I watched a fly on the wall documentary last night. It was about a family with 4 children. One of the daughters was 19 still at home, and seemed to rule the parents.
She was able to do what she liked come in and go out anytime she wished. She was going out around 10-11pm clubbing every night and some of the time wasn’t getting home until morning, phoning work sick and laying in bed all day. Then she lost her job, and never contributed a penny to the house.
The parents were pulling their hair out and it caused stress between them and unset the family balance. Neither of the parents were strong enough to put their foot down and say she was not going out.
I could not believe they let her do this within the home, I know at 19 they should be treated at adults but there is no way I would let one of my children treat this house and us that way, it just wouldn’t have got that far.
My attitude is when they leave home that have total control in their own lives then they can do what they wish, while living here our rules apply.
Am I wrong in saying this?
Are there really parents out there that let their teenagers rule?
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Do you watch the family last night? I am gobsmacked
I watched this to. Their relationship with their daughter is totally different from that of me and my son, although I know I only have one child so it might be easier for me, but I just wouldn't allow it.
I would like to think I have taught him the importance of being independent as well and that I will support him while he is in education, but the moment he gets a job he will be expected to contribute to living expenses.
My son is 15 now and even while I was working away on Sunday last week he called me to ask permission to go into town. It's reassuring to know that we do communicate and he understands that I need to know what he is doing and where he is.
I would like to think I have taught him the importance of being independent as well and that I will support him while he is in education, but the moment he gets a job he will be expected to contribute to living expenses.
My son is 15 now and even while I was working away on Sunday last week he called me to ask permission to go into town. It's reassuring to know that we do communicate and he understands that I need to know what he is doing and where he is.
That was actually a repeat Minxy petal, the main one is on a Wednesday, No.2 is on tonight!.. 
I really enjoyed it actually, it made my life seem a bit quiet that's for sure! And no, not a chance would I let my child rule the roost OR speak to me like that!
Although I will hopefully see the other episodes, it has left me feeling frustrated somewhat, I feel I need to shake those parents to get a grip! :wink:
By saying no it the easier option in the long run.
I really enjoyed it actually, it made my life seem a bit quiet that's for sure! And no, not a chance would I let my child rule the roost OR speak to me like that!
Although I will hopefully see the other episodes, it has left me feeling frustrated somewhat, I feel I need to shake those parents to get a grip! :wink:
By saying no it the easier option in the long run.
it showed how the rowscan start between the parents when it comes to guiding and disaplining the children.
he saw how upset the mrs was getting so went to have words with daughter then mrs comes in saying leave her alone lol
i guess its one advantage in being a loan mum,its my rules and there no playing one off against the other.
its tough but i do wonder how i would cope if i had someone who had different parenting ideas to mine.
its not something you sit and discuss when decideing to have babies is it?
it also shows that even parents from respectable 2 parent households can get it wrong.
its a hard balance to strike, lettng them spread their wings and towing the line.
i will defo be watchng again tonight. im just plain nosey.
xx xfem xx
he saw how upset the mrs was getting so went to have words with daughter then mrs comes in saying leave her alone lol
i guess its one advantage in being a loan mum,its my rules and there no playing one off against the other.
its tough but i do wonder how i would cope if i had someone who had different parenting ideas to mine.
its not something you sit and discuss when decideing to have babies is it?
it also shows that even parents from respectable 2 parent households can get it wrong.
its a hard balance to strike, lettng them spread their wings and towing the line.
i will defo be watchng again tonight. im just plain nosey.
xx xfem xx
I really enjoyed this programme but as has been already mentioned it was rather frustrating to watch. My eldest son is 22 and still asks me if its ok for his girlfriend to stay over, he always lets me know if hes staying out or going to be late. Think it all comes down to respect in the end. I like to think my kids to respect me and they do toe the line and im not strict with them at all!! Maybe ive just been very lucky..
Suze xx
Suze xx
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
I watched a fly on the wall documentary last night. It was about a family with 4 children. One of the daughters was 19 still at home, and seemed to rule the parents.
She was able to do what she liked come in and go out anytime she wished. She was going out around 10-11pm clubbing every night and some of the time wasn’t getting home until morning, phoning work sick and laying in bed all day. Then she lost her job, and never contributed a penny to the house.
The parents were pulling their hair out and it caused stress between them and unset the family balance. Neither of the parents were strong enough to put their foot down and say she was not going out.
I could not believe they let her do this within the home, I know at 19 they should be treated at adults but there is no way I would let one of my children treat this house and us that way, it just wouldn’t have got that far.
My attitude is when they leave home that have total control in their own lives then they can do what they wish, while living here our rules apply.
Am I wrong in saying this? NoAre there really parents out there that let their teenagers rule? Yes
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My feeling is that, as an adult, if she paid her way she can treat the house as if she is a lodger - coming and going as she pleases. Or as a member of the family, mucking in with the housework etc.
Choosing not to contribute, choosing to lose her job and laying about like a slob is unacceptable in the extreme.
My son is lazy about getting a job (at college now) but at least he did some stuff round the house, paid a portion of his Jobseekers as board and didn't go clubbing.
Choosing not to contribute, choosing to lose her job and laying about like a slob is unacceptable in the extreme.
My son is lazy about getting a job (at college now) but at least he did some stuff round the house, paid a portion of his Jobseekers as board and didn't go clubbing.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I watched a fly on the wall documentary last night. It was about a family with 4 children. One of the daughters was 19 still at home, and seemed to rule the parents.
She was able to do what she liked come in and go out anytime she wished. She was going out around 10-11pm clubbing every night and some of the time wasn’t getting home until morning, phoning work sick and laying in bed all day. Then she lost her job, and never contributed a penny to the house.
The parents were pulling their hair out and it caused stress between them and unset the family balance. Neither of the parents were strong enough to put their foot down and say she was not going out.
I could not believe they let her do this within the home, I know at 19 they should be treated at adults but there is no way I would let one of my children treat this house and us that way, it just wouldn’t have got that far.
My attitude is when they leave home that have total control in their own lives then they can do what they wish, while living here our rules apply.
Am I wrong in saying this?
Are there really parents out there that let their teenagers rule?
Of course there are Minx.
Bottom line is this...if they dont want to live with the rules of the house, then pack their bags and naff off. But the problem lies with the parents inabilities, to tackle the issues and then allow the child to run amok.
Tell them it is our house and not yoursd, and if you dont like it then pack your bags, and find somewhere of you own. Bet they will soon show some respect, but a lot of parents just do not have the bottle to do it.
