We have just joined the site :smitten: and are wondering if some of the more experienced members could help with explaining what are the do’s and don’t We’ve read a good few ads and have picked up a couple of pointers e.g no random friend requests, winks etc. We also have clearly defined within our ad what we like as well. We also understand that there is a HIGH percentage of gentlemen on here as to be expected We’re not too keen yet on the club scene as we also don’t know what to expect :eeek: Is it a case of looking at ads sending messages and just getting to know people via the forum and chat rooms ? I understand this question may have been asked 100's of times and apologies if we sound like a broken record
:welcome: You've taken a very sensible approach so far. As for do’s and don’t , then as everyone is different these will be very much down to yourselves. Just like life every one changes as they gain more knowledge and experience, so being on SH will be a similar journey as well. So your views and thoughts will change, maybe only slightly, in the coming months and years. The thing to remember is why you joined the site and what you do here is optional and voluntary on an 'as and when' basis. They key thing though is to just enjoy it and, ignoring the double entendre, you'll usually get back what you put in.
Hi there, We just joined too and are having great fun just finding our way around the site. I think your profile is great. Straight to the point and very honest. Not to mention fab pics Hubby and I aren't looking to do any meets at the moment and I just reply politely when I get an invitation. I totally 'get' what you mean about getting to know a couple first and building a rapport etc. Personally the thought of making plans to meet a couple I dont know with the sole intention of naughtiness leaves me cold. The chatroom can be a bit overwhelming and I have found the best way to use chat was to regularly email can build up a bit of sexy banter and then move onto chat at a prearranged time and in a private room. That was very exciting and sexy he he. Anyway all the best and I hope you have lots of fun on here. H x
The best advice I can give is... 1. To be aware of what you are looking for. 2. Use the chatrooms, forum and search facility to their fullest to find someone that meet what you are looking for. 3. Read their profile and ensure that you meet what they are looking for. 4. Arrange a meet and bang away until your heart's content, and other bodily parts as well of course. For me the key is number three, because there is no point wasting your time, and the other persons if you aren't looking for the same thing in the first place. From personal experience we have found that the busiest nights in the chatrooms are fridays and sundays, so if your feeling a little overwhelmed then maybe another night would suit you better for now, or even during the day time. Hope you find what you are looking for, and if you want any advice feel free to email us
Go as slow as the slowest wants. Please say sorry your not for me as soon as you know. I am still chatting to couples and ladies I know I will never bed. Sex is not everything. As for clubs, there are many and not all the same, take your time in everything. Good luck Travis
when there's doubt. there is no doubt. take your time to get to know people. play safe and good luck. lovely bunch of people here and your profile is good. welcome.
I'll be honest Your a couple looking for an extra bloke. Do what ever you want :twisted: Seriously if you are prepared to meet there's a bloke that will meet you and you have the biggest pool to choose from in single men. You could make a mistake or abuse everyone in the chat or forum and less than 1% of the site will notice. Just have a semi legible profile some good pics and if your prepared to meet you will get there. The only very minor issue here is at this site you have more competition in couples seeking men or more couples where its the preferable option. There are other sites where more couples seek couples so more men are left on the sidelines. Enjoy your stay
Well I think just about everything has been mentioned. But just wanted to welcome you guys to the site. We have been here for a few months now and learnt so much talking to people in the chat rooms. We are going to our first social in May and don't plan on playing with anyone else this time, although after a few drinks we may go and have fun in the play area together :-) Either way we are now confident we will have a great night even if we stay in the social area and simply dance the night away!
Another tip: Stay away from that SinSi. He's only after one thing! Fortunately it's just your ironing! :giggle: :welcome: to the :swingingchair: madhouse!
Hi and a delayed welcome to the site ! As for pointers I would say make use of the forums to ask questions and to read other peoples comments. Also the chat rooms are very good ways of seeing and talking to people as well as having a laugh along the way, which after all is what this scene is supposed to be about ! Lastly the final thing is to remember why you joined the scene and what you want from it as a couple and don't let other people try and persuade you that you should do something that doesn't feel right for you. Have fun and enjoy yourselves ! TC Giles x
:welcome: to :swingingchair: As most have already posted advice I think the following encapsulates all: 'Lastly the final thing is to remember why you joined the scene and what you want from it as a couple and don't let other people try and persuade you that you should do something that doesn't feel right for you' My own advice, you'll be quoted in the Forum, respect others opinions, enjoy the banter. You've probably joined the best site.
Quote by Cubes Another tip: Stay away from that SinSi. He's only after one thing! Fortunately it's just your ironing! :giggle: :welcome: to the :swingingchair: madhouse!
Quote by SinSi Another tip: Stay away from that SinSi. He's only after one thing! Fortunately it's just your ironing! :giggle: :welcome: to the :swingingchair: madhouse!
you say that as if it was a bad thing?! so when ya coming doing mine ?
Quote by Please say sorry your not for me as soon as you know. I am still chatting to couples and ladies I know I will never bed.
For a moment there I thought you are still talking to them while waiting for them to admit it!
Quote by EurekaParties Lastly the final thing is to remember why you joined the scene and what you want from it as a couple and don't let other people try and persuade you that you should do something that doesn't feel right for you.
:thumbup: Great bit of advice there... for a place/practice that is very free-form/no-rules but can often involve more than a fair amount of arm-twisting. Stay true to your own exploration! And join the social side of things, sounds like you're well-suited for that and would enjoy it.
Quote by pebble Please say sorry your not for me as soon as you know. I am still chatting to couples and ladies I know I will never bed.
For a moment there I thought you are still talking to them while waiting for them to admit it! No, just like to know where I am. I happy just chattting to nice peeps. ....now what did you want to admit Pebble?
Swinging Heaven features sexually explicit material. To access this site you must be of the legal age to engage with the material of an adult site.
By entering Swinging Heaven you agree to the following;
I am deemed an adult where I live, and I am at least 18 years old
I am allowed to access & view sexually explicit material
our expectations are....."see how it goes" 
