Thread Locking and comments like “It’s been done to Death, use the search facility†appear to be more prevalent than in days of yore. Now it seems to me that short of actually having sex, one of the benefits of being here is discussing sex.
It stands to reason that there being relatively few deep and meaningful questions in this area, (even if millions of answers), that these questions will come up time and time again. Also new people come and others go all the time.
If we were here for knowledge only, then by now a search is all we’d ever need to do for information on any possible sex related subject, and the forum could be dispensed with completely.
Everyone loves to talk about themselves and explore what might be, so why deprive them of the chance just because the subject has been debated here five, ten or a hundred times before?
I have stopped taking a particular magazine because every year they cover the same topics and it bores me, that’s my decision, but clearly I’m not in the majority because the magazine wouldn’t keep doing it if people didn’t keep buying it.
So I would recommend against Mods getting touchy just because a subject has been aired any number of times. It doesn’t matter, if people don’t respond the subject will die, and if they do respond it follows they’re having fun and fulfilling the sites purpose.
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Quote by zootle
The suggestion bought up in another thread was to direct the poster of a commonly discussed subject to the previous thread and request they post their thoughts there.
Yes I understand that, it's a convenient response but it doesn't actually work does it? People want responses about the questions they ask, and they want to be heard. Threads work because we get engaged in them and they have immediacy, you just cannot pick up a three month old thread running to numerous pages and expect anyone to get engaged, or re-engaged in it. They become too long and to unwieldy for that.
Arguably it has all been said, but it hasn't been said TO ME, and it hasn't perhaps reflected a particular nuance or detail that I want to bring up. (For "ME" and "I" read "YOU" or "anyone").
If I've been away for a few days and see an interesting thread running to say five pages it has to be REALLY something to get me to wade through all those pages, and of course the responses that you'd like to make to post on page one has probably been covered by a post on page three. If one isn't engaged from near the beginning they just don't work.
As a relative newcomer and not yet established on the site if I was confronted with a link to an old site and a message saying that it had been covered before I would think twice about posting to it and resurrecting it.
I see no harm in letting these new threads run their natural course - As Musketeer said, if they are unpopular, unoriginal or just plain dull they will not receive and replies and sink without trace.
I see no harm in letting these new threads run their natural course - As Musketeer said, if they are unpopular, unoriginal or just plain dull they will not receive and replies and sink without trace.
There are many many threads that get repeated - the ones we mean by 'done to death' are usually the ones that crop up at least once a week. Just last week, a 'done to death' thread, shaved or unshaven, was started by two different people, within about an hour of each other. The 'what are you listening to now' threads, were cropping up almost daily :shock:
I personally don't mind threads starting up again, like you said, there are always different people adding their bit to the topic, but not as often as some of them seem to be - all I would ask the newer people to do is, if they haven't lurked and seen the threads that are started, to just read back a few pages. Not every post, just to see what has been covered, and if it is of interest to then read the replies. Or to do a search - then if the topics that come up are a bit older, then sure, bring the subject up again.
I reckon that's a good compromise?
I personally don't mind threads starting up again, like you said, there are always different people adding their bit to the topic, but not as often as some of them seem to be - all I would ask the newer people to do is, if they haven't lurked and seen the threads that are started, to just read back a few pages. Not every post, just to see what has been covered, and if it is of interest to then read the replies. Or to do a search - then if the topics that come up are a bit older, then sure, bring the subject up again.
I reckon that's a good compromise?
instead I would expect anyone who is joining the site with the intention of contributing to spend at least some time having a look around the site, thinking about what they want, and looking to see the types of things that have been said about it before.
I would not expect them to have an initmate knowledge of every subject ever covered - just the ones that are occur on a frequent basis, and are easily found with a search.
For example - a search on the word 'shave' brings 4 pages of post topics. Some with such obvious titles such as "to shave or not to shave" - "Shaving, advice please"
When a new title pops up along the same lines, it marks the poster out as lazy.
However, other questions which occur frequently, such as "My partner and I want to take our first steps into swinging, should we try clubs, one to one meets, parties, munches, dogging, or all of the above" are very personal to the individual, and I have no problem at all with this one being asked over and over again.
There is only one type of poster that I really avoid responding to at all, that is the person who seems to have done a google search on "dogging", clicked on SH, thought "worth a stab, nothing ventured, nothing gained", registered, and stuck a post on the site.
For me, the effort a person puts in to joining the site, is reflected in the effort I put in to making them want to stay.
lhk
Kat
I would not expect them to have an initmate knowledge of every subject ever covered - just the ones that are occur on a frequent basis, and are easily found with a search.
For example - a search on the word 'shave' brings 4 pages of post topics. Some with such obvious titles such as "to shave or not to shave" - "Shaving, advice please"
When a new title pops up along the same lines, it marks the poster out as lazy.
However, other questions which occur frequently, such as "My partner and I want to take our first steps into swinging, should we try clubs, one to one meets, parties, munches, dogging, or all of the above" are very personal to the individual, and I have no problem at all with this one being asked over and over again.
There is only one type of poster that I really avoid responding to at all, that is the person who seems to have done a google search on "dogging", clicked on SH, thought "worth a stab, nothing ventured, nothing gained", registered, and stuck a post on the site.
For me, the effort a person puts in to joining the site, is reflected in the effort I put in to making them want to stay.
lhk
Kat
Quote by KitKat
I would expect anyone who is joining the site with the intention of contributing to spend at least some time having a look around the site, thinking about what they want, and looking to see the types of things that have been said about it before.
I would not expect them to have an initmate knowledge of every subject ever covered - just the ones that are occur on a frequent basis, and are easily found with a search.
For example - a search on the word 'shave' brings 4 pages of post topics. Some with such obvious titles such as "to shave or not to shave" - "Shaving, advice please"
When a new title pops up along the same lines, it marks the poster out as lazy.
However, other questions which occur frequently, such as "My partner and I want to take our first steps into swinging, should we try clubs, one to one meets, parties, munches, dogging, or all of the above" are very personal to the individual, and I have no problem at all with this one being asked over and over again.
There is only one type of poster that I really avoid responding to at all, that is the person who seems to have done a google search on "dogging", clicked on SH, thought "worth a stab, nothing ventured, nothing gained", registered, and stuck a post on the site.
For me, the effort a person puts in to joining the site, is reflected in the effort I put in to making them want to stay.
lhk
Kat
Oh Kat .......... I was so tempted then to completely edit out your post, and then repost it as my own :lol2: Bluddy brilliant!!
(the post I mean, not the idea of nicking it!!! 
) we talk about research as if we are scientists. most of us like to know what others around think...you gauge their sence of humour or lack of it...you get an idea of a person from the threads. If they are really so awful they will just fall off the page.....one thing i have noticed since the week-end when this argument or discussion all started is how quiet the cafe actually is.....I do feel alot of people are actually scared of posting for fear of being ridiculed or put down . I ahave not been on this site for so long....but more than anything I love the fun side of it. I loved the davedj challenge where everyone dressed up. Nothing to do with swinging or sex or anything...just people being silly....and I for one love to see peoples sence of humour...its what I actually find most alluring about someone.
