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I'm confused.
I am 23
I do not like pushy people
are things on our ad and profile are these not ok?
I am 23
I do not like pushy people
are things on our ad and profile are these not ok?
Sex God
I guess most are just being very specific in informing people whats right or wrong, even if its in 'up your arse' language. I must admit too abrupt and it puts us off but hey then some may think that of how we do ours.
Sex God
I see nothing wrong in being specific in your likes/dislikes/wants etc.....
After all............If your inviting someone into a loving relationship to share sexual experiences then you want someone who is right for you both..
After all............If your inviting someone into a loving relationship to share sexual experiences then you want someone who is right for you both..
Sex God
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Hiya Tan,
well we used to have an add that was quite generalised and said stuff just about us and what type of people we were, not what we wanted expected etc.
We did find however that most of the replies we got were from people who either hadnot looked at our profile at all or were just not into the things we were looking for.
We have both met you at socials etc, and i think you know we are not pushy people at all, BUT, we are selective and do have a right to choose who we meet based on our own preferences, which im sure you would agree was fine?
The reason we say in our add "we are looking for, we like people who are, and we donot ....." etc is to hopefully limit the people who reply to us down to the ones that best match/suit what we are looking for in our possible swinging buddies.
Obviously we still get people who are not what we have in mind but we are always polite enough to mail and say "no thanks" usually, (unless we missed anyones and in that case humble pie time)!!
So i think it might be a case of trying to limit the replies down to the ones that suit each persons preferences rather than a derogatory thing, well is in our case anyhow!!
well we used to have an add that was quite generalised and said stuff just about us and what type of people we were, not what we wanted expected etc.
We did find however that most of the replies we got were from people who either hadnot looked at our profile at all or were just not into the things we were looking for.
We have both met you at socials etc, and i think you know we are not pushy people at all, BUT, we are selective and do have a right to choose who we meet based on our own preferences, which im sure you would agree was fine?
The reason we say in our add "we are looking for, we like people who are, and we donot ....." etc is to hopefully limit the people who reply to us down to the ones that best match/suit what we are looking for in our possible swinging buddies.
Obviously we still get people who are not what we have in mind but we are always polite enough to mail and say "no thanks" usually, (unless we missed anyones and in that case humble pie time)!!
So i think it might be a case of trying to limit the replies down to the ones that suit each persons preferences rather than a derogatory thing, well is in our case anyhow!!
Sex God
Quote by Srne
The reason we say in our add "we are looking for, we like people who are, and we donot ....." etc is to hopefully limit the people who reply to us down to the ones that best match/suit what we are looking for in our possible swinging buddies.
Yep, me too!
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I don't think it is being arrogant, just specific.
Although I do think it can all be in the wording, sometimes I think adverts perhaps sound more bolshy than they actually mean to be.
Sex God
Quote by Srne
Hiya Tan,
Not me! :shock: dek posted this i didnt even know about it until i signed in
Sex God
Quote by Srne
OMG we are SO checking the wording of our add now paranoia has set in
Also, didnt sound like your posting style Tan, but thought u might be having a feminine "moment" haha (errr no offence Dek)!!
Just checked your ads (didnt look at the pics honest :rascal: ) and to be honest IMO there is nothing wrong with them
Sex God
Quote by Srne
OMG we are SO checking the wording of our add now paranoia has set in
Also, didnt sound like your posting style Tan, but thought u might be having a feminine "moment" haha (errr no offence Dek)!!
Feminine moment
whats one of them 
: like when ya bang ya finger with a hammer whilst laying a wood floor and shout :fuckinghell: that hurt ? Quote by TanKinky
OMG we are SO checking the wording of our add now paranoia has set in
Also, didnt sound like your posting style Tan, but thought u might be having a feminine "moment" haha (errr no offence Dek)!!
Feminine moment
whats one of them : like when ya bang ya finger with a hammer whilst laying a wood floor and shout :fuckinghell: that hurt ?Nope, it's at the time of the month where you bang your finger, shout :fuckinghell: that hurt.....and then proceed to blame your fella for it (even if he's not there) and call him all the names under the sun.
Quote by de_sade
They probably get alot of messages from people that have clearly not read the ad or profile of the person and thats why they emphasise what they want maybe.
From your banner SarcasticCupid it is very evident exactly what you are looking for or what you want.
:thumbup:
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Heaven Dating might be the best place to fulfill your rather...errr...singular requirements. But then again so might computer generated women. com
Or
maybe it means
nothing at all
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
OMG we are SO checking the wording of our add now paranoia has set in
Also, didnt sound like your posting style Tan, but thought u might be having a feminine "moment" haha (errr no offence Dek)!!
Feminine moment
whats one of them : like when ya bang ya finger with a hammer whilst laying a wood floor and shout :fuckinghell: that hurt ?Nope, it's at the time of the month where you bang your finger, shout :fuckinghell: that hurt.....and then proceed to blame your fella for it (even if he's not there) and call him all the names under the sun.
Nah cant say i ever done that i blame my silly eyesight :wink:
Personally I think you have to put in your likes, dislikes and requirements and because you're talking about yourself (and partner if nec) it is fairly normal to use "I" or "We". This can be done in a polite manner without being rude.
What then happens is you get people who's head's are firmly up their own butts and become all "diva" or "lord like" in a sense. I've often read, for example, ladies profiles where they are very brutal in their requirements and really lay down the law. Maybe they've had bad experiences with people? who knows but there are still ways and means of stating the obvious without being rude.
So yes, in a way Dek, I agree some people's egos are bigger than themselves.
What then happens is you get people who's head's are firmly up their own butts and become all "diva" or "lord like" in a sense. I've often read, for example, ladies profiles where they are very brutal in their requirements and really lay down the law. Maybe they've had bad experiences with people? who knows but there are still ways and means of stating the obvious without being rude.
So yes, in a way Dek, I agree some people's egos are bigger than themselves.
Quote by Sarcasticcupid
They probably get alot of messages from people that have clearly not read the ad or profile of the person and thats why they emphasise what they want maybe.
i agree with that, i've been on the site about 4 years now and i have had so many mails from guys who havnt read my profile its gets a bit tedious, if you write a nice profile that goes on a bit people tend not to read it and make sarky comment about how long it is so i ended up doing a add that came over a bit stroppy, but deleted it after a few days because i didnt want to sound stroppy, but trying to get a balance of what your after and getting over to people your only looking for what your after and not sounding stroppy is hard.
Sex God
Quote by Whipsnspurs
checked out your dual profile coz we'd only seen your single one tan. how many pictures? :shock: only looked at the first page but may have to go back and check the others out to :twisted:
whips
i think most of them are hidden but i rarely go on that account
It strikes me that the majority of ads aren't about swinging per se, they're about the realising of fantasies. But it's quite amusing some of them the way they are rather too specific or bordering on low-level bigotry.
I even saw one the other day that specified that a suit and tie should be worn so as to "avoid the baseball cap type". I've seen less requirements for a job interview. I'd just love to meet that couple!
I even saw one the other day that specified that a suit and tie should be worn so as to "avoid the baseball cap type". I've seen less requirements for a job interview. I'd just love to meet that couple!
Sex God
Quote by TanKinky
Hiya Tan,
Not me! :shock: dek posted this i didnt even know about it until i signed infook me he must of started typing in december
Sex God
Quote by northeastcoupleuk
Hiya Tan,
Not me! :shock: dek posted this i didnt even know about it until i signed infook me he must of started typing in december
Must have
Sex God
Quote by TanKinky
Hiya Tan,
Not me! :shock: dek posted this i didnt even know about it until i signed infook me he must of started typing in december
Must have
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