I never use the winks. I don't reply to them either... I delete them without checking the profile. I wrote a bit in my profile explaining that so I guess if someone really wants to know me then they'll have read it and send me something exciting. I figure that's not too much to ask in the grand scheme of things and see winks as a bit of a copout. I do try to reply to all my PMs which have a bit of substance and take it from there but I always think it's worth putting a bit of effort in! :smile:
I wink quite a bit. Being an Extras member you can 'personalise' the wink and make it very unwink like - which I have done. Therefore I find winks very useful!
I don't wink and I don't like getting them either. To me, if someone wants to get my attention ( and vice versa ) a personalised pm is so much nicer. The normal winks remind me of corny chat up lines and are as likely to get my drawers off as free tickets to the Ashes :sleeping:
...more of a twitch really....
I put it down to nerves
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we sometimes wink but we have customised our wink to say sumat nice
Hi Swindownnewbies
I am in the “don’t like winks” camp. I feel if someone cannot take the time to write a relevant and interesting reply to our detailed and informative ad then we’re unlikely to click. We have clearly stated who we are and what we are looking for and I expect people to do the same (after all we are all here to do our sexual shopping and want to get to the checkout with the best goods on offer and least amount of hassle). It wastes far less time if people are clear and concise in writing their ads and their replies to others ads.
Winks say to me either people are not willing to put in the time and effort because it is hard work let’s face it. Maybe some approach it with a spam attitude, if you throw enough at the wall… I also cannot see the point of winking someone only to have a black profile with no pictures in return. Hardly likely to make a sale!
However I have had a few winks from people who are newbies not understanding the system, which is a fair point so I often check the winks anyway to see if there are any green hot looking couples! I often replied to such winks saying “please tell us something about you” which one couple took umbrage to therefore I still cannot comprehend what they are winking for in the first place if they are not willing to share personal information.
I also think that it says a lot about people that initially “promote” themselves well, their character and sense of humour can really come across, after all we are all individuals and as the old sales/management adage goes “people buy people first”. This to has cemented our view as the couples we have played with all responded to our ad with interesting, well thought out replies that made us really want to chat further then meet up.
I agree with Scandal, people who say “we get so many we can’t reply to all” are most likely just lazy. I always reply to ads people have taken time to write, even a short thanks but no thanks. It is common courtesy. OK we don’t have loads of replies and certainly don’t always have a full PM box each time we refresh our ad, but perhaps that is because we are specific in our ad - we don’t want to waste our time or others time.
Off soap box now.
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. All the men fancied her. One day I was in reception and she winked at me. I couldn't believe it, my acne glowed red as she winked again. Could she really be winking at me. I looked round and there was nobody else there so who else could she be winking at. She winked again. Wicked willy began to swell. Then her hand went to her eye and she rubbed, she had something in her eye.
