double standards

28 Oct 2004

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm i fear i may be going mad!!!!!
i keep finding myself displaying the worst possible double standards.. and i cant stop it!
for example:
a very close friend of mine has been using an internet dating site, she has found one man who she really enjoys talking to and has decided she would like to meet up with him.
she told me this, imagining that her open minded and sometimes shocking best friend would take this in her stride and probably find it totally un interesting.
how wrong she was!!!!!!
i went mental!
" are you stupid" says me, "what do you know about this man?" i screamed.
"how can you even think about meeting a man you have only spoke to on the computer.. he might be a fecking axe murderer" (this is the polite version).
my friend went very quiet for a moment, "ha" thinks me..."she must be taking on board what i have said", WRONG!
she then began to laugh loudly , before explaining to me that i was in no position to preach to anyone about the risks of meeting strange men.
hmmmmmm i think she might be right!
another example is when my sister and i spent TWO hours on the phone.... discussing my mothers excessive phone calls! rolleyes

i could carry on giving examples... but fear i may come across a bit undesirebale! lol
does anyone else find themselves doing things like this???

28 Oct 2004

A friend of mine she's always moaning about her dad's affairs and how much it upsets her mum, but recently started seeing a married man herself..when i pointed this out to her she simply said it's different and chabged the subject

28 Oct 2004

i think that at the end of the day, everybody can be accused of having some double standards, it's just a case of toleration, knowing when to keep my mouth shut or not. but as i say, you cant live somebody else's life for them, we all need to make mistakes so that we may learn.........and have i made some almighty cockups in the past lol

28 Oct 2004

It may just be that you are looking out for your friend. After all you are more aware of the risks that meeting us strange men, and don't want her to take those same chances. I know i can be like that. I am aware of my own abilities at detecting risk, etc, but would be protective of other people doing thouse same things
P.S.
Happy 2400th post WBB!!!
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:D :D

28 Oct 2004

28 Oct 2004

Here's a double standard...
IRL single men are expected to "screw around" and women are frowned on for it.
In places like this... reverse the genders!!
Is that a quadruple standard?

28 Oct 2004

Quote by The Shadow
A friend of mine she's always moaning about her dad's affairs and how much it upsets her mum, but recently started seeing a married man herself..when i pointed this out to her she simply said it's different and chabged the subject

without getting into the argument about what my opinions on infidelity are in any circumstance... i can understand the wanting to protect your mother.. more than some other random human being.. kind off.

Quote by teppic
i think that at the end of the day, everybody can be accused of having some double standards, it's just a case of toleration, knowing when to keep my mouth shut or not. but as i say, you cant live somebody else's life for them, we all need to make mistakes so that we may learn.........and have i made some almighty cockups in the past

ooooooh PLEASE elaborate! lol

Quote by PJ1
It may just be that you are looking out for your friend. After all you are more aware of the risks that meeting us strange men, and don't want her to take those same chances. I know i can be like that. I am aware of my own abilities at detecting risk, etc, but would be protective of other people doing thouse same things
P.S.
Happy 2400th post WBB!!!
:D :D

i think you are right!
do as i say... not as i do type of thing lol
ooh and thanks.. i never noticed lol

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I have 4 children but when anyone else tells me they have 4 or more children I say omg how do you cope lol

cos you know how bloody hard it is better than anyone else does! lol

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Well Busty Babe.... does that include those parts of you that are double standard size??
lolololol

mark.... you are SOOOOOO gonna be sorry on sat! i have not seen you for ages... so i owe you loads of slaps lol

Quote by Vix
Here's a double standard...
IRL single men are expected to "screw around" and women are frowned on for it.
In places like this... reverse the genders!!
Is that a quadruple standard?

yeah.. all this about men having to "sew their wild oats", but women should be bloody virginial!
well if the women are not playing.. who the hell are the men supposed to sew the oats with??? confused

28 Oct 2004

it may be double standards but don't you think that you know exactly what you are doing when meeting guys and feel that you are not in danger. It will never happen to me springs to mind.
When you think of others doing it especially someone close you are bloody petrified for them knowing that it is a risky old game.
I used to meet guys alone and never really thought of myself as being in a dangerous situation but thinking back i was in several situations that could have turned out to be bloody dangerous.
Gill x

28 Oct 2004

Eres a good old boss once spent nearly half an hour looking out of the window at some workmen in the eventually turned round,fag in one hand,cuppa in the said"D'ya know what I've been watching them blokes for half an hour and they have done fuck all,lazy bastards"
Priceless

28 Oct 2004

being a mother...I find that I'm always in double standard mode.. rolleyes

:roll:
you tell them don't drink and get pissed but what do you do...go out on a night out with the girls get roaring drunk and spend the next day with the head from hell and a seven year old saying "I thought you said you shouldn't drink to get drunk?" confused

28 Oct 2004

Quote by teppic
...... we all need to make mistakes so that we may learn.........:

And do we ever learn??? banghead

:doh:

Sanjay