First time meeting, any advice????

12 Dec 2003

Hi we are a couple about to embark upon our first night with a lucky guy. We is just wondering if any of you more experienced swingers had any advice for us?
Like who makes the first move, is alcohol a help or a hinderance? Is it rude to ask him to shower first?
The views of those of u with years of experience and wisdom in this matter would be much worship

appreciated.
Billy

12 Dec 2003

Hiya ScotsCpl,
8) Hope you have a great time.
Advice - Go with the flow and do what comes natural. If the guy you are with is inexperienced too, and none of you know what to do try saying "I have no idea what to do next" anything that makes you all laugh will soon get the ball rolling. Don't rush it - take your time and enjoy it.
Alchohol - watch it - better underdone than overdone!
I would hope he has had a shower before hand! If not, and it is noticable, it would not be rude to say goodnight straight away!
Hope it is fab for you, and tell us all about it when you get back biggrin

lhk
Kat

12 Dec 2003

Quote by ScotsCpl
Is it rude to ask him to shower first?

I have no experience in swinging, but I do have experience as a guy. So speaking from his perspective... if you've got a big enough shower, that needn't be rude at all wink

12 Dec 2003

I would hope he has had a shower before hand! If not, and it is noticable, it would not be rude to say goodnight straight away!

Absolutely. We laugh about it in our house, even if we are going for a social we have a shower before we go out. We call it a "Justin" shower. (Justin Case!). Sometimes it has happened that we were glad we had it *winks*
We have only ever come across one person who had a problem and we discovered it was the sweat of fear on him! It was their first time but they had advertised that they did 4 somes and moresomes!
There is nothing worse than BO or bad breath in our books. We do know someone who won't even look at a guy if he has got a bit of food on his shirt! So I am always careful to wear a reversible shirt when I meet her. It is called my Justin shirt! (She knows who she is!)
As for the rest of it, enjoy it, make it up as you go along if you are all new to it and don't be afraid to say stop if anyone feels uncomfortable with anything. At the end of the day you may be able to do it in the head, but when it comes to reality, you may not. So long as you are honest and make others aware of how you feel nobody should get upset. In the early days we have been known to say "Can we stop please guys, I do not feel comfortable with this!" when something was moving a bit too fast for us. NOBODY ever took exception to it. We also now respect that in others now that we have more experience ourselves.
Good luck.
Fred

13 Dec 2003

Drag him in, fuck him and then kick him out - in that order preferably lol

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