Hi everyone.
I'm a single fem, i've met (online) a couple i'm thinking of meeting up with. This will be my absolute first time - can someone give me advice on how to make it go as well as possible? What will be expected on the first meet? what if we all meet and we don't find each other attractive? (I've seen photos, but real life might be different). What if we get going, then part way along i have a killer attack of nerves and want to run away? When should i ask about using a condom? I dont wanna appear rude, especially as the couple seem really pleasant - but these things are putting me off doing it at all. I suppose what i really need is some guidelines as to swinging etiquette. Thanks! x
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First meet nerves - advice please
Sex God
hi cherrytree
:welcome: you've come to the right place
best advice would be to put your safety first, meet in a pub or bar etc. until you feel happy with them, let them know you're a bit nervous and don't be afraid to stop midway if you're not comfortable, if they are genuine they should understand. as for the condom issue, as soon as possible. again its a safety thing you don't know their backgrounds and they don't know yours so its best for everyone.
im sure you'll get lots more good advice here, but as a single guy i'd have no problems with anything i've suggested, were all here to have fun.
happy swinging and i hope it all goes well
:welcome: you've come to the right place
best advice would be to put your safety first, meet in a pub or bar etc. until you feel happy with them, let them know you're a bit nervous and don't be afraid to stop midway if you're not comfortable, if they are genuine they should understand. as for the condom issue, as soon as possible. again its a safety thing you don't know their backgrounds and they don't know yours so its best for everyone.
im sure you'll get lots more good advice here, but as a single guy i'd have no problems with anything i've suggested, were all here to have fun.
happy swinging and i hope it all goes well
Sex God
Quote by Cherrytree
Hi everyone.
I'm a single fem, i've met (online) a couple i'm thinking of meeting up with. This will be my absolute first time - can someone give me advice on how to make it go as well as possible? What will be expected on the first meet? what if we all meet and we don't find each other attractive? (I've seen photos, but real life might be different). What if we get going, then part way along i have a killer attack of nerves and want to run away? When should i ask about using a condom? I dont wanna appear rude, especially as the couple seem really pleasant - but these things are putting me off doing it at all. I suppose what i really need is some guidelines as to swinging etiquette. Thanks! x
What happens on the first meet is entirely up to YOU and the couple concerned. Do not do anything you feel uncomfortable with, even if you feel obliged to - swinging is not about obligation, it is about fun. If you want to set out rules before hand, that's fine - but don't feel obliged to stick exactly to your rules - you are allowed to change your mind! If you don't find them attractive, be polite and walk away.... no harm done. Just meet them for a drink first and check them out if you are nervous about playing on the first meet. Make your concerns clear and I'm sure they will try to put your fears to rest. You should ask about using a condom NOW - but many people take safe sex as read anyway.
More than anything, just be yourself, be honest, and have fun!
Sexpert
argee with what teds said 100% but just rem if u meet at a house u are still under no obligation hun , just make sure u have a friend on speedail , if they are gen then u have np hun and its just a small precation , and make sure u have a condom with u babes as even if u dont say about it right away , no guy on the planet is going to say no to putting it on if u cross ur legs when the fun's about to begin because u feel he must wear one
matt
matt
i know everyone different but i alway make it clear first meets just for a drink, if u meet and everyone gets on fine then u can change your mind, but if u tell them ur meeting with the view to playing can u really tell them to their face sorry but i don't want to ur not my type? if u can then all well and good but if ur like me and find saying that hard 2 someones face then meeting for a drink going home and telling them on messenger ...was nice to meet u but....is much easier
as for the condom thing i think thats something to talk about pretty much str8 away
as for the condom thing i think thats something to talk about pretty much str8 away
Quote by naughtynymphos1
i know everyone different but i alway make it clear first meets just for a drink, if u meet and everyone gets on fine then u can change your mind, but if u tell them ur meeting with the view to playing can u really tell them to their face sorry but i don't want to ur not my type? if u can then all well and good but if ur like me and find saying that hard 2 someones face then meeting for a drink going home and telling them on messenger ...was nice to meet u but....is much easier
as for the condom thing i think thats something to talk about pretty much str8 away
I have to agree with you. Speaking from experience and one of the main reasons we stick to clubs and not meets. Is that we arranged to meet a cpl in a pub first and when we met them they were not like their photo and personaly they were not our cup of tea but we are not that assertive and couldn't say no as we did not wish to offend. Hence we went along with it.
As they say you live and learn. Quote by postie
If it helps... they may be as nervous, or more nervous, than you!
If you do have a serious nerves thing going on, I always find it helps to just think of it as a meet-up only. If it all goes well , you'll relax and forget about your nerves, and anything after that point is a bonus....
A bit of nerves is OK - just don't confuse nerves with doubts!
yes i have to agree with you there...........naughtynymphos1
I have a meet on friday with a man!..............i will not be on my own .......as i am taking a mate with me... also meeting at a pub....and made very sure that this is just a social!
also have spocken to him on the phone.......... and seen him on web cam :twisted: so i do no what he looks like
....................... also i asked for proof that he is who he says he is ..and he gave me the most wonderfull proff!...i could of asked for ( not telling)
so good luck! :thumbup:
I have a meet on friday with a man!..............i will not be on my own .......as i am taking a mate with me... also meeting at a pub....and made very sure that this is just a social!
also have spocken to him on the phone.......... and seen him on web cam :twisted: so i do no what he looks like
....................... also i asked for proof that he is who he says he is ..and he gave me the most wonderfull proff!...i could of asked for ( not telling)so good luck! :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by Debbiewebs
yes i have to agree with you there...........naughtynymphos1
I have a meet on friday with a man!..............i will not be on my own .......as i am taking a mate with me... also meeting at a pub....and made very sure that this is just a social!
also have spocken to him on the phone.......... and seen him on web cam :twisted: so i do no what he looks like
so good luck! :thumbup:
Oohh Deb
can I be you mate and come with you, it sounds like fun............
Quote by Sarah
yes i have to agree with you there...........naughtynymphos1
I have a meet on friday with a man!..............i will not be on my own .......as i am taking a mate with me... also meeting at a pub....and made very sure that this is just a social!
also have spocken to him on the phone.......... and seen him on web cam :twisted: so i do no what he looks like
so good luck! :thumbup:
Oohh Deb
can I be you mate and come with you, it sounds like fun............
mmmmmmm i am sure it can be arranged! :rascal:
