avenue and/or the subjugation of either sex - then i would be offended

28 Jan 2008

I think its about whats right for each person. If you have two people who it's right for..who also happen to be married to each other then it would work for that couple. If it's right for only one of the couple and the other isnt happy with the idea then it wouldnt work. I wouldnt be shocked and appalled to hear of others in such relationships but I know it wouldnt work for me smile

To explain further...I need to have one person in my life who puts me first. If that person is my husband and then he takes another wife he can no longer put me first and it wouldnt be fair if he did....Oooh thats given me an idea for another thread....... brb