When people post on here asking how they can improve their chances of meeting, forumites dish out the same advice over and over ... post in the forum and get yourself known.
I was just wondering how many of you have actually met and played with people who post in the forums? Would you be more inclined to play with someone who you have got to know via the forum rather than someone who doesnt post?
Have you made attempts to meet someone or been turned off because of something they have written in the forum?
We have met and played with people from the forum and have made arrangements to meet others. I'm not sure we would have stumbled accross them if it werent for posting in here.
I'm not trying to find out who's done who ... was just wondering how many of you it actually has helped.
We have met a few folk having been attracted by their forum posts.
We have also gone to socials specifically to meet folk that came to our attention through the forums. Deans midlands camp s a good example, where I thought he seems like a really decent bloke I bet the folk who go to that camp are a nice bunch and I was right. We went to the Wigan munch cos of NWCs forum activity too and that was also full of lovely folk.
When we go to socials or club meets I tend to make a point of saying howdy to folk Ive taken a shine to on the forums.
In terms of being put off, I try really hard not to decide until Ive met them. That said I have never actually met anybody I have taken a dislike to on the forums at any of the events we attend.
Double edged sword in my opinion, you can put a lot of folk oFf that choose to judge you on what you say instead of how you play.
We have given this a lot of thought and we chat and have banter on these forums because we dont realy care about the meets side of things it may or may not bring.. been swinging long enough to not worry in that respect, we know there are very many we will never meet and certainly never swing with that we are familiar with through this forum. Sometimes its because of the familiarity we wont swing ..sometimes because of opinions.. sometimes because we get a silly picture in our minds of people that possibly is nothing like their reality..all based on this place.. mainly though im sure because you think im a gobby arse..
You do have to wonder though .. do we make judgements on who to approach based on the wrong reasons.. our play criteria is bordering on the difficult to impossible to find at the best of times.
No doubt it helps people meet.. socials and in the old days munches , met rose like that and other very close pals/playmates..
However im a big believer in not getting too familiar with people, its why we keep a distance from the local scene ,im sure on here too people are too quick to make a call on who you are based on a few snippets of crap presented in possibly the worst form of communication there is..an internet forum! cest la vie.
Some you win some you have to expect to lose.
Come the day we stop playing to discuss politics or mid blow job start nattering about the best film ever, then maybe ill sit up and take more note.
personally i dont think we have or will ever have made a playmate from something we have said here.. but you dont have to say owt to attend an event..
staggy (well aware sitting quietly in the shadows would bring more playmates)
Personally, if people have posted in the forum or not is not a major decider for us - chatting in the chat rooms or meeting at a social / party give us a much better view.
Although, seeing what some people post in here, along with some of the vitriol would put us off meeting some of them.
Yep..everyone we have met up with was originally caught..ahem met in the forum :notes:
Ref to what wild rose and the stag and Neil have said above.
TBH i dont pay anywhere near as much attention. The reason for that? I am here to fuck people not agree with them. Anyone whos taking in my/our view on this that and every other subject then probably does not fit in to our criteria anyway. I/we could read posts from here disagree with 99.9% of it but find the person/s generally well presented polite and to our physical taste and still shag them. When at 8pm on a Friday night you meet us for social drink what you get is social Tweeky/s layed back relaxed and up for a laugh. We dont expect to be debating with you politics our view on abortion or the possible reinstatement of the JFF forum. To me this is just a forum you are all avatars until I meet you in person and only then can I actually evaluate you for swinging or any other purposes. There are enough barriers in swinging anyway i.e. preferences, attraction, location etc etc without scrutinizing peoples forum views down to the last letter.
2900+ posts various sessions in chat and 10 odd socials and munchs later including hosting three and not a sausage or a kebab. We have met people from the forum many times in fact some times we tried to work stuff out but other stuff got in the way time distance etc. Like I say we have had offers and we made offers that were accepted they just never developed any further. I still believe it could happen from here but I dont hold my breath. In contrast 1 week some photos and an ad on another site and we got a meet in no time flat. Didnt use the forums or go in chat there :lol:
