First Time at a club advise please

3 Dec 2009

Hi, we are attending a club in Bournemouth on the 30th Jan 2010, not sure if aloud to mention the name of the club here so I wont until I know for sure, it is mentioned in the clubs section on this site, it only has 4 reviews but they are all good.
We have never been to a club before and would really appreciate any advise you can give us, no matter how small or silly. We have no idea what to expect, what to wear, what to take with us? dunno

3 Dec 2009

the best advice i can give is don't go with any expectations of play just go with the idea of going to find out what the place is like and if play comes your way a bonus
we have been going to clubs for a few years now chams being our favourite due to the relaxed friendly all welcoming atmosphere so if the place you talk of is anything like it you will be sure of a great night
when we first went it was nerve wracking and we were unsure due to the dress code but within 5 mins of being in there we felt so comfortable and at ease in our state of undress it was quite odd lol

i think the place you mention has a clothed dress code though so that wouldn't be an issue but not certain so best check their site for dress code hun
try not to b shrinking violets get nattering to as many peeps as poss even if you don't find them your bag just cause you say hi how are you does not commit you to playing with them, we have lots of friends made at clubs that we are possably not their cuppa sexually but are great to socialise with we don't think that if someone chats with us then we best shag um lol

and to be honest some of the best fun we have had has been someone that just walks upto us and asks if we wanna go to a room and not much chatting done just lots of shagging and glad they did ask cause niether of us have the nerve to ask someone outright sadly wish we could sometimes cause there have been plenty we wanted to :sad:
i'm babbling again sorry lol

so basically just intend to go for a chill out evening and if anything happens fantastic
hope thats of some sort of help
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3 Dec 2009

Quote by Bluefish2009
Hi, we are attending a club in Bournemouth on the 30th Jan 2010, not sure if aloud to mention the name of the club here so I wont until I know for sure, it is mentioned in the clubs section on this site, it only has 4 reviews but they are all good.
We have never been to a club before and would really appreciate any advise you can give us, no matter how small or silly. We have no idea what to expect, what to wear, what to take with us?

You should look here
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/302226.html
I was amazed at all the advice and help we received with this. All the informed replys really helped with our decision to fuck it and go to a Cocktail bar and get pissed up with the inlaws instead rolleyes

3 Dec 2009

Quote by Bluefish2009
Hi, we are attending a club in Bournemouth on the 30th Jan 2010, not sure if aloud to mention the name of the club here so I wont until I know for sure, it is mentioned in the clubs section on this site, it only has 4 reviews but they are all good.
We have never been to a club before and would really appreciate any advise you can give us, no matter how small or silly. We have no idea what to expect, what to wear, what to take with us?

The Club will probably have a dress code? That should be a start for you....
Presumably you are going to a Club because you have something in mind, some fantasy to live out? Depending on how busy the Club is it may/may not be worth putting too expectation on that fantasy. The busier the Clu the more likely you are to fulfil what you are looking for. Take a naughty bag with condoms, lube and possibly some extra kinky stuff - we take cuff, bindfold, rope and baby oil. If things don't go according to plan you can always entertain each other with some rough and noisy sex of the type you would normally disturb the neighbours with.
You are planning a long time advance? We tend to try not to do this because you just dont know how you going to feel nearer the time and it is best if you are both right up for it with a clear understanding of your own (ie each others) expectations, rules and limits.
Good luck.
Try Chameleons one day - it is a longdrive but they have rooms within the club to stay over and Friday & Saturday nights there are very busy.

3 Dec 2009

Thank you so much for your help.
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4 Dec 2009

Looks like the sort of place where the woman would wear what you are wearing on your profile pics and the guys some loose trendy boxers.
Guessing you will be given towels as well so all looks kind of OK.
Never been there ourselves but the web site looks OK and gives the impression of being clean and presentable.
Not mentioning any names but some Clubs can be really seedy and it is really off putting, this looks OK as far as can be told from the web site anyway.
good luck.

4 Dec 2009

Thank you all for taking the time to reply with some advise and your thoughts, we have found them all very helpful thanks.