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Fear of the clique !!
Sex God
Quote by staffcple
There's a clique on here?
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Don't try and cover it up!!!
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Sex God
Quote by westerross
There's a clique on here?
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
Don't try and cover it up!!!
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We're hiding in forum chat! :mrgreen:
If people are in a 'tight spot', a 'bind', in 'coventry', in 'disgrace' etc. you sort of now where they are.
But where is a clique? It seems to be that you are not somewhere or at least not excluded from something by being in a clique.
So being in it seems meaningless, but not being in it seems to be a terrible fate indeed.
But where is a clique? It seems to be that you are not somewhere or at least not excluded from something by being in a clique.
So being in it seems meaningless, but not being in it seems to be a terrible fate indeed.
Sex God
Quote by flower411
If people are in a 'tight spot', a 'bind', in 'coventry', in 'disgrace' etc. you sort of now where they are.
But where is a clique? It seems to be that you are not somewhere or at least not excluded from something by being in a clique.
So being in it seems meaningless, but not being in it seems to be a terrible fate indeed.
Oh yeah .... but being accused of being in it when ya not ....
Where does that leave ya ??
Cliqueless
What is it anyway?? :confused:
A 'Click'
or a 'Cleek'?
And does the way you say it devide groups?? Like mums always seem to say 'Scone' rather than 'Scon'
Or maybe it's just posh speak, cos when my mums on a roll you can barely understand the daft woman, even curry house people look blank when mum orders a 'See a Batta' :shock:
Anyway, I digress - a 'Click' or a 'Cleek' (or a cliché for me mum
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If it's a Click I'm in
although I do rather like to be right posh, so could try and fit in a Cleek :happy:
A 'Click'
or a 'Cleek'?
And does the way you say it devide groups?? Like mums always seem to say 'Scone' rather than 'Scon'
Or maybe it's just posh speak, cos when my mums on a roll you can barely understand the daft woman, even curry house people look blank when mum orders a 'See a Batta' :shock:
Anyway, I digress - a 'Click' or a 'Cleek' (or a cliché for me mum
)If it's a Click I'm in
although I do rather like to be right posh, so could try and fit in a Cleek :happy: 
Quote by duncanlondon
If people are in a 'tight spot', a 'bind', in 'coventry', in 'disgrace' etc. you sort of now where they are.
But where is a clique? It seems to be that you are not somewhere or at least not excluded from something by being in a clique.
So being in it seems meaningless, but not being in it seems to be a terrible fate indeed.
Isn't Clique in Southern France somewhere?
Actually, I saw the title of thethread and the first thing that went through my mind was a reworking of Fear Of the Dark by Iron Maiden - Bruce Dickinson wailing out "Fear of the Clique, feaaaar of the Cliiiiiique, I have a constant fear, that someon'es agreeing with me..."
I'll get me coat, it's the leather with the cut off denim...
8-) 8-) 8-) 8-)There are cliques in every walk of life... they're in the school yard, the mothers who yap and coffee together, there's the cliques of the children of those mothers, they play together. There are cliques at work, in here, in there...
It's a fact of life, I long past caring and if I'm apparently 'part of one' then that's the perception of the person thinking that lol.
It's a fact of life, I long past caring and if I'm apparently 'part of one' then that's the perception of the person thinking that lol.
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
There are cliques in every walk of life... they're in the school yard, the mothers who yap and coffee together, there's the cliques of the children of those mothers, they play together. There are cliques at work, in here, in there...
It's a fact of life, I long past caring and if I'm apparently 'part of one' then that's the perception of the person thinking that lol.
Not trying to be chic, sleek, cliched or part of a clique but I wanted to wholeheartedly agree with the above statement.
But I can't as I don't want to appear part of a clique, click or just cliched.
I think cliques only exist in the mind of a person who doesn't feel they are part of it. If that isn't too cliched.
I'm off now to seek a chic sikh cliche. Either that or get my treatment sorted.
Quote by Resonance
There are cliques in every walk of life... they're in the school yard, the mothers who yap and coffee together, there's the cliques of the children of those mothers, they play together. There are cliques at work, in here, in there...
It's a fact of life, I long past caring and if I'm apparently 'part of one' then that's the perception of the person thinking that lol.
Not trying to be chic, sleek, cliched or part of a clique but I wanted to wholeheartedly agree with the above statement.
But I can't as I don't want to appear part of a clique, click or just cliched.
I think cliques only exist in the mind of a person who doesn't feel they are part of it. If that isn't too cliched.
I'm off now to seek a chic sikh cliche. Either that or get my treatment sorted.
How very well put The Clique. Something which has caused me great distress over the last few months.
A while ago, when a little 'greener' in these particular fora, I thought I had become aware of what I thought was a clique... too many people seemed to know a little too much about others, and 'in-jokes' also seemed to be a little too prevalent in postings. Sometimes appearing malicious... sometimes light-hearted, thoygh always to a degree 'exclusive'... leaving those amongst us 'outside'the 'clique' to feel excludeed and uninvolved.
However, this became less as time went by and Ibecame more aware of certain characters posting styles, and indeed became aware of certain relationships that exist here.. be they 'virtual' or 'real'. All in all quite natural really, when one considers that this is indeed supposed to be a 'community', and these were the actions and behaviours of that community expressedthrough the forum(s).
I relaxed a little and became more involved as a consequence, and my own thinking put me in a more 'involved' place. (how 'accepted' I was/am is debatable as I have become ever so slightly blind to some shenanigans as they don't concern me... I struggle on anyway... Im only here for a chuckle after all!) The choice to 'feel accepted' was mine ultimately after all, eh what?
But this brings me back to the point I made upthere^.
More recently there has been a considered and rigourous campaign waged against me...
... very very disturbing and sad to say I have allowed it to effect me really rather badly.
But tell me, what would I call such a thing and what can I do about it when it is I who I find talking about me behind my back...???
I hate me but feel there is nothing much I can do.
please help.
lp
A while ago, when a little 'greener' in these particular fora, I thought I had become aware of what I thought was a clique... too many people seemed to know a little too much about others, and 'in-jokes' also seemed to be a little too prevalent in postings. Sometimes appearing malicious... sometimes light-hearted, thoygh always to a degree 'exclusive'... leaving those amongst us 'outside'the 'clique' to feel excludeed and uninvolved.
However, this became less as time went by and Ibecame more aware of certain characters posting styles, and indeed became aware of certain relationships that exist here.. be they 'virtual' or 'real'. All in all quite natural really, when one considers that this is indeed supposed to be a 'community', and these were the actions and behaviours of that community expressedthrough the forum(s).
I relaxed a little and became more involved as a consequence, and my own thinking put me in a more 'involved' place. (how 'accepted' I was/am is debatable as I have become ever so slightly blind to some shenanigans as they don't concern me... I struggle on anyway... Im only here for a chuckle after all!) The choice to 'feel accepted' was mine ultimately after all, eh what?
But this brings me back to the point I made upthere^.
More recently there has been a considered and rigourous campaign waged against me...
... very very disturbing and sad to say I have allowed it to effect me really rather badly.
But tell me, what would I call such a thing and what can I do about it when it is I who I find talking about me behind my back...???
I hate me but feel there is nothing much I can do.
please help.
lp
Sex God
I think I can remember the era when the flaming was much more prevalent than it is now. Lots of new posters would get pilloried for what appeared to be relatively minor mistakes. On several occasions I stepped in to try and get the pack to give 'em a chance because I didn't think the new person was that bad. In 95+% of cases I was wrong and the pack had got it right. Some people have an instinct for sniffing out wankers and the roasting was in the long run the quickest way of sorting out the good 'uns from the tossers - I'm obviously not one of them. It was sort a sort of quality assurance process for the forum 
The pack, in these cases, were behaving like a clique - and as Jaymar says there are cliques in all walks of life.
But I do think that there are people here who enjoy posting openly cryptic posts about private 'jokes' with the specific purpose of making others feel excluded - that is childish behaviour and is very irritating - if you really need to share the great time you had with someone at some fantastic but secret event, where something you can't possibly mention happened, then take it to PM!!
The pack, in these cases, were behaving like a clique - and as Jaymar says there are cliques in all walks of life.
But I do think that there are people here who enjoy posting openly cryptic posts about private 'jokes' with the specific purpose of making others feel excluded - that is childish behaviour and is very irritating - if you really need to share the great time you had with someone at some fantastic but secret event, where something you can't possibly mention happened, then take it to PM!!
Sex God
Oh and lp yer one clique short of a hatrick!
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Sex God
I really must remember to recharge me fooking SoH in the mornings!!
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Sex God
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More recently there has been a considered and rigourous campaign waged against me...
... very very disturbing and sad to say I have allowed it to effect me really rather badly.
But tell me, what would I call such a thing and what can I do about it when it is I who I find talking about me behind my back...???
lp
To answer simply... This is a form of bullying, slander and malicious, vindictive, spiteful behaviour. I also guarantee the person doing it will be too much of a coward to admit to it.
When you find out what has been said, gather all the evidence you can and leave it with Admin to resolve. Then ignore the person(s) involved.
People who do this are not really a clique. They are a collection of cowards.
I'd also trust the friends you do have on here to see through this nonsense. That is the biggest mistake we made two years ago when we left the site. What caused us to leave has long since been resolved, however leaving the site allowed many other gossip merchants to feed their desire to belittle and make up their own little conspiracy theories as to who we were. It was all nonsense, but at the time it was horrible to think that your character was being blackened in such a way by people who you assumed would know better. I've since found out a great many of these people DID know better and had I trusted them, I would never have felt the need to leave.
Sadly, erudite, funny, popular posters will always be a target for the sad, lonely individual who sees them as a threat.
The best way to beat them is keep posting and be yourself. That way you'll never lose, and they'll never win.
Sex God
Good idea,
I always ignore myself too as I have never got anything interesting to say...
However if that should change, let me know and I'll read it.
I always ignore myself too as I have never got anything interesting to say...
However if that should change, let me know and I'll read it.