Hi there,
We have been members on SH for about 8 months. Not super active/logged in, but even when we are, we seem to attract HARDCORE swingers, we have limitation on our profile and not looking for guys or someone with 30 years experience or aged 60.
Is this website a waste of time and only good for Hardcore swingers????
We haven't done anything yet as per issue above. We normal with normal play ideas.
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The free sites probably get more traffic for new swingers simply because they are free.
Its very hard to find local people who ring your bells, whatever your preferences.
Getting out n about and meeting people is how we choose to do things. We use social events and swinging clubs to do that.
Good luck.
Its very hard to find local people who ring your bells, whatever your preferences.
Getting out n about and meeting people is how we choose to do things. We use social events and swinging clubs to do that.
Good luck.
Quote by Ben_Minx
The free sites probably get more traffic for new swingers simply because they are free.
Its very hard to find local people who ring your bells, whatever your preferences.
Getting out n about and meeting people is how we choose to do things. We use social events and swinging clubs to do that.
Good luck.
:thumbup:
Social events have always been the best starting place for us, a lot easier to get the measure of someone whilst you are having a chat!
Have to say I agree with Ben.
We find there are all sorts on here and we have not had as many meets from here as we would have liked. There seems to be a heck of a lot of guys who just get their kicks from wanking on cam, which is fine but we are looking for real meets.
A lot of people on here are simply just not looking to play for many reasons, but socials are a great way of meeting people. Clubs are also good as people are there mainly for sex, but even there you will get hardcore swingers,in fact more so than on an internet site.
Going into a regional room and then chatting to people and going to a social, is a great way of meeting people. But then some people on here want to meet hardcore swingers, as they know what they want without all the mucking around.
You really just need to know what you guys want from swinging, and for many this site meets their criteria's and for others it does not. Same with anything else in life I suppose.
We find there are all sorts on here and we have not had as many meets from here as we would have liked. There seems to be a heck of a lot of guys who just get their kicks from wanking on cam, which is fine but we are looking for real meets.
A lot of people on here are simply just not looking to play for many reasons, but socials are a great way of meeting people. Clubs are also good as people are there mainly for sex, but even there you will get hardcore swingers,in fact more so than on an internet site.
Going into a regional room and then chatting to people and going to a social, is a great way of meeting people. But then some people on here want to meet hardcore swingers, as they know what they want without all the mucking around.
You really just need to know what you guys want from swinging, and for many this site meets their criteria's and for others it does not. Same with anything else in life I suppose.
Sex God
We have only met people from this and one other site, predominantly this one. We have never been to a social or a club, purely because we've never found the time. However we would like to at some point in the future and maybe that would be the right move for you as others have suggested?
You say you have limitations on your profile, but tbh I can't really see them. Why not add some more detail to your profile such as the age range you are looking for, experience distance etc? I know you'll still get contacted by some people you dont want to meet, but hopefully it will be fewer.
Oh, and :welcome: to the forums, which is another way of getting to know people
You say you have limitations on your profile, but tbh I can't really see them. Why not add some more detail to your profile such as the age range you are looking for, experience distance etc? I know you'll still get contacted by some people you dont want to meet, but hopefully it will be fewer.
Oh, and :welcome: to the forums, which is another way of getting to know people
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Hi there,
We have been members on SH for about 8 months. Not super active/logged in, but even when we are, we seem to attract HARDCORE swingers, we have limitation on our profile and not looking for guys or someone with 30 years experience or aged 60.
Is this website a waste of time and only good for Hardcore swingers????
We haven't done anything yet as per issue above. We normal with normal play ideas.
Firstly, I don't think it has anything to do with being hardcore or not, for a start people have different opinions of what hardcore is.
Some think it is having few boundaries as to what you will or won't do.
Some think it is playing often.
Some think it is playing in large groups.
Personally hardcore in my mind is .... playing for the sake of it, ie play with anyone, no need for sexual chemistry, no need for any sexual attraction, a body is a body and you play with it, nobody at the party/club/website you fancy so you will play with anybody who is willing.
Now that means (to me at least) that if you are hardcore your going to find it much easier to meet compatible people on any website wether you have paid to be a member or not, and the same goes for finding people at clubs, parties or meets.
Those that have strict criteria (like us) will find it much harder to find compatible people, the more criteria or personal desires, the odds lengthen.
As a guy I am lucky, I find Sasha extremely attractive and therefore will not play with anyone just for the sake of it, I have to find the person I am going to play with sexually attractive both in looks, body shape and personality.
I am of the firm opinion that swinging as it is called is just a natural human trait, as humans we like variety in everything we do, and that includes our sex lives, so I believe you can love one person but need sex with others simply for the variety, but I can be satisfied with very occasional variety in who I have sex with, it doesn't have to be every week, every month or even every year, so to that end I am happier to have a lot of personal criteria and less opportunity in my swinging lifestyle and accept that I am not going to find many people that fit that criteria at least knowing that when I do it will be extra special.
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Have to say I agree with Ben.
We find there are all sorts on here and we have not had as many meets from here as we would have liked. There seems to be a heck of a lot of guys who just get their kicks from wanking on cam, which is fine but we are looking for real meets.
A lot of people on here are simply just not looking to play for many reasons, but socials are a great way of meeting people. Clubs are also good as people are there mainly for sex, but even there you will get hardcore swingers,in fact more so than on an internet site.
Going into a regional room and then chatting to people and going to a social, is a great way of meeting people. But then some people on here want to meet hardcore swingers, as they know what they want without all the mucking around.
You really just need to know what you guys want from swinging, and for many this site meets their criteria's and for others it does not. Same with anything else in life I suppose.
Thank you
Warming the Bed
the internet is not the best way to meet people go to a social or a club just to get a feel for whats happening out there that way you can chat face to face how ever long someone has been a swinger doesnt turn them into bad people there a many newbies who are obnoxious as well
Sexpert
Quote by blondieuk25
Hi there,
We have been members on SH for about 8 months. Not super active/logged in, but even when we are, we seem to attract HARDCORE swingers, we have limitation on our profile and not looking for guys or someone with 30 years experience or aged 60.
Is this website a waste of time and only good for Hardcore swingers????
We haven't done anything yet as per issue above. We normal with normal play ideas.
Kind of agree with other comments, Social gatherings are a good place to start, also if you do go in the chat rooms you can start building friendships, swap emails and get to know another couple who have the same outlook as you two do. Yes the "I only live 5 mins away" crowd will pester you but ignore them, you didn't invite them to whisper so dont feel bad not replying to people you dont want to. We have only been on the site a few months but have made some good friends we are never going to even meet but enjoy chatting to. It is a swinging site but it is not all about sex (if that makes sense)
