Quote by kentswingers777
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Why is it that people make such sweeping assumptions? As far as I can see no-one is 'pushing for verification', they are simply discussing the pros and cons of feedback systems and whether they believe they have any value. To suggest that the only reason for wanting feedback is to 'brag' or be 'indescrete' is as ridiculous as saying the only reason anyone would object to feedback is if they have something to hide!
People are pushing for it, or the thread would not have been started asking if the site could have it, or perhaps I have read the first post wrong and the OP is saying what a relief it is to be on a site that doesnt have such 'silly' (and yes, you can now have a dig over that as well) systems where people can only get a shag if they have three stars or more, against their profile.
Also, my statement was not ridiculas, it was my opinion. I dont say that anything you have said is ridiculous. I have conducted a grown up discussion without having personal digs at you, and I do not resort to throwing insults or being rude to people.
If a verification system is not to show off who you've had sex with, then what is it for? It only says that you were genuine or turned up for one meet (or how many verifications you allowed to be seen/held on yor profile). It proves nothing. It doesn prove if you will turn up to the next. It doesnt help any new swingers who have not got round to shagging half the site, but then again, maybe they are not genuine unless they have the 'verification' thing against their names. Perhaps we should do what I have seen on another site where you cant go to a social or a munch unless you have been verified! Now that would be a great idea wouldnt it, and really welcoming for any new members.
Quote by Unc
I wouldn't support any feedback system that didn't allow those who chose not to use it to have that freedom. I wouldn't support any feedback system that did not have the option of being private for invited people only. I believe that people should have as much personal choice as possible with the proviso that their choices don't adversely affect others. Unfortunately there are far too many people here, as in all aspects of life, who seek to limit other peoples choices based on their own preferences, beliefs and assumptions.
Right, so I decide I dont want to be part of this verification thing, and dont have any on my profile. So what does that tell the people who are appear to be obessed with 'guarantees' to their swinging partners? It doesn't say this person doesnt want their private lives flashing all over the place, it says this person is not/cannot be verified. So just because some people want to change the site from a system which has worked for over 4 years, then the ones who dont want to be 'limited by other peoples choices, based on their own preferences, beliefs and assumptions' (your words) the rest of us have to put up with it? If people were so desperate for verification, why not just join a site which has it, rather than try and change this one?
This site has never had any verification system and has still managed to become as big as it is. As the saying goes, if it aint broke, dont fix it.
Sorry but we find that comment quite insulting.
We use LS have had a few meets and only have one feedback, and we have only given one back. We don't want to meet people who have loads of feedbacks. But a lot of feedbacks on LS just say " nice couple, turned up as arranged ". Does everyone shag others just because they show up? Because we certainly do not and we make that quite clear when we meet people.
I cannot understand people who dont want a feedback system, what their problem is really. :shock: If there was a feedback system on this site NOBODY has to use those who dont want it why moan about others who do want it? :shock: It is not compulsary to put feedback, if it was I could understand the strong feelings.
To be blunt there are loads of timewasters on this site and for us on LS if we see a profile with a couple of feedbacks where it says they turned up AS ARRANGED, there surely has to be some benefit to that.
I feel it is a silly comment to say people only want it for notches on their bedposts! We most certainly dont want it for that reason, and am sure nor do others we have met. It is purely to know that people have turned up for meets in the past. If people don't want it then they don't have to use it period.
Kent, a couple of people- including myself, have explained why we don't want it. :thumbup: