Do u think there are any rules in swinging?
Is there an etiquette?
What has prompted these questions?
As a cpl we have on several occasions took a single guy to a party or social only to watch him be monopolised by single fems. My phylosophy is if a guy comes with some one you leave him to that person on that occasion.
Am i wrong??? Should i just jump in and tread on toes???
Genuine question. Do i be nice and miss out or do i do as others do and grab what i want and sod it if it hurts someone?????
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I would say that if I was invited and taken to a party by a couple then I would ask them if it were with the sole intention of me being their play partner or if I would be free to mingle as I wished....
Its difficult to put it into text without it seeming like a contract has been drawn up if you see what I mean
I suppose its best to discuss things with said male before going to the party/club :dunno:
Its difficult to put it into text without it seeming like a contract has been drawn up if you see what I mean
I suppose its best to discuss things with said male before going to the party/club :dunno:
hmmmmmmmmmm
whilst there are apparently some fixed "rules of engagement"
, Im more or less in agreement with Steve and Peanut on this one....
If it was me, and I had gone to a party with you... i would try and set some ground rules before.... and stick to them.
I think there is a difference though between going in a group to a party ( where playing is likely to take place) and a "social" where there is no playing because of the sourroundings.
To me, swinging denotes "swapping" and "group play" so to go to a party and only be "allowed/expected" to play with only specific people wouldnt really float my boat...(if there was group playing going on..) but i would and could happily conform if this was what those taking me to a party wanted.
Flirting and socialising with other guests however is a totally different matter and I wouldnt be happy being made to feel I wasnt allowed to mingle...especially if i was a single bloke and there were single girlies in attendance.
whilst there are apparently some fixed "rules of engagement"
, Im more or less in agreement with Steve and Peanut on this one.... If it was me, and I had gone to a party with you... i would try and set some ground rules before.... and stick to them.
I think there is a difference though between going in a group to a party ( where playing is likely to take place) and a "social" where there is no playing because of the sourroundings.
To me, swinging denotes "swapping" and "group play" so to go to a party and only be "allowed/expected" to play with only specific people wouldnt really float my boat...(if there was group playing going on..) but i would and could happily conform if this was what those taking me to a party wanted.
Flirting and socialising with other guests however is a totally different matter and I wouldnt be happy being made to feel I wasnt allowed to mingle...especially if i was a single bloke and there were single girlies in attendance.
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Deecee Says it all in his post :thumbup: Decide what you require/would like of the single guy before then at least you both know where you stand. If it's a swinging party with group sex on the cards then lets be fair, if theres a lot of pie to go around share 
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oh to go to a social or party where I would be monopolised by all the single fems !!! :shock:
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Do u think there are any rules in swinging?
Is there an etiquette?
What has prompted these questions?
As a cpl we have on several occasions took a single guy to a party or social only to watch him be monopolised by single fems. My phylosophy is if a guy comes with some one you leave him to that person on that occasion.
Am i wrong??? Should i just jump in and tread on toes???
Genuine question. Do i be nice and miss out or do i do as others do and grab what i want and sod it if it hurts someone?????
okay... I am confused a little.... so if you are taking a single guy to a party, as a couple do you expect him to be at your side all evening?
do you expect both him and your partner to be at your side all evening?
I am only asking because if you wanted there full and undivided attention, then would that not be what a private meet would be for?
isn't the point of a social to actually socialise?? or is the only reason that you are taking them to have a guarenteed person to play with??
can I ask a question without sounding really harsh? if you were the "3rd person".... how would you feel if that was the only reason why you'd been taken?
just playing devils advocate a bit.. and they are genuine questions i ask.......
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Do u think there are any rules in swinging?
Is there an etiquette?
What has prompted these questions?
As a cpl we have on several occasions took a single guy to a party or social only to watch him be monopolised by single fems. My phylosophy is if a guy comes with some one you leave him to that person on that occasion.
Am i wrong??? Should i just jump in and tread on toes???
Genuine question. Do i be nice and miss out or do i do as others do and grab what i want and sod it if it hurts someone?????
okay... I am confused a little.... so if you are taking a single guy to a party, as a couple do you expect him to be at your side all evening?
do you expect both him and your partner to be at your side all evening?
I am only asking because if you wanted there full and undivided attention, then would that not be what a private meet would be for?
isn't the point of a social to actually socialise?? or is the only reason that you are taking them to have a guarenteed person to play with??
can I ask a question without sounding really harsh? if you were the "3rd person".... how would you feel if that was the only reason why you'd been taken?
just playing devils advocate a bit.. and they are genuine questions i ask.......
no wonder u are confused coz thats what i am basically im soul searching as i dont know my own motive
i didnt really want to explain in detail but these are some situations ive come across
a few years ago we met a single fem formed a 3 sum with her to invite in other single guys to play in mmff basically i found the guys she shagged em then told us to push off
another occasion we took a diff single fem to one of our regulas we intended to play as a 4 sum but the fem took the guy off and left me and hubby watching telly
another night we had a party i invited a guy for myself to play with but a single fem jumped on him and took him back to hers
another night we had friends round a guy was gonna stay the night a single fem took him back to hers stupidly they played on cam and i saw must say was a bit put out
does that clarify anything
i can see your position now a little clearer...
I think we could all learn from these experiences...
it goes to show that Swinging can and does dissapoint...as well as provide great enjoyment and satisfaction.
i suppose women will always try and seduce the "partners" of other women...and men will always be susceptible to seduction.
i would set some ground rules out in future situations and hope people follow them...
I would
I think we could all learn from these experiences...
it goes to show that Swinging can and does dissapoint...as well as provide great enjoyment and satisfaction.
i suppose women will always try and seduce the "partners" of other women...and men will always be susceptible to seduction.
i would set some ground rules out in future situations and hope people follow them...
I would
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Whilst its a good idea to set some ground rules between you all,you really don't have any say in what may or may not happen during a meet,as you have found things change,that does'nt mean that I feel that the sort of behaviour you have come across as acceptable because I don't,in fact I would find it extremely bad manners if we had been treated the same....so its no wonder you're slightly confused about the ettiquette of swinging
If we had invited a playmate to attend a party with us then we would'nt leave them to go off and play with anyone else and would not expect them to either! but maybe we have old fashioned manners
As for mingling with other people..we have no problem at all with that as we also love to meet new people xx
If we had invited a playmate to attend a party with us then we would'nt leave them to go off and play with anyone else and would not expect them to either! but maybe we have old fashioned manners
As for mingling with other people..we have no problem at all with that as we also love to meet new people xx
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hmmmmmmmmmm
whilst there are apparently some fixed "rules of engagement"
If it was me, and I had gone to a party with you... i would try and set some ground rules before.... and stick to them.
I think there is a difference though between going in a group to a party ( where playing is likely to take place) and a "social" where there is no playing because of the sourroundings.
To me, swinging denotes "swapping" and "group play" so to go to a party and only be "allowed/expected" to play with only specific people wouldnt really float my boat...(if there was group playing going on..) but i would and could happily conform if this was what those taking me to a party wanted.
Flirting and socialising with other guests however is a totally different matter and I wouldnt be happy being made to feel I wasnt allowed to mingle...especially if i was a single bloke and there were single girlies in attendance.
:thumbup: I think it's all about establishing ground rules.
