I have a daughter who is 13. I love her too bits I think she's sweet intelligent,pretty, quick witted, good company and a pleasure to be with. Most of the time. Is it ok to let her dye her hair? I say yes Mum, Mrs Lost says hmmmm not so sure. A few of her mates are doing things such as getting piercings, belly buttons, eyebrows, noses etc. I/we won't allow that we think thats a minor mutilation and something not suitable for us to give our consent, to at thirteen years of age. So, a little experimenting with hair colour is not too big a thing is it? Though not colouring her brothers 2 years her junior have both had really impressive Mohawk hair cuts that looked superb. Not really fair to not allow her to dye hers is it? What are your views on this fellow furumsters. Do we allow some hair play or say no ?
I'd say yes. You might want to check with her school though if her new colour conforms to uniform rules. My old school had a no unnatural colors rule, ie, not pink, green or blue, but black, brown, blonde etc was fine.
id let her have her hair dyed better than the other things you mention which are better for her to think about when she is older check with school first tho about colours
Oooooh, it's a slippery slope.... had my first highlights aged 12 and here I am nearly 20 years later still doing it!?! (I shudder to think of the money this has cost over 20 years... :shock: ) I guess it'd be hypocritical of me to say anything but let her get it done! But I would check with school, I know there are lots that have rules about hair dye - but mainly anti the current trend for shocking pinks/blues etc. Oh, and if cost allows, get it done at a hairdressers... nothing worse than home hair dye disasters believe me, I know!! Nola x
Hi there Lost This made me smile loads as I have a friend who called me yesterday with a diy dye disaster! She is a natural blonde with the usual dark winter regrowth. Decided to lighten the roots and ended up a lovely shade of ginger!! But to your point, Yes I would allow her to colour her hair. Its fun and not painful and not dangerous (unless your allergic to hair colour so make sure you do a test first) Also, if you allow her to do it then you have some control over getting it done professionally or with a reputable home colour rather than a 'lets mix this together and see what colour it ends up'. Let us know what happens.........
Morning Lost... I would say no, she's a little on the young side. I've only just allowed my daughter to have highlights put in her hair she was 15 when she had them done. I'm just worried about the damage to their hair when they're so young. I've only caved in because really she can do what she wants now she's 16. I do know of a woman who allowed her daughter at the age of 10 to start having highlights, the kid's hair is a complete mess now, she says so herself.
I'd let her have it done but not a home job! Take her to a good stylist for advice beforehand. They can help her with what colours would suit her skin tone, age etc and may be able to do a skin test for her too. I never dyed mine until my late 30s and that was just blond highlights. Decided on a drastic change to the red a few years ago and still love it. I went back to blond last year and it looked dreadful! Me, grow old gracefully? Naff off! :giggle:
Perhaps if she has to pay for it herself, she may have gone off the idea before she's saved enough for a salon colourist! I wouldn't be influenced by what her peers are doing - the decision is yours. But if you've already allowed younger siblings to experiment with their hair, you have to allow the her same lenience I suppose. For me, I would preserve childhood/adolescence a while longer. By the way, any child with a Mohawk in our school would be sent home until the hair was modified - the same with any obvious dye.
Quote by Mal Missy! Missy!!! They're talking about hair dye! Missy!!!! :grin: Mal
I'm a comin Mal!!!! Oooh oooh I can help :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Firstly tho - I would, and have said yes in the same situation ......... and had some corking disasters that had me rolling about on the floor crying with laughter, and a peed off daughter that got threatened with school suspension until she got rid of her orange hair, even tho it was accidental and not the platinum blonde she was expecting!! :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Nows the time for them to have fun with their fashion, let them develop their style, and really enjoy the process - once you're older and go out into the big wide world, you have to conform a lot more. Sure there are some jobs people are lucky enough to have, where they can still dress as outrageous as they like, but in the main you do have to tone things down to a more "suitable" level. Do I agree with that up there, no I don't, I think people should be taken more on who they are rather than what they look like. But it ain't an ideal world and you do judge and get judged on appearance. So I say, let the youngsters have fun with fashion, so long as it's nothing permanent, let them try out styles and images...... if they've got the confidence to carry off a disaster, then fair play to them.
why dont you let her try temporary washout dyes?, they will be less damaging to her hair and if either you or mrs losty go with her to buy it you can still have some control over the colour she chooses and how temporary it will be, some only last up to 5 washes. I started off with wash out when i was 11 and my 64 yr old father has just discovered them lol . Also most of the temp dyes dont come in colours that will get her banned from school :thumbup:
Lostie as long as it's ok with the school and she doesnt go mad I can't see what the problem with a couple of blond or low light streaks is. She just wants to be like her mates (very important at that age) My daughter is 13 this year and my best mate has a hair salon and I let her do my daughters last year. She wants her belly button pierced though and I catagorically will not allow that until the day I have no authority! My eldest son wanted his ear pierced when he was her age and again the answer was no and when he was finally old enough to decide for himself he was well over it. You are her parents though and you must do what you think is right and forget everyone else.
Had a similar situation with son about tattoos. He hasn't had a real one yet but he was allowed wash-off ones at weekends - and spray-on ones over the summer holidays. They wore off after a few weeks. A good salon could put in really good highlights of any colour at the beginning of summer and then use a more natural dye to return the hair to 'normal' for school time. I agree with the point about paying for it - at least a portion of it. It's a good opportunity to reinforce the 'is it essential, is it a luxury' conversation about budgeting.
Quote by Missy I'm a comin Mal!!!! So I say, let the youngsters have fun with fashion, so long as it's nothing permanent, let them try out styles and images...... if they've got the confidence to carry off a disaster, then fair play to them.
Oh how I love your emoticons! I agree with Missy, the key word I guess is semi (the only time I'll ever accept semi ), as in wash in wash out then no damage. Permanent strong stuff I think is a no no.
Quote by X_fanny_x id say yes BUT at a salon and making her pay for atleast half of it getting it done at home may go wrong
Agree with you Tan, paying half of it may have a good effect... will teach what the cost of things are, how to budget her pocket money to enable her have nice things etc.. Personally, I didnt let my daughter dye her hair, I didnt mind her using the wash out stuff though. Im glad I discouraged her as she has lovely hair in great condition...
13 years old - NO 16 years old - YES Call me old fashioned, but it's my opinion and you did ask! Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Daughter is 13 in about three weeks so we have agreed that she can get her hair coloured as part of her birthday present. I think at the moment she is even going with a mate who is having hers done as well so that is great for her and more reassuring for Mrs Lost who has agreed but is still a bit iffy about it. Thanks for your opinions, they have helped :thumbup: . I'll let you know if its a disaster or a success
Well she has dyed her hair, Going from a darkish(??) blonde it is now as black as pitch! I like it her bothers like it the neighbours like it her mates like it Mrs Lost......................... LIKES IT phew! I get to keep my bollox. Weird though that changing her hair colour has been yet another slap of realisation that my baby girl ain't no baby no more. Earlier she was looking on-line at Body jewelley. Errrrrrrrrrrr don't think so young lady!!!
oooohhhh Lostie....soon it will be body piercings galore....tattoos, and then the full Rosie Webster all-in-black- goth look :shock: :shock: :lol: :lol: just kiddin hun, i bet she looks fab and I started dying my hair when i got my first grey hair.....age 13 :shock: and am here age 37 still doin it....and look how well I turned out :inlove:
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believe me, I know!!
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. Also most of the temp dyes dont come in colours that will get her banned from school :thumbup: 
