Does it ever work

1 May 2010

My wife recently (November 2009) left me for another man, she now realise that she made a great mistake and wants to come back.
Does it ever work out a second time round ?

1 May 2010

I don,t know, I am sure some times it can
I would suggest you go with your heart or gut feeling
Good luck

1 May 2010

Richard Burton may be able to tell you, I can not.
There is only one way to find out! Try!
Travis

1 May 2010

Is it me, or is there less posting? It seems slower than ever.

1 May 2010

Quote by
Is it me, or is there less posting? It seems slower than ever.

The sun is shining and it's a Bank Holiday weekend. Maybe folk are out doing stuff? dunno

To the OP, I don't know. But I hope things work out for the best.

1 May 2010

Quote by noladreams
Is it me, or is there less posting? It seems slower than ever.

The sun is shining and it's a Bank Holiday weekend. Maybe folk are out doing stuff? dunno

To the OP, I don't know. But I hope things work out for the best.
I know I pressed 'new topic'
Yes they may be out, but I am working this week end, and all on my own. :sad:

1 May 2010

Sun has gone in here and started to rain
also
I believe our numbers have deminished dunno

1 May 2010

What you have to think op is not only did your wife cheat but also left and went and lived with the other person. Are you actually going to be able to cope with that in the long run? I know the % of relationships survive affairs is low ones where someone has left and come back dunno

Ref the Posting rate. People are protesting due to the recent bans.

1 May 2010

Quote by bushwackers
My wife recently (November 2009) left me for another man, she now realise that she made a great mistake and wants to come back.
Does it ever work out a second time round ?

If you both really want it to then yes it might.
It's a bit 'symptom and cause' really. If it were me, I'd want to understand why she left me and why she now wants to come back. Simple answers to those kind of questions that made sense would reaasure me. Even if it's as blunt as "I left you because the sex wasn't great any more and he was a great shag" .. and.. "I now realise that there's more to life at our age than sex on the kitchen worktops and I really love you." Just examples as I know nothing about you.
The only other advice I'd give is that what's happened, stays in the past and if you can't leave it there and it's going to come back up every time you have a squabble then it likely won't work.
My partner left me about 3 years ago and then realised he'd made a huge mistake after 6 months, although he said he realised it the day after I moved out but it took him 6 months to admit it to himself and others. There was nobody else involved and no arguments, he just 'didn't want to be with me any more'.
We're now Civil Partnered and happier than ever and can't imagine being with anyone else other than one another.
Good luck and I'd focus your time and energy talking to her rather than us right now (not meant in a funny way) smile

x

1 May 2010

My opinion is, its always worth a try. Maybe even two. But the on/off scenario isnt healthy and as i found out once, it only held me back in life. Lifes too short, so make it work as best you can. But you need to know where to draw the line and whats more, you need to know when the other person wants it to work as much as you do, and when they dont. Because, and this is key... if they dont, then you're selling yourself short. You'll never be happy as long as you are doing that.
I think the questions and answers that would make a difference to my decisions would be...
Why did she leave and go with him?, what was missing in order for her to do that?, do you think shes really sorry?, why did she actually stop seeing the other man? and ultimately Why does she want you back?.. thats the main thing. If she loves you and dont want to be without you, then thats the basis you need for a happy relationship.
Right, Follow your heart mate, but DO NOT ignore your head (the top one)
Magik

1 May 2010

Quote by bushwackers
My wife recently (November 2009) left me for another man, she now realise that she made a great mistake and wants to come back.
Does it ever work out a second time round ?

Yes.
I dare say it does for some people, not for others. I suppose the only way to find out is to try a second time and to do that the only person that can decide if its worth taking the emotional risk on is you.
For as many people who tell you it doesn't work I'm sure you could find the same number of success stories.
Best of luck with whatever you decide

1 May 2010

Whatever you decide, good luck.

Quote by tweeky
Ref the Posting rate. People are protesting due to the recent bans.

Nah, it's Bank Holiday weekend - always quiet. Even if you're right, people don't/won't protest for long - those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.

1 May 2010

Quote by Freckledbird
- those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.

Ya think? I can still remember Libra Love :eeek:

1 May 2010

Quote by the_Laird
- those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.

Ya think? I can still remember Libra Love :eeek:
Yeah, but - no, but..... :giggle:

1 May 2010

Quote by Freckledbird
- those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.

Ya think? I can still remember Libra Love :eeek:
Yeah, but - no, but..... :giggle:
Actually, you've now got me thinking about loads of banned members from yester-year :sad:

1 May 2010

Quote by Freckledbird
Whatever you decide, good luck.

Ref the Posting rate. People are protesting due to the recent bans.

Nah, it's Bank Holiday weekend - always quiet. Even if you're right, people don't/won't protest for long - those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.
I know I am at least partly right as people have posted in the forum and by PM saying that that is what they are doing.

2 May 2010

it worked for me and hubby, we split cos i could not live with his ways, but after we got back 8 years ago he changed cos he finaaly realised what he had and that he had to to change, we are so happy now

2 May 2010

Quote by tweeky
Whatever you decide, good luck.

Ref the Posting rate. People are protesting due to the recent bans.

Nah, it's Bank Holiday weekend - always quiet. Even if you're right, people don't/won't protest for long - those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.
I know I am at least partly right as people have posted in the forum and by PM saying that that is what they are doing.
Won't last long - they'll find something they want to post about and forget those who are banned.

2 May 2010

Quote by flower411
Whatever you decide, good luck.

Ref the Posting rate. People are protesting due to the recent bans.

Nah, it's Bank Holiday weekend - always quiet. Even if you're right, people don't/won't protest for long - those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.
I know I am at least partly right as people have posted in the forum and by PM saying that that is what they are doing.
Won't last long - they'll find something they want to post about and forget those who are banned.
Nobodies going to forget if every bloody thread has the subject brought up !! :giggle:
Well yesterday I was in Northampton, today I am popping to Birmingham and tomorrow I need to catch up on some jobs.
Oh my God, I really do have a life away from a website :eeek: :giggle:

2 May 2010

That'll never catch on Dawnie
xxx

Quote by Dawnie
Whatever you decide, good luck.

Ref the Posting rate. People are protesting due to the recent bans.

Nah, it's Bank Holiday weekend - always quiet. Even if you're right, people don't/won't protest for long - those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.
I know I am at least partly right as people have posted in the forum and by PM saying that that is what they are doing.
Won't last long - they'll find something they want to post about and forget those who are banned.
Nobodies going to forget if every bloody thread has the subject brought up !! :giggle:
Well yesterday I was in Northampton, today I am popping to Birmingham and tomorrow I need to catch up on some jobs.
Oh my God, I really do have a life away from a website :eeek: :giggle:

2 May 2010

Quote by the_Laird
That'll never catch on Dawnie
xxx
Whatever you decide, good luck.

Ref the Posting rate. People are protesting due to the recent bans.

Nah, it's Bank Holiday weekend - always quiet. Even if you're right, people don't/won't protest for long - those banned will soon be forgotten. They always are.
I know I am at least partly right as people have posted in the forum and by PM saying that that is what they are doing.
Won't last long - they'll find something they want to post about and forget those who are banned.
Nobodies going to forget if every bloody thread has the subject brought up !! :giggle:
Well yesterday I was in Northampton, today I am popping to Birmingham and tomorrow I need to catch up on some jobs.
Oh my God, I really do have a life away from a website :eeek: :giggle:
I'm not being funny and i may be hung drawn and quatered for this but, this poor guy has come on here for some advice and you lot have taken over his thread to discuss banned users, couldnt you have started a new thread for it.

2 May 2010

Quote by bushwackers
My wife recently (November 2009) left me for another man, she now realise that she made a great mistake and wants to come back.
Does it ever work out a second time round ?

This is the OP, please can comments only relate to this. Thank you.