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Il scratch your back but i dont have any gossip though :P
Quote by Sgt Bilko
To put it simply, there will never be a verification/ feedback system on this site for the reasons already outlined.
I shall say no more!:lol: :lol: :lol:
Never say never. :lol:
This site could easily be sold to someone else and their views may well be different to those currently held.
Peoples attitudes change and owners come and go. I think a feedback system of sorts would work if done right, but the powers that be think differently. So until that changes, if it ever changes, there will not be a feedback system. But as I started off by saying...never say never. :lol:
Sex God
Quote by __random_orbit__
Il scratch your back but i dont have any gossip though :P
oh well.... who ae we gonna talk about?
lp
Price of cheese always a good subject :giggle:
Quote by TanKinky
Il scratch your back but i dont have any gossip though :P
oh well.... who ae we gonna talk about?
lp
Price of cheese always a good subject :giggle:
and bread!
have you seen the price of bread recently?
Outrageous!
How's a fella supposed to put together a decent ploughmans these days when those two basic products have sky-rocketed to such a massive degree?
I'm a simple man of simple tastes... just a nice Cheddar and a simple crusty loaf and Im happy.
No more... dreadfull
lp
Sex God
Quote by __random_orbit__
Il scratch your back but i dont have any gossip though :P
oh well.... who ae we gonna talk about?
lp
Price of cheese always a good subject :giggle:
and bread!
have you seen the price of bread recently?
Outrageous!
How's a fella supposed to put together a decent ploughmans these days when those two basic products have sky-rocketed to such a massive degree?
I'm a simple man of simple tastes... just a nice Cheddar and a simple crusty loaf and Im happy.
No more... dreadfull
lp
and the stupid price of decent butter tis to much for mere mortals like ourselfs
Sex God
Quote by Peanut
If one thing swingers hate it's being judged by the vanilla community. Getting a feedback system is the equivalent of being judged by your own community.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't come here to be judged by anyone, much less someone I just shagged.
Ooooo that's a good point!
Its only myself and Ian that need to know what I get up to. I don't ever see a benefit of any kind of system for anyone other than to brag to others which I don't need to do.
I hate anything and everything that makes any of my actions public to every member and just don't get why its needed.
It also takes away any privacy that I have :shock:
What does anyone gain from knowing who MYfriends are or who I have met
I hate anything and everything that makes any of my actions public to every member and just don't get why its needed.
It also takes away any privacy that I have :shock:
What does anyone gain from knowing who MYfriends are or who I have met
I think the idea that one is going to be dragged through the mud by being verified is again a bit over dramatic.
Other sites are quite reasonable in their verification systems, usually a simple compliment is made and its no more than saying to people, feel reassured these people are genuine and do what they say etc. The verifications are also screened for abuse and people seeking revenge etc.
So really is not as bad as people are feeling and thinking about it, by getting into this type of argument on this site.
There seems to be a 'high church' approach to this and other arguments on this site.
Other sites are quite reasonable in their verification systems, usually a simple compliment is made and its no more than saying to people, feel reassured these people are genuine and do what they say etc. The verifications are also screened for abuse and people seeking revenge etc.
So really is not as bad as people are feeling and thinking about it, by getting into this type of argument on this site.
There seems to be a 'high church' approach to this and other arguments on this site.
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
I think the idea that one is going to be dragged through the mud by being verified is again a bit over dramatic.
Other sites are quite reasonable in their verification systems, usually a simple compliment is made and its no more than saying to people, feel reassured these people are genuine and do what they say etc. The verifications are also screened for abuse and people seeking revenge etc.
So really is not as bad as people are feeling and thinking about it, by getting into this type of argument on this site.
There seems to be a 'high church' approach to this and other arguments on this site.
For me Duncan, it is simply a matter of discretion. Yes, I am a member of this site. Yes, I choose to post in the forums etc. Yes, I choose to meet other likeminded people from the site.
But who I meet, what for, when and how many quite frankly, in my opinion, should be a matter for me and me alone.
People leaving feedback about me would completely negate any sort of discretion, however bland the feedback or however thoroughly it was checked. I simply don't think it is anyone's business.
Quote by Dawnie
Its only myself and Ian that need to know what I get up to. I don't ever see a benefit of any kind of system for anyone other than to brag to others which I don't need to do.
I hate anything and everything that makes any of my actions public to every member and just don't get why its needed.
It also takes away any privacy that I have :shock:
What does anyone gain from knowing who MY friends are or who I have met
Dawnie its not like anyone has to leave feedback. You can meet people and between the said parties can opt not to leave any comments.
People are acting as though feedback HAS to be left, it does not. If people want to remain discreet and leave no feedback or put any on, then they don't have to. It is only for people who WANT to leave feedback. The feedback system on LS is not compulsary at all, but it does seem to work.
We have met many people and to be honest We don't know if we would either leave feedback or agree to anything being said about us but...with feedback it does give people the choice if that is what they want to do. I cannot really see a problem with people were forced to leave feedback that would not work and I would def be against that, but as long as both parties agree to it,that sounds like an adult decision.
It's called giving people a choice as there does seem to be a lot of people who want it hence why this subject keeps popping up on a very regular basis. Quote by kentswingers777
Its only myself and Ian that need to know what I get up to. I don't ever see a benefit of any kind of system for anyone other than to brag to others which I don't need to do.
I hate anything and everything that makes any of my actions public to every member and just don't get why its needed.
It also takes away any privacy that I have :shock:
What does anyone gain from knowing who MY friends are or who I have met
Dawnie its not like anyone has to leave feedback. You can meet people and between the said parties can opt not to leave any comments.
People are acting as though feedback HAS to be left, it does not. If people want to remain discreet and leave no feedback or put any on, then they don't have to. It is only for people who WANT to leave feedback. The feedback system on LS is not compulsary at all, but it does seem to work.
We have met many people and to be honest We don't know if we would either leave feedback or agree to anything being said about us but...with feedback it does give people the choice if that is what they want to do. I cannot really see a problem with people were forced to leave feedback that would not work and I would def be against that, but as long as both parties agree to it,that sounds like an adult decision.
It's called giving people a choice as there does seem to be a lot of people who want it hence why this subject keeps popping up on a very regular basis.But the downside to that is the discrete people end up looking like timewasters next to "Miss_I_fuck_anyone_69" with 47 positive feedbacks, do they not?
Quote by winchwench
Its only myself and Ian that need to know what I get up to. I don't ever see a benefit of any kind of system for anyone other than to brag to others which I don't need to do.
I hate anything and everything that makes any of my actions public to every member and just don't get why its needed.
It also takes away any privacy that I have :shock:
What does anyone gain from knowing who MY friends are or who I have met
Dawnie its not like anyone has to leave feedback. You can meet people and between the said parties can opt not to leave any comments.
People are acting as though feedback HAS to be left, it does not. If people want to remain discreet and leave no feedback or put any on, then they don't have to. It is only for people who WANT to leave feedback. The feedback system on LS is not compulsary at all, but it does seem to work.
We have met many people and to be honest We don't know if we would either leave feedback or agree to anything being said about us but...with feedback it does give people the choice if that is what they want to do. I cannot really see a problem with people were forced to leave feedback that would not work and I would def be against that, but as long as both parties agree to it,that sounds like an adult decision.
It's called giving people a choice as there does seem to be a lot of people who want it hence why this subject keeps popping up on a very regular basis.But the downside to that is the discrete people end up looking like timewasters next to "Miss_I_fuck_anyone_69" with 47 positive feedbacks, do they not?
Agreed. They either all leave them or none do as anything in-between defeats the whole purpose of the thing.
PS: Do you have Miss_I_fuck_anyone_69's phone number :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by Peanut
PS: Do you have Miss_I_fuck_anyone_69's phone number :twisted:
Yes she does :twisted: Its mine
I am not sure if the arguments are effective for or against verifying. I mean how far does one go to argue the need for one's discretion without being indiscreet?
One thing that does occur even on a non verifying site is the recounting of a meeting, usually to someone's dissapointment; where although no names are mentioned, you can be sure the other person (offender) knows you are talking about them. They could be offended also, and would not want to start a tit for tat argument; which would be stopped by the mods anyway.
Equally one could be perpetrating a corker of a lie, but we; the audience are being invited to believe in the integrity of one side of the argument. That's unfair and tedious.
Is this kind of thing fair? Non verifying does not prevent this. But verifying might do. So in some way non verifying can encourage this kind of behaviour.
Verifying is no good if you tell people you are getting a crap deal out of a meeting with other members. People will always think there's no smoke without fire etc. So the feedback that is produced is reasonably benign and in effect almost a formality.
So I think its down to one's own confidence in how one deals with such things.
One thing that does occur even on a non verifying site is the recounting of a meeting, usually to someone's dissapointment; where although no names are mentioned, you can be sure the other person (offender) knows you are talking about them. They could be offended also, and would not want to start a tit for tat argument; which would be stopped by the mods anyway.
Equally one could be perpetrating a corker of a lie, but we; the audience are being invited to believe in the integrity of one side of the argument. That's unfair and tedious.
Is this kind of thing fair? Non verifying does not prevent this. But verifying might do. So in some way non verifying can encourage this kind of behaviour.
Verifying is no good if you tell people you are getting a crap deal out of a meeting with other members. People will always think there's no smoke without fire etc. So the feedback that is produced is reasonably benign and in effect almost a formality.
So I think its down to one's own confidence in how one deals with such things.
Sex God
Quote by Peanut
PS: Do you have Miss_I_fuck_anyone_69's phone number :twisted:
Yes she does :twisted: Its mine
Well then.... I'm waiting...
:P:giggle:
Sex God
Quote by peanut
:giggle:
I find that hard to swallow
I dont i swallow well
every last...... drop Sex God
Quote by Peanut
:giggle:
I find that hard to swallow
I dont i swallow well
every last...... dropI suppose you could call that a blow-by-blow description! :roll:
The only thing my wife ever swallowed was my enthusiasm for sex with her
Aww :therethere: :giggle:
Quote by TanKinky
:giggle:
I find that hard to swallow
I dont i swallow well
every last...... dropI suppose you could call that a blow-by-blow description! :roll:
The only thing my wife ever swallowed was my enthusiasm for sex with her
Aww :therethere: :giggle:
But now, I'm old, free and single (the mutt doesn't count!) and starting to forget....
...what was it we were talking about again?
Oh yeah, swallowing.... mmmmm
I actually think verifications are not a bad thing. As long as the person being verified has the final work, ie decision on if it gets displayed or not and can delete at will. There is another site where this is the case and it works well.
Verifications can be the reason between deciding to meet someone or not, or inviting to a party or not. If you can see someone has met one or two people and everyone is happy, it is a good form of reassurance, even though you can't go by that alone.
Having said that, when you see people with pages of verifications that can be off putting too, so it's everything in moderation. Choose the ones to keep wisely and remain in control.
Verifications can be the reason between deciding to meet someone or not, or inviting to a party or not. If you can see someone has met one or two people and everyone is happy, it is a good form of reassurance, even though you can't go by that alone.
Having said that, when you see people with pages of verifications that can be off putting too, so it's everything in moderation. Choose the ones to keep wisely and remain in control.
Quote by venus68
I actually think verifications are not a bad thing. As long as the person being verified has the final work, ie decision on if it gets displayed or not and can delete at will. There is another site where this is the case and it works well.
Verifications can be the reason between deciding to meet someone or not, or inviting to a party or not. If you can see someone has met one or two people and everyone is happy, it is a good form of reassurance, even though you can't go by that alone.
Having said that, when you see people with pages of verifications that can be off putting too, so it's everything in moderation. Choose the ones to keep wisely and remain in control.
So if I had 5 verifications, four of them could say "Timewaster- didn't show up" and one could say "great meet, " I would just show the favourable one, which would then give an utterly misleading view.
That to me sounds much worse than no verification.
People seem to be worried that members of a site are going to get bad or incorrect publicity. I think there are plenty of laws about slander and defamation of character to protect against such a thing. Such laws are held equally on web sites, by the operators. Like this one.
As I said before it would be no good in publicising a crap meeting. So few would do this even if it was allowed. Therefore people would verify all those with whom they had a decent encounter, and forget about the crap events.
So I think that the current 'feelings' about this are again getting a little bit over the top.
As I said before it would be no good in publicising a crap meeting. So few would do this even if it was allowed. Therefore people would verify all those with whom they had a decent encounter, and forget about the crap events.
So I think that the current 'feelings' about this are again getting a little bit over the top.
So if only good feedback is allowed, it's then nothing more than a popularity chart 
:? :?
People will be contacting each other asking for them to add to their feedback chart and they'll do the same :? After all, the more feedback you get, the better person you obviously are :? :? :? :?
Then the thousands and thousands of people that don't and won't get any feedback are, by default, considered timewasters and v. unpopular :? :? :?
Blow that for a lark :?
:? :?People will be contacting each other asking for them to add to their feedback chart and they'll do the same :? After all, the more feedback you get, the better person you obviously are :? :? :? :?
Then the thousands and thousands of people that don't and won't get any feedback are, by default, considered timewasters and v. unpopular :? :? :?
Blow that for a lark :?
Verification comes down to one persons word against another. If one person is given bad feedback,and it's all a tissue of lies, how can they prove that?
Of course, no-one would dream of lying out of pique, or because of rejection, would they? Or, in extreme cases,
give bad feedback for a meet that never existed.
Of course, no-one would dream of lying out of pique, or because of rejection, would they? Or, in extreme cases,
give bad feedback for a meet that never existed.
