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I am a great believer in fate, I think that our lives are mapped out and no matter what route we take the destination will be the same.
Although I am in no way religious and do not believe in some superior being controlling us and yes to a point we dictate by our decisions at the time but I'm convinced there are certain things of significance that are meant to happen at a particular point in our lives
I know you will say that whatever decision we make we will always meet somebody if we so wish but after 22 years of marriage to MrsFC, hardly an argument and she still turns me on, I believe I have met my soulmate, Fate.
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I am a great believer in fate, I think that our lives are mapped out and no matter what route we take the destination will be the same.

Then I think there's leafs on my line. :cry:
In seriousness, I know lots of people think this way, and I'm sure it's very sweet and stuff. I don't like to criticise other people's inner beliefs, but all I can say is that in twenty-seven years of living I've not had one thing happen to me that's made me think this way. Everything that I've seen, everything I've done and everything I've regretted has made me believe, more and more, that life - and fate - is what you make of it. I've had my share of luck and some of it's been very good, and some of it's been very bad, but I can look at my life and say, the bits that are good, I did them. And the bits that are bad, they're because I didn't try hard enough. And I find that reassuring.
I hope nobody's offended by that; it's just the way I see things.
Not on mine. I don`t believe in fate, I believe in circumstance
but then I`m a cynical bitch like that! :P
Venusxxx
Oh I do believe in Fate.
Several turning points have happened in my life for it to be circumstance. Not all of them good things, but necessary things, which in the long run have certainly benefitted me.
Maybe I just see a lesson to be learnt in everything, causing the benefit, but I don't think so. People have been placed in my life at the strangest and most right of times and for the most needed reasons for it to be coincidence.
The fact I'm posting just below Misschief could be called fate or circumstance - in this case it's pure circumstance.
However the fact that I was due to leave this forum early on, was convinced to stay and ended up meeting Misschief on here - out of all the places either of us could have been members - has to have a certain amount of fate built in,- surely ?
I'm not saying every item of life is pre-destined but it is weird how some things happen - this being the perfect example...........unless of course I'm just a soppy old romantic looking to attribute it to something outside the corporeal ?
Hmmmm, interesting topic though
Carpathian
This is far too interesting a subject to dismiss in a couple of sentences, but if I go on at length I will bore you all to tears (again!).
As succinctly as I can: I believe that we do exercise our own will and, by and large, make our own decisions. BUT sometimes things happen, or people come into your life, through the strangest circumstances and it seems too much for it to be pure coincidence.
At such times I do think that certain things are 'meant' to happen. Where our will comes into it is whether or not we take advantage of those moments.
There are so many similarities and common interests that I have with a certain person on here - some of which are VERY spooky indeed. We live at opposite ends of the country and there is no way our paths would normally have crossed. We joined this Forum quite independently just one week apart from each other. That is just the first in a long line of 'coincidences' which have made both of us stop and think.
Yes fate plays a part, but we need to listen to what it is trying to tell us.
Will (feeling very philosophical!)
One in a million chances happen nine times out of ten :
Sorry, too much Pratchet! :lol
Venusxxx
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One in a million chances happen nine times out of ten

Oooooh that's good, that's very good.
Sooooooo true
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There are so many similarities and common interests that I have with a certain person on here - some of which are VERY spooky indeed. We live at opposite ends of the country and there is no way our paths would normally have crossed. We joined this Forum quite independently just one week apart from each other. That is just the first in a long line of 'coincidences' which have made both of us stop and think.
Yes fate plays a part, but we need to listen to what it is trying to tell us.

Well said Will, this is a handful of sentences that could have come out of my mouth too - maybe this place has more than it's fair share of fate - somewhat of a fate puddle perhaps in which we're happening to splash !!
I feel a very romantic sentiment running through the site tonight. All this talk of weddings and fate. Is Darius in? I'm sure he'd be feeling the love as well.
lol lol
Fate? Yes, I believe in it, in particular, the appearance of 'crossroads' at which we are given the choice of which way to go.
I also believe in a more 'formulated'and deeper lying fate. I 've had two occasions where I was very close to 'no longer being here'. On both these occasions, fate stepped in. Self delusion? Maybe.
Atificer
(Self deluded but ALIVE!)
I believe in chance happenings.
These are complemented by free will decisions we make as we continuously come to minor and major forks in the road of our journeys through life.
If we happen to make a certain decision and this is combined with certain chance happenings, then this provides us good (helpful, positive) or bad (unhelpful, negative) 'luck'.
It's not all in our own hands - because all is not in our control.
(Neither is it in the control of some 'sky daddy' says this atheist)
ManAlive is singing my tune biggrin
Venusxxx