Hi ya
I came on here as needed some thing to spice up my life, always had a naughty side to me but since i meet my Husband to be 3 years ago I have been very good.
Have no probs with sex life, he's 6 years younger than me so always up for it but i've been losing interest, hense coming on here,
Well i've met some one on here, a real gent, we've been texting and I went to his house last monday, only had about 15 mins with him but we kissed and the lust was there but i legged it before it went to far,
Does this mean this is not for me, if we had more time i'm not sure if it would have gone all the way. but i have to say he so a great guy.
One good thing has come out of this, i'm up for it a lot more now and think about sex loads.
I'm in two minds whether to see this man again.
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Sex God
I'm unsure as to your exact meaning 
but having read your post 3 times now it seemsto me that you are developing feelings for this other guy
If so then this place is not the best place to get advice from...
If however its to do with the swinging aspect I'm sure somebody more knowledgable than me will be along soon...
but having read your post 3 times now it seemsto me that you are developing feelings for this other guy If so then this place is not the best place to get advice from...
If however its to do with the swinging aspect I'm sure somebody more knowledgable than me will be along soon...
Tiger, there are many reasons to take a step back; wrong man, wrong place, guilt, just to name a few.
Do you recall the first time you kissed a boy? The first time you looked for sex? Did you go all the way? There is no need to look to deeply at what has happened. Ask yourself what you would like to happen, and be honest with everyone involved.
Travis
Do you recall the first time you kissed a boy? The first time you looked for sex? Did you go all the way? There is no need to look to deeply at what has happened. Ask yourself what you would like to happen, and be honest with everyone involved.
Travis
I can't understand if the guy your with is "up for it all the time" and you are losing interest in sex you are actively seeking it elsewhere?
If it is your partner you are with who you are losing interest with then perhaps it's better you sort out that relationship first before embarking on a new one. In my opinion it is your guilt that is probably holding you back not the feelings for the new guy... but then I'm no expert.
It's not fair to lead the new guy on until you are sorted out emotionally in your own life. It would appear you are a half way decent person otherwise you wouldn't be asking for advice on the matter. That's my advice anyway.
If it is your partner you are with who you are losing interest with then perhaps it's better you sort out that relationship first before embarking on a new one. In my opinion it is your guilt that is probably holding you back not the feelings for the new guy... but then I'm no expert.
It's not fair to lead the new guy on until you are sorted out emotionally in your own life. It would appear you are a half way decent person otherwise you wouldn't be asking for advice on the matter. That's my advice anyway.
Cheers for all ya advice
I know it sounds strange but i have always had to fight this split personality from an early age and 99% of me has every thing i've ever wanted and is very happy but that 1% creeps in and messes with my head. hence the name Lilly is a lovely lady, Tiger wants the buzz and bad things.
I don't have feeling for this guy, I just find my self wanting to get to know him and thats not really what its all about,
I've only ever had one drunken one night stand, I'm starting to see that may be i need that connection and feelings for someone and just fucking a stranger isn't my bag
But then i really enjoyed the buzz of meeting this man.
I do ask myself why i'm even doing this as I'm with the perfect man, but some times perfect is a bit boring.
My god i'm confused
I know it sounds strange but i have always had to fight this split personality from an early age and 99% of me has every thing i've ever wanted and is very happy but that 1% creeps in and messes with my head. hence the name Lilly is a lovely lady, Tiger wants the buzz and bad things.
I don't have feeling for this guy, I just find my self wanting to get to know him and thats not really what its all about,
I've only ever had one drunken one night stand, I'm starting to see that may be i need that connection and feelings for someone and just fucking a stranger isn't my bag
But then i really enjoyed the buzz of meeting this man.
I do ask myself why i'm even doing this as I'm with the perfect man, but some times perfect is a bit boring.
My god i'm confused
Quote by Tigerlilly73
But then i really enjoyed the buzz of meeting this man.
My god i'm confused
Is that because you know its wrong or because you enjoy the attention this other man can/does/would give you?
If it's because its wrong, then you have some soul serching to do. Is it ok to treat your perfect man like this?
If its because you enjoy the attention, then may be your perfect man is not so perfect after all, for you.
louise xx
IMHO, I would sort out how you feel about your partner before getting involved with anyone else. Sounds to me like you may be having doubts about your relationship. I know people do play separtatly but to do it without your partners understanding is playing with fire and you are bound to get burnt.
Good luck with what ever you decide to do.
Good luck with what ever you decide to do.
As my Grandma always taught me - if in doubt, do nowt.
This "scene", this hobby, environment, community, call it what you will ... is full of people who doubt themselves and each other. Why add to the confusion?
It's entirely up to you but I'm tempted to tell you sort out your head and your current relationship first before (inadvertently) fucking with someone else - physically and mentally.
This "scene", this hobby, environment, community, call it what you will ... is full of people who doubt themselves and each other. Why add to the confusion?
It's entirely up to you but I'm tempted to tell you sort out your head and your current relationship first before (inadvertently) fucking with someone else - physically and mentally.
It's life. You're not unique in "having a naughty side" ....the grass will always be greener, we will always crave excitement elsewhere.....
However, if you're merely bored with the "perfect" guy you're with, rather than shitting on him, the decent thing to do is end it so he has a shot at finding the perfect woman.
However, if you're merely bored with the "perfect" guy you're with, rather than shitting on him, the decent thing to do is end it so he has a shot at finding the perfect woman.
Perhaps your man may be as bored as you????? If you are looking elsewhere for naughtiness, excitement or whatever you may wish to call it, have you ever considered that he may be doing or thinking of doing the same?
If your man was actively seeking elsewhere how does that make you feel? If the answer is nothing then I guess he is not for you. But if you feel the tiniest bit jealous, upset or hurt then maybe that would indicate you have something worth making an effort for?
Only you can really know.
Why not try to spice up this relationship. Ok so my idea of S&M is spice
but obviously that isnt for everyone :shock:
Just do something a bit different for once.....relationships can go stale without making the effort and maybe you would regret not making a huge effort to reconcile.
Best of luck xxx
If your man was actively seeking elsewhere how does that make you feel? If the answer is nothing then I guess he is not for you. But if you feel the tiniest bit jealous, upset or hurt then maybe that would indicate you have something worth making an effort for?
Only you can really know.
Why not try to spice up this relationship. Ok so my idea of S&M is spice
but obviously that isnt for everyone :shock: Just do something a bit different for once.....relationships can go stale without making the effort and maybe you would regret not making a huge effort to reconcile.
Best of luck xxx
Quote byWithout retracting a word I would like to add. You say husband to be, I suggest that you consider what you would like to happen between you before letting him become your husband. You say you have known him for three years, this is the time when many people start to ask 'Is this the right person'
Tiger, there are many reasons to take a step back; wrong man, wrong place, guilt, just to name a few.
Do you recall the first time you kissed a boy? The first time you looked for sex? Did you go all the way? There is no need to look to deeply at what has happened. Ask yourself what you would like to happen, and be honest with everyone involved.
Travis
As someone else said what does he want? Time to talk, I think.
Travis.
Sex God
Hard one to answer really only you live in your shoes. However there are plenty of things you could try 'with' your partner and be involved with the swinging community. You only have to read in these forums or chat in the chat rooms to find. it really does take allsorts.
I agree with Mistress39 though. How about trying some new sexy stuff with your partner try some stuff maybe a little left field from what your used to. Hey, theres always the clubs! maybe to be able to go and do see share in an environment which is very much NSA would be a good thing.
Thanks for sharing Tiger a lot of us go through doubts and crisis i'm sure. I know I'm one. A big positive is that your talking and discussing. The art to understandig lies in communication. The very very best to you. :thumbup:
I agree with Mistress39 though. How about trying some new sexy stuff with your partner try some stuff maybe a little left field from what your used to. Hey, theres always the clubs! maybe to be able to go and do see share in an environment which is very much NSA would be a good thing.
Thanks for sharing Tiger a lot of us go through doubts and crisis i'm sure. I know I'm one. A big positive is that your talking and discussing. The art to understandig lies in communication. The very very best to you. :thumbup:
