I have 2 of these, 1 male, 1 female. Both know about each other. Am I being greedy. I like to keep my options open!!! Is this practice still acceptable? Many of my friends often say that its about time I settled down and got married. I'm guessing some of them are just jealous. Just curious what other people think about this. I'm sure most of us have them, or have had them.
Do what you thinks best for you and the other two. If none of you are worried about it then carry on. Its between you and them basicly. Nothing to do with others or me for that matter. But you did ask
I must admit I'm a pain for wanting to know what poeple think of me and my actions. Then go totally over the top when they tell me and I don't agree with their comments. I feel the need to constantly justify myself. A self confidence problem - who knows. I enjoy my life the way it is. No one is getting hurt by my actions, well, unless they ask to be!!!
I've got 2 actually. One is a swinger and an FB in every sense of the word but the other is also my best mate so it might be unfair to label him as an FB as our 'relationship' runs a lot deeper than just a quick shag when one of us gets the horn. I don't see the problem with FB's as long as you all get out of it what you want and everyone's happy with the situation. It's when feelings start to appear that it changes everything.
Quote by Sassy-Seren I've got 2 actually. One is a swinger and an FB in every sense of the word but the other is also my best mate so it might be unfair to label him as an FB as our 'relationship' runs a lot deeper than just a quick shag when one of us gets the horn. I don't see the problem with FB's as long as you all get out of it what you want and everyone's happy with the situation. It's when feelings start to appear that it changes everything.
Quote by robbie_rob I've got 2 actually. One is a swinger and an FB in every sense of the word but the other is also my best mate so it might be unfair to label him as an FB as our 'relationship' runs a lot deeper than just a quick shag when one of us gets the horn. I don't see the problem with FB's as long as you all get out of it what you want and everyone's happy with the situation. It's when feelings start to appear that it changes everything.
reckon you could stretch to 3???? :P I certainly could in your case hunni :rascal:
I must admit I have 1 female FB and its quite a good arrangement. Niether have been getting sex from our partners on a regular basis and this helps. On the other hand should we be working towards a solution with our respective partners? We don't have 'lovey dovey' feelings for each other, more mates. But the sex is spot on!
Its not greedy - just have fun especially if they know about each other and don't mind. Its your life, do what you want with it as long as you don't hurt anyone. x
this is very similar to another thread where a married man has two fems on the go who know of each other but he wants more and wants a threesome with them....he got slated cos he is not satisfied and wants more than he has got and is in a relationship/marriage...ok yours is differerent and i havent really got an opinion but just a question would your two FB's be as happy if they were both of the same sex?
Your life - your body! You are all consenting adults, so if nobody is getting hurt and you are all aware of the situation what's the problem? Everyone has different needs and views on life and marriage etc isn't for everyone. Happiness should be fully embraced and enjoyed as along as it isn't to the detriment of anyone else. Enjoy!
Quote by daveanddebbie69 this is very similar to another thread where a married man has two fems on the go who know of each other but he wants more and wants a threesome with them....he got slated cos he is not satisfied and wants more than he has got and is in a relationship/marriage...ok yours is differerent and i havent really got an opinion but just a question would your two FB's be as happy if they were both of the same sex?
Good point!! I don't really know. I'm gonna ask them when I see them next. I'll let u know - if ur interested anyway!!!
Quote by osker99 also would red be judged in the same manor if she was male?
Honestly yes. If someone has a number of fuck buddies and they're all happy with the no strings situations then there's nothing wrong with that regardless whether they are male of female. The guy who got flamed was moaning because his wife & girlfriend didn't want a threesome and he was contemplating forcing them. In a nutshell if all parties consent and are happy then it doesn't matter how many people are in the dynamic or what sex they are
Quote by osker99 also would red be judged in the same manor if she was male?
In this place, and lifestyle ? I would sincerely hope so my bad spelling not a strong point No, it's not a strong point, but that wasn't Db's point - he understood what you meant. I'm sure he wasn't having a dig at your spelling.
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde also would red be judged in the same manor if she was male?
If someone has a number of fuck buddies and they're all happy with the no strings situations then there's nothing wrong with that regardless whether they are male of female. In a nutshell if all parties consent and are happy then it doesn't matter how many people are in the dynamic or what sex they are what about someone who has a number of fuck buddies who dont know about each other?
Quote by osker99 I know freckle he seems far to friendly for that
Can I make a suggestion? That you read and re-read a post before responding, to make sure that you understood it - as you seem to be kind of misinterpreting what some people have said.
I suppose it depends on the circumstances and level of involvement, as long as you wern't misleading any one into believing there was more to the relationship, or you were open about your openness, then that would be ok, from a personal point of view I would only be dissapointed if there were lies involved as long as it was in the open and honest then I would be ok
Quote by Darkfire also would red be judged in the same manor if she was male?
If someone has a number of fuck buddies and they're all happy with the no strings situations then there's nothing wrong with that regardless whether they are male of female. In a nutshell if all parties consent and are happy then it doesn't matter how many people are in the dynamic or what sex they are what about someone who has a number of fuck buddies who dont know about each other? Depends on arrangements between the parties involved. If I have a fuck buddy an we've both agreed it's NSA and what we do when we're not together is our own business then fine. If arrangements/agreements have been made and 1 party is lying/decieving another then that's an entirely different kettle of fish. Having siad that if we're talking about fuck buddies here I can''t see any need for deception - If it's a NSA relationship why would anyone feel the need to lie about anything
Quote by Darkfire what about someone who has a number of fuck buddies who dont know about each other?
Then that's a completely different kettle of fish. When I was single here, I never swore any undying love or fidelity to anyone. Any of my friends (I've suddenly gone off the term fuckbuddies) that I was having sex with, knew that I was also seeing other people. They didn't always know whoelse I was seeing, but they certainly knew that other people "existed" It never ceases to amaze me why people, particularly in this lifestlye, feel the need to to lie and deceive about fidelity. I take comfort that in most cases, they are normally found out, or show themselves out to be an arse. Be they male or female. An arse is an arse. *Disclaimer This post, or my opinion is not aimed at anybody that I've had the pleasure of being friends with. It's an observation.
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