Hiyas everyone,
Being in the chatroom today several newbies wanted to know of the downside to swinging,
We think this would be a very informative posting for everyone to give their views.
Please could people give their views.
We think people have to be 110% ok with swinging and the reality of it making sure talking is done between peeps and partners.
The downside comes when 1 person might be more domineering over the other for what ever reason and it affects the relationship xx
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The only downside for us is the expense of it all.
It is very expensive travelling to and from meets.
We have been in a situation with a couple that really weren't suited to swinging. The guy was so jealous of his partner even talking to other men. Obvious to others that they shouln't swing as it will kill the relationship that they have with each other.
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One downside for me is that people may ask you to play sepparately from your partner.
If you go to a party/club with one's swinging partner people don't seem to take it seriously as a couple, even if you are really wanting to play together as a couple.
This can result in you getting split up at the party/venue as people tend to think of you as two singles together rather than one pair.... if that makes sense. So you can end up getting pulled in opposite directions. This can have knock on issues such as playing on insecurities or one partner having more fun than the other.... etc.
As long as you communicate with each other and talk things through there is no problem with things going wrong. Making sure you talk about it openly very soon after the event is so important as it clears the air and makes sure you learn the lesson of what went wrong so you can put it right next time.
Thanx folks,
Having never thought of some of these i will definitely take them into consideration if and when i find a partner who might be up for swinging.
It is nice to see things from other angles.
Cheers
downsides mmm ppl looking at ya add ,and adding to ya msn without asking ,then finding out they dont have a profile ,or reading ya add ours saying no single males ,then ya get email saying "i know ya dont want single males but blah blah blah" the same old shit but thats a part of the game .or chatting to ppl agreeing on ya boundries then sett up the meet and they want extra from ya .