First move?

9 Feb 2007

Hi guys,
We're fishing for experienced advice...
We've arranged a few meets on the site; which were great. But... how does one go about meeting a cute couple in a bar somewhere?
If you meet someone how do you gat fram "hi, my name is..." to "are you both bi and do you fancy a raunchy evening?

9 Feb 2007

Firstly hello and welcome to the forums wave

nice profile BTW silly

hwoar:
ok on to your post i'm taking it your talking about someone you haven't meet through a swinging site just some one in a bar at the same time as you confused

9 Feb 2007

Hi and welcome biggrin

:welcome:
Assuming like Felixx you are talking about a non swinging situation, I would imagine it highly unlikely that:-
a you'd meet a couple in a bar
b you'd all fancy each other
c they'd be up for a night of sex
d (most importantly) - they'd be no repurcussions
Thinking statistically about it a one in xxxx (whatever anyone would guess at) number would be quite a low chance.
Your best bet is to get out to clubs parties and through these ads. We've had great success both ways. You know at least people here are looking for the same, you've just got to sift through to find your preferences.
Good luck!
pink x

9 Feb 2007

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Hi guys,
We're fishing for experienced advice...
We've arranged a few meets on the site; which were great. But... how does one go about meeting a cute couple in a bar somewhere?
If you meet someone how do you gat fram "hi, my name is..." to "are you both bi and do you fancy a raunchy evening?

Go to a swinging club with a bar dunno

11 Feb 2007

Hi guys,
Thanks for the responses. We are going to a club in March and, like we said, have arranged a few meets through this rather nice site.
I guess, ideally, we'd like the sexiness and spontaneity of meeting someone when it's not expected or actively sought after. You know?
As in, there have been several times over the last year or two when we've got to chatting with a girl in a bar. We both like her, we thiiiiink she's into us, but we've really no idea how to broach the subject successfully with as little offence caused as possible.
Maybe it's a bit of a silly question and, in fact, we just need to do it. Either with a hand caressing a knee and guage the reaction or just saying it outright. Or maybe we need to just accept that it is so very very unlikely that we should just forget about it.
Ah well; we'll see!
smile

12 Feb 2007

I used to know a swinging couple quite well who would go out around the local pubs and would sometimes manage to go home with a guy, a girl or a couple for some fun. So I guess it must be possible!
As to how you broach the subject - well I wish I had a clue! I have enough trouble sometimes making the first move in a full swinger-on-swinger situation! I guess sooner or later you just have to come out and say it - as tactfully as possible. At least then you will get an answer - if the answer is no then ... well you know where you stand and the answer would probably have never been yes no matter how you broached the subject.
Russell

12 Feb 2007

we went to a vanilla nightclub in birmingham a little while back, after a while on the dance floor we were struggling to get a seat and were invited over by a rather nice looking couple from stoke, (if you are out there get in touch) they just came out with , "we have booked a hotel room for the night do you want to join us" at the time rose and i werent swinging, we said no thanks, now they would have had no idea we were on this site, we had said nothing and they just came out with it, we didnt feel offended or upset and went away with a giggle if the truths known, a sort of "oh my god " moment...so maybe it happens more in vanilla bars than we think...
personally i wouldnt have the guts to try it out on a vanilla girl, guys that would be a different matter, cos we know most guys are easy lol, couples well id have to look for signs of serious flirting heading our way first...
fluck it friends go to a swinging club its lots easier there and still the spontaneous...
wrats xx