This is a somewhat selfish message (in that it relates to me) but is something that I am grappling with at the moment. It is also my first visit to the forum although I have been a recent viewer.
I am married, 30, M, physically fit, uni educated etc (as is my wife- 27) - this is not a personal. Anyway recently my wife and I found ourselves in a situation (loved by my friend and I incidentally) whereby after a night out, my wife and my friend's long term girlfriend ended up (completely out of the blue) getting it on with each other. It started off as some touching and kissing just to get our attention - but carried on from that. It did get our attention (but we didn't want to acknowledge it initially for fear it might stop!) and ended up in a bit of group sex session. By which I mean the girls went reasonably far with each other (69) but the guys either just watched or participated with their partner (which was good considering the relationships between the parties). Anyway it was all good from then on - in terms of our friendships etc.
However, I am quite a sexual person and it has been some time since this occured and I would love to see it happen again. I was ecstatic that my wife had done this with another female and was encouraging her activity (despite her feelings of guilt the next day). I myself would love to swing or at least experiment on a more regular basis
The question is: How do I approach the wife about it?
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There have been various discussions along the same lines... funny, it always seems to be the blokes trying to talk to their partners about it 
Others with more brain cells than me may be able to point you in the direction of these discussion threads
. Lovely.... really lovely :P story.
Generally speaking the advice usually given is that a couple has to have a very strong relationship, & communicate well & honestly. Give it plenty of thought, do some research (loads of useful stuff on the Internet), talk about it with her.... & then ENJOY. But it would appear you have made a start.
:lol:
Others with more brain cells than me may be able to point you in the direction of these discussion threads
. Lovely.... really lovely :P story.Generally speaking the advice usually given is that a couple has to have a very strong relationship, & communicate well & honestly. Give it plenty of thought, do some research (loads of useful stuff on the Internet), talk about it with her.... & then ENJOY. But it would appear you have made a start.
:lol: I would approach her slighty turned away...makes a swift kick to the minerals just that little bit more difficult! :shock:
What if you arrange another night out with no pressures or expectations...or even any mention of your cunning plan....with the odd splash of wine...then back to yours for a night cap or coffee....if its gonna happen...it will happen....
What if you arrange another night out with no pressures or expectations...or even any mention of your cunning plan....with the odd splash of wine...then back to yours for a night cap or coffee....if its gonna happen...it will happen....
Sex God
I would not suggest trying to set up a repeat performance, either subtley or not until you have talked to her first.
My opinion would be the first thing is to talk to your wife about what she thought to the situation, did she enjoy it?, would she like to repeat it? etc, etc.
The key to good fun in a swinging environment is effective communication, until you have talked together openly about the situation and decided what to do next I would suggest doing nothing.
My humble opinion.
Roger the Dragon.
My opinion would be the first thing is to talk to your wife about what she thought to the situation, did she enjoy it?, would she like to repeat it? etc, etc.
The key to good fun in a swinging environment is effective communication, until you have talked together openly about the situation and decided what to do next I would suggest doing nothing.
My humble opinion.
Roger the Dragon.
