I woke up at this morning after having a very disturbing dream.. :shock: I don't want to go into it, but it really has upset my equalibrium.. feeling bit strange, as I have really vivid dreams, that feel so real sometimes that I don't feel like I have slept.
I tend to dream about people that have passed away, (that gives you a gist of my dream) and I wake up sometimes looking around for them...
Do any of you have really vivid dreams? I have started to look into the meaning of dreams, and found out some facinating things.
I think I might have to have a doze this afternoon as feeling really tired! Hope you all have a good day today and a good nights sleep tonight! (me too!)
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Sex God
I woke up a couple of days ago, my first dream in years, no more of an image.
Everyone at work was in their underwear, they were working in their underwear. It was not my real place of work and no one there really works with me.
So what does it mean?
Everyone at work was in their underwear, they were working in their underwear. It was not my real place of work and no one there really works with me.
So what does it mean?
Sex God
Quote by Phuckers
my dreams enables me to predicts what is coming in the near future,the only ones i dont consider is when have had a blackout
So I am moving to a new place of work and I am going to have a continuous hard on all day.
dreams.. wow thats something i cant relate to...
i have such vivid dreams i think im awake and walking around and talking .. then i wake up it puts me right off... and i have violent nightmares, not so much now but in the past i suffered so badly i was put into hospital.. after councilling and thereapy , i was taught the skills to control my dreams to get to the point where the bad stuff always happened, and imagine a fork in the road.... concentrate on the branch of the tree or the street light and go that direction it took me months of therpay to be able to close my eyes without fear...
one of the other skills they taught me was to write everything down... as soon as i wake up .. let my fingers write the dream while i was still waking up, and then later in the day read back what id written .. and it worked its sorta better out than in therapy... this was all hand in hand with the other side of the therapy to help me realise that the dreams cant hurt me there not the boogyman.. the boogyman is in norfolk an cant get to me...
i rarely have bad dreams now.. and if i do there not the ones i remember anymore.. the dreams i remember are the ones when i thinnk ive just heard my alram, got up had a bath, got dressed and walked out the door for work.. and THEN i really wake up ...lol them i can handle!!!!
i have such vivid dreams i think im awake and walking around and talking .. then i wake up it puts me right off... and i have violent nightmares, not so much now but in the past i suffered so badly i was put into hospital.. after councilling and thereapy , i was taught the skills to control my dreams to get to the point where the bad stuff always happened, and imagine a fork in the road.... concentrate on the branch of the tree or the street light and go that direction it took me months of therpay to be able to close my eyes without fear...
one of the other skills they taught me was to write everything down... as soon as i wake up .. let my fingers write the dream while i was still waking up, and then later in the day read back what id written .. and it worked its sorta better out than in therapy... this was all hand in hand with the other side of the therapy to help me realise that the dreams cant hurt me there not the boogyman.. the boogyman is in norfolk an cant get to me...
i rarely have bad dreams now.. and if i do there not the ones i remember anymore.. the dreams i remember are the ones when i thinnk ive just heard my alram, got up had a bath, got dressed and walked out the door for work.. and THEN i really wake up ...lol them i can handle!!!!
there a bitch aint the whips... and mine were always factual dreams replaying over an over an over again the terror i had.... i would of given my high teeth to have a fiction bad dream cos them you know are just your physcy picking up on someting in the day or on telly... but the ones that are the real ones, well lets just say id prefer fiction...... i think more should be done about sleep terrors and dreams... the docs took along time to figure out that i was suffering because i wasnt dealing with the reality of it all an it was manifesting in my dreams........im still an insomniac, but now its better....
hugs to everyon xxxxxx
hi furby, nightmares were why i was taught to control my dreams too. still get real doozers sometimes but not as bad as they used to be. i think alot of that is that i'm far more settled and with someone i trust. good for the sole.
whips
hugs to everyon xxxxxx
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dreams.. wow thats something i cant relate to...
i have such vivid dreams i think im awake and walking around and talking .. then i wake up it puts me right off... and i have violent nightmares, not so much now but in the past i suffered so badly i was put into hospital.. after councilling and thereapy , i was taught the skills to control my dreams to get to the point where the bad stuff always happened, and imagine a fork in the road.... concentrate on the branch of the tree or the street light and go that direction it took me months of therpay to be able to close my eyes without fear...
one of the other skills they taught me was to write everything down... as soon as i wake up .. let my fingers write the dream while i was still waking up, and then later in the day read back what id written .. and it worked its sorta better out than in therapy... this was all hand in hand with the other side of the therapy to help me realise that the dreams cant hurt me there not the boogyman.. the boogyman is in norfolk an cant get to me...
i rarely have bad dreams now.. and if i do there not the ones i remember anymore.. the dreams i remember are the ones when i thinnk ive just heard my alram, got up had a bath, got dressed and walked out the door for work.. and THEN i really wake up ...lol them i can handle!!!!
hi furby, nightmares were why i was taught to control my dreams too. still get real doozers sometimes but not as bad as they used to be. i think alot of that is that i'm far more settled and with someone i trust. good for the sole.
whips
talk it out... make the demons seem not so scary the more you dilute it the easier the memories are.. when you bottle things up they explode in your brain in these vivid things... find someone you trust an that will listen and talk it to death .. its hard an makes you vulnerable but it works.. or write them down.. its true what they say better out than in.. kept in it becomes a poision in your mind.. dilute it, its just another dream x
Quote by Misskitty_2008
That might be why my dreams are so vivid... A lot has happened in the past and I don't think I have dealt with a lot of it yet...
What do you think I should do?
I couldnt of said it better myself if tried whips nice one!! your right sometimes partners arent always the best ones to talk about this sort of stuff with, ive tried in the past but i end up being given that 'look' the one that says pity i hate it... so i tend to keep that side of me away if i can from people i super close to... i have great friends who know when im suffering an i can speak freely without feeling any shame or worring about what i say and wether they will look at me differently ... ive lost alot of partners to me waking up screaming in the night sometimes its just to hard to share with them......
but saying that .......if you are lucky to have a person who loves you no matter what was said or no matter how many times you repeat the same dream then please send there brother my way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hugs an kisses xxxxxxxxx
but saying that .......if you are lucky to have a person who loves you no matter what was said or no matter how many times you repeat the same dream then please send there brother my way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hugs an kisses xxxxxxxxx
Quote by Whipsnspurs
i agree with furby kitty. hard as it is you must talk about it. i wasn't able to for many many years and no matter how much you try to ignore it it all eats away at you. in the end it cames out as something else.
as said, the imagination dreams are bad but easy to deal with coz they are juts that, imagination. the ones that are brought about by real events are the worst. it's bad enough that you have had to deal with it for real, but to do so in sleep many years later effects me for days afterwards too. like furby i'm now an insomniac too which became even harder when i finaly did get to sleep only to wake up from nightmares.
even now i find some situations really difficult but it's learning how to cope with them that helps. i'm an emotional asthmatic as well as it being triggered by pollens and such. i have learnt to also control that myself. i still sometimes need inhalers but not very often and it's usually when it's really hot. but the emotional side only became controlable after i found someone i could talk to.
it's great to have understanding partners but they are not always the best ones to slog things out with. the emotional attachment you have with them, and they with you can be too much on top of everything else. i think they need to know but if you still have to slog it out it's best with someone else.
i'm about at some time throughout the day or night if ever you want to talk hun. a good ear and quiet unless asked to say something.
whips
you know where my pm box is if you need to talk about sweetie..... as they say my box is always open! hehe.. but seriously better out than in babes..x
Quote by Misskitty_2008
Thanks furby.. think I am going to have trouble sleeping tonight.. that dream really has thrown me out of kilter all day..
I think a small glass of something might be called for tonight... :cheers:
Sex God
For me, dreams are my mind putting images to my feelings and worries. The images are often nothing to do with whatever is on my mind. But they relate to it. It sometimes takes days to work out what the subject was about - my worries are often buried fairly deeply.
What I concentrate on is how the dream made me feel rather than what I saw or did in the dream. That way I can work out what I should be thinking about.
Sometimes they are just dreams
I had a lucid dream the other night - only the third in my life. I can't remember the dream now, but I knew I was dreaming and could control the other people n it :D
What I concentrate on is how the dream made me feel rather than what I saw or did in the dream. That way I can work out what I should be thinking about.
Sometimes they are just dreams
I had a lucid dream the other night - only the third in my life. I can't remember the dream now, but I knew I was dreaming and could control the other people n it :D
Sexlightened
(Sorry I have not read the whole thread!)
The thing about dreams is they come entirely from your own experiences and the "show" is entirely your own brains work. The purpose is to rationalise what is going on inside your brain/life.
In short it is an evaluation process that only gets going for a short periods during sleep. Although it is scary sometimes it can actually be a good thing. It might be telling you that someone died but you felt a great sense of loss. In other words you could really value that person which is positive. It could also be that you depend on that person a lot which may be positive or negative depending on how you feel about it.
Dreams are an interesting mix of logic and emotion, getting in touch with them can be a powerful tool.
If you do want to explore a dream - in guaranteed confidence - please let me know as I have a pretty good record of helping people with troublesome dreams? Please do not suffer with it either, if I am not good enough then a quick word with your doctor can get you referred to someone who can help?
(I am also writing this for others who may read it too)
Good Luck
Shay
The thing about dreams is they come entirely from your own experiences and the "show" is entirely your own brains work. The purpose is to rationalise what is going on inside your brain/life.
In short it is an evaluation process that only gets going for a short periods during sleep. Although it is scary sometimes it can actually be a good thing. It might be telling you that someone died but you felt a great sense of loss. In other words you could really value that person which is positive. It could also be that you depend on that person a lot which may be positive or negative depending on how you feel about it.
Dreams are an interesting mix of logic and emotion, getting in touch with them can be a powerful tool.
If you do want to explore a dream - in guaranteed confidence - please let me know as I have a pretty good record of helping people with troublesome dreams? Please do not suffer with it either, if I am not good enough then a quick word with your doctor can get you referred to someone who can help?
(I am also writing this for others who may read it too)
Good Luck
Shay
hi miss kitty xx
other than when i was a child i didnt really have any dreams that disturbed me, till my dad died.
We had a bad relationship when i was a child but as adults got really close.
He died quite suddenly, well to me, he had been ill for some time and would not go to the drs, when he eventually did go, 10 days after he died from lung cancer.
i was sooo sad but also very angry. after years of not having him i felt angry he was taken, then angry that if hed gone drs sooner he might still be here.
anyway.. after he died i had really really vivid dreams, they were as if i was awake talking to him as if present day, but i knew he was dead and didnt want to raise this and cause a row and ruin our time. so never told him even in my dreams how hurt i was.
when i woke it was horrible, i would be in tears when reality dawned and i felt every morning i was losing him again. then i felt guilty cuse due to the pain i didnt want the dreams anymore, but i didnt want to not either.
this went on for about 6 months every single night. drs cant take dreams away. eventually i lay down to sleep andaskedhim please dont come to mein my dreams any more, told him how i felt, and went to sleep.
i never dreamed about him again. i miss the dreams but i couldnt bear the pain.
so i guess im saying i empathise with you and i hope it turns out ok and it will ease.
xxxxxxxxxxxxx fem xxxxxxxx
other than when i was a child i didnt really have any dreams that disturbed me, till my dad died.
We had a bad relationship when i was a child but as adults got really close.
He died quite suddenly, well to me, he had been ill for some time and would not go to the drs, when he eventually did go, 10 days after he died from lung cancer.
i was sooo sad but also very angry. after years of not having him i felt angry he was taken, then angry that if hed gone drs sooner he might still be here.
anyway.. after he died i had really really vivid dreams, they were as if i was awake talking to him as if present day, but i knew he was dead and didnt want to raise this and cause a row and ruin our time. so never told him even in my dreams how hurt i was.
when i woke it was horrible, i would be in tears when reality dawned and i felt every morning i was losing him again. then i felt guilty cuse due to the pain i didnt want the dreams anymore, but i didnt want to not either.
this went on for about 6 months every single night. drs cant take dreams away. eventually i lay down to sleep andaskedhim please dont come to mein my dreams any more, told him how i felt, and went to sleep.
i never dreamed about him again. i miss the dreams but i couldnt bear the pain.
so i guess im saying i empathise with you and i hope it turns out ok and it will ease.
xxxxxxxxxxxxx fem xxxxxxxx
Master of Sex
Wow, scary disturbing topic for me. I've had vivid recurring dreams since childhood.
As a kid, I both sleep walked and talked and experienced a certain degree of night terrors, including such vivid dreams that it felt like the bed was being tossed around.
I also had recurring pleasant dreams, mostly involving flying. As in, no planes, just me, either high and slow, soaring over the rooftops, or fast and low across the school playgrounds.
The pleasant dreams have diminished over the years, but the scarey ones have gone on into adulthood where every threatening or disturbing dream would have me awake and aching in the middle of the night.
Yes...aching....a theme of any nightmare is pain in my lower legs and feet ( not cramp ) to the degree it can make me cry out in pain.
I still have regular bad dreams and given the last couple of shitty years, many of them involve Ma & Pa. They never make any sense and leave me exhausted.
I also regularly dream of intruders, mostly when Harry has gone off in the middle of the night, as is required by his job. I feel totally alert and awake and am convinced intruders are coming up the stairs....of course its all a dream.
The human mind....what a mind fuck!!!
As a kid, I both sleep walked and talked and experienced a certain degree of night terrors, including such vivid dreams that it felt like the bed was being tossed around.
I also had recurring pleasant dreams, mostly involving flying. As in, no planes, just me, either high and slow, soaring over the rooftops, or fast and low across the school playgrounds.
The pleasant dreams have diminished over the years, but the scarey ones have gone on into adulthood where every threatening or disturbing dream would have me awake and aching in the middle of the night.
Yes...aching....a theme of any nightmare is pain in my lower legs and feet ( not cramp ) to the degree it can make me cry out in pain.
I still have regular bad dreams and given the last couple of shitty years, many of them involve Ma & Pa. They never make any sense and leave me exhausted.
I also regularly dream of intruders, mostly when Harry has gone off in the middle of the night, as is required by his job. I feel totally alert and awake and am convinced intruders are coming up the stairs....of course its all a dream.
The human mind....what a mind fuck!!!
