Do you tell?

27 Jul 2004

After seeing the thread about secrets in a relationship, I wondered if people choose to tell their everyday friends that they swing.
We don't, not because we are ashamed that we are doing something wrong, but because we don't think that they will understand something that is considered against the normal moral constraints.

27 Jul 2004

With me being single ,Ive told my closest friend - so there is someone who knows where I am all the time
Other than that I dont think anyone would understand - if you broach the subject with them generally they are totally against what Im doing.
All I can say is that they dont know what they are missing.

27 Jul 2004

Quote by TheFacilitator
After seeing the thread about secrets in a relationship, I wondered if people choose to tell their everyday friends that they swing.
We don't, not because we are ashamed that we are doing something wrong, but because we don't think that they will understand something that is considered against the normal moral constraints.

We haven`t shared either. Much for the same reasons. If they found out, I wouldtryto put the point of it all across, but no doubt fail miserably, life is too short. It`s our sex-life, noone elses (so to speak!) and as such we are perfectly entitled to choose who we share it with. Besides which, they would never understand Mars bi-curiosity, most of them are homophobic rolleyes

. Plus We don`t have that many friends anyway! lol

Then there`s the kids. I wouldn`t have a problem if one day they progressed to swinging when they are adults (yes I would, they have to remain virgins until they are at LEAST 80). Sex ed is hard enough. I don`t want to have to justify swinging to them, when they haven`t even (or are just beginning to) grasp/ed the fundementals, it`d confuse matters.
Venusxxx

27 Jul 2004

Vix & I have no qualms with talking about it with our friends, and most everyone who frequents the pub in our little village knows about us. Although none of the other locals share in our lifestyle, it was wonderful to find them truly accepting of our own choices (probably provides for a fair bit of entertaining gossip when we're not there, too!). biggrin

Thus, we've never kept it a secret from our friends, and I know that Vix discusses it freely in her workplace as well. It's nice to feel such freedom to be totally honest with people. And, who knows? The more people that know (and talk) about us the easier it might be to find potential "playmates"! ;)
~Reese! surprised

27 Jul 2004

I have to admit, that is a position I`d much rather be in, the freedom must be refreshing. Unfortunately for us, it`s not likely to work like that in reality. It`s not a huge issue however, we have so many friends here that more than make up for our lack of freedom elsewhere.
Venusxxx

27 Jul 2004

Well I told my best friend but she seemed very shocked so I just let the subject drop and haven't mentioned it again......
And then of course there is the guy that found out about me at Uni, he hasn't mentioned anything to me since but he was pretty shocked at the time.....
I prefer to keep my Swinging Life to myself.....

27 Jul 2004

Yeah, most of my non-swinging friends know, as do some of the people at my work....... well, got to give them something to brighten up their dull little non-swinging lives :grin: :grin: :grin:

27 Jul 2004

i tell my friends what i want them to know
i find thats the best policy :twisted:

27 Jul 2004

I don't call myself a swinger anyway ... I'm just a filthy bugger :P
(all my mates know exactly what I'm like ... I'm not proud)

27 Jul 2004

We havent told anyone!
We see it as our private life and our business!!
And especially with having kids we wouldnt want any nonesense getting back to them in any way shape or form!
Also im sure my mother wouldnt approve so its probably safer that no one knows,we quite enjoy having our dirty little secret!!
Clare,xxx
wink

27 Jul 2004

Well no one knows...apart from you lot on here about my liking of a pink tutu..wet look waders full of yellow custard..souwester..flippers...bright red crotchless knickers AND snorkle....
I take my hat off to those who can share, bur sometimes you just wanna keep it quiet??? wink

27 Jul 2004

None of our friends and family know about us being swingers......oooohhh no!
We do use it to our advantage to wind each other up and have a joke around though. Things like mentioning swinging, heaven and peoples nicks while surrounded by friends and family always makes the other one laugh and nobody has a clue why! ......Unless they're secret room users too :doh:

27 Jul 2004

We have maybe 2 or 3 people who know .... those who know what we are like and are open minded enough to accept it as "normal adult behaviour".
Others we wouldn't tell as it's none of their business or their minds are so closed it's not worth the hassle.
Those who do know .... well they are envious, join in our little jokes etc and are pretty much on the level.

28 Jul 2004

There are quiet a few people that i know who know that i swing.I think a few of then are curious about it but wouldnt take the final step and actually do it.