finding a healthy balance

2 Jan 2014

For most couples on here I guess there is a danger that all things related to swinging can and does at some point take over their sex life. To a point where they rarely actually make love rather than just having sex. Hey that's great and fine, however I am sure some of us also long for normal intimate lovemaking without mentioning swinging,threesomes, etc.....
My point is how do you find the balance between the two ??
Ok I am sure some will say they don't need to find balance, some will find it easier to switch from one and the other and some will say can't understand your problem.
But there must be others who long for a balance between one and the other ??

4 Jan 2014

Pretty much the same goes for us as Ste n Kez Jools. swinging is never a regular thing with us either. We have been known to swing four times in one week once yet go six months and more between so no hard and fast scheduling here. As for losing interest between the two of us in the sex and making love side then, so far, its not made any difference unless its been to add too what we already had which was and is already good. Communication is everything.