I'd just like to say a big thank you to my so called Friend's for the last few day's...
I never thought you would treat a Friend as you have...But i do wish you well...
in all that you do..let's hope my Friend's it's never done to you.....
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Master of Sex
I don't know what's happened jelly but true friends never disrespect one another...they may have disagreements but are always there to support one another. Sounds to me like these so called friends were not as true a friend as they made out ((((hugs)))) hope you discover your true friends soon xxx
Orgasminator
Welcome to the dark-side of the scene. It's horrid when you get here, but forunately they is a light. We are not all the same and out there in this vast community, they are genuine people that will value your friendship. Chin up poppet, we got to take the good with the bad, otherwise when do you know you've got it good?
The scene has it pretence, like life.
The scene has it pretence, like life.
Keep smiling.
Orgasminator
I always find this type of thread interesting and wonder if people should question their own judgment and choice about who they call friends and how far they take that so called friendship within the swinging scene.
Reading through various threads and conversation in the chat rooms, It is obvious that most people on the site will do and say anything for a shag and then move on to the next one.
Wake up people if your meet don’t show or you feel used and let down, then it is as much your doing as theirs, you decided on that person. Maybe next time take a step back and get to know the person before you make any form of commitment.
Reading through various threads and conversation in the chat rooms, It is obvious that most people on the site will do and say anything for a shag and then move on to the next one.
Wake up people if your meet don’t show or you feel used and let down, then it is as much your doing as theirs, you decided on that person. Maybe next time take a step back and get to know the person before you make any form of commitment.
Orgasminator
Quote by Try2
Wake up people if your meet don’t show or you feel used and let down, then it is as much your doing as theirs, you decided on that person. Maybe next time take a step back and get to know the person before you make any form of commitment.
extremely wise words, but also we need to remember we're only human and mistakes are allowed.
im sorry if ur having a rough time jelly.
Its not nice when u get hurt on here and you never let it go as u feel that you come on here out of choice and u think you have made a friend when in fact in reality the heart of it is once a swinger always a swinger and never leave it behind.
2008 will be better and u will find real friends ones that want u in their life. You are going to be the jelly for my baby and i love you
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Its not nice when u get hurt on here and you never let it go as u feel that you come on here out of choice and u think you have made a friend when in fact in reality the heart of it is once a swinger always a swinger and never leave it behind.
2008 will be better and u will find real friends ones that want u in their life. You are going to be the jelly for my baby and i love you
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Chaotic_Spirit
Wake up people if your meet don’t show or you feel used and let down, then it is as much your doing as theirs, you decided on that person. Maybe next time take a step back and get to know the person before you make any form of commitment.
extremely wise words, but also we need to remember we're only human and mistakes are allowed.
:thumbup:
time is also a great healer..... and so are hugs
:therethere:
Warming the Bed
I think its disgusting whats been done to Jelly and those who knew about what was going on and decided not to tell the wronged party she was being cheated on. You know who you are and don't worry so do we.
Sex God
Quote by gillandcarl
I think its disgusting whats been done to Jelly and those who knew about what was going on and decided not to tell the wronged party she was being cheated on. You know who you are and don't worry so do we.
Which is all well and good - just remember not to name and shame them on the forum.
Try2, good post :thumbup:
Warming the Bed
I know better don't worry. Its just a shame people don't know any better about hurting those they claim to care about.
Sex God
Quote by browning
I must admit, I think people use the word "friend" to lightly. A true friend would never hurt you.
and included in not hurting you can also include not telling you things that you need to know (if i am getting what went on) they might have thought that this was the best course of action at the time, whether or not this was the best decision.
am sorry you have been hurt and i can assume you feel betrayed and let down by your friends. i can only say it would have been a difficult decision for them to make as it was a difficult thing to find out.
i found out only after i split from an ex that he had previously made a pass at a friend and she never told me about it. i feel she should have informed me as to what he was doing as he could have made a pass at somone else who didnt say no and i didnt know about it.
as i say am sure they didnt mean to hurt you it was just misguided judgment on their part. if i got this wrong then i am sorry and chin up and best wishes.
Quote by Sara_2006
I must admit, I think people use the word "friend" to lightly. A true friend would never hurt you.
and included in not hurting you can also include not telling you things that you need to know (if i am getting what went on) they might have thought that this was the best course of action at the time, whether or not this was the best decision.
am sorry you have been hurt and i can assume you feel betrayed and let down by your friends. i can only say it would have been a difficult decision for them to make as it was a difficult thing to find out.
i found out only after i split from an ex that he had previously made a pass at a friend and she never told me about it. i feel she should have informed me as to what he was doing as he could have made a pass at somone else who didnt say no and i didnt know about it.
as i say am sure they didnt mean to hurt you it was just misguided judgment on their part. if i got this wrong then i am sorry and chin up and best wishes.
Tricky one this though- the f riend may have felt she wouldn't have been believed- or may have been accused of stirring.
During our time on SH we have met quite a few people, some have been great company and we would consider them friends, others have been people we would rather not have met or spent time with.
As in life friendships come and go in the swinging scene, sex is a big motivator for some and can lead to that person/s not being entirely honest, or simply telling somebody what they want to hear rather than their true feelings etc.
We as a rule, never make close friendships with people we meet and chat to, there is always the possibility that one of the plethora of things that CAN happen, WILL happen during the course of one meet up to the next!
Some might say that this stops us from forming true and lasting friendships on here, and we would agree, but that is by choice.
We come here to meet new people, gain new experiences and to catch up with our "online friends", have a banter or for my (mr srne's) part, to read and share my thoughts on other people's threads.
We talk to loads of people on the chatrooms but how well do we really know them? Not as well as we know friends of ours whom we have known since childhood, who put up with us as much as we put up with them at times when we have been less than our best.
On here you donot have that "time served" basis, as, in its very essence, we start off here as strangers and usually only put our best foot forward in the public gaze so never usually get to knoe the "real people".
I hope the original poster can overcome her problems and after reading a few of the posts here, which have some great comments, come to realise that the swinging scene is very much like life.
The only difference here is that a majority of the people on SH have a sexually orientated reason for being here and that can and will inevitably lead to this type of scenario on occasion.
Hope you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and stand tall and carry on walking!! That is THE most important thing.
As in life friendships come and go in the swinging scene, sex is a big motivator for some and can lead to that person/s not being entirely honest, or simply telling somebody what they want to hear rather than their true feelings etc.
We as a rule, never make close friendships with people we meet and chat to, there is always the possibility that one of the plethora of things that CAN happen, WILL happen during the course of one meet up to the next!
Some might say that this stops us from forming true and lasting friendships on here, and we would agree, but that is by choice.
We come here to meet new people, gain new experiences and to catch up with our "online friends", have a banter or for my (mr srne's) part, to read and share my thoughts on other people's threads.
We talk to loads of people on the chatrooms but how well do we really know them? Not as well as we know friends of ours whom we have known since childhood, who put up with us as much as we put up with them at times when we have been less than our best.
On here you donot have that "time served" basis, as, in its very essence, we start off here as strangers and usually only put our best foot forward in the public gaze so never usually get to knoe the "real people".
I hope the original poster can overcome her problems and after reading a few of the posts here, which have some great comments, come to realise that the swinging scene is very much like life.
The only difference here is that a majority of the people on SH have a sexually orientated reason for being here and that can and will inevitably lead to this type of scenario on occasion.
Hope you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and stand tall and carry on walking!! That is THE most important thing.
I talk to my friend of 4 years from this site about this subject quite a lot. The term 'friend' is used in a way which totally devalues to me what friendship is - dam hard work like any relationship - with a lover, family member, children!!!!!
I have few long term friends and each one has taken time to develop and has its ups and downs and disagreements, moments of pure love and an inner knowledge of each other that takes time and effort. If you find true friendship then you are extremely lucky in life.
People who are 'friendly' men and women, may let you down, potentially, if they only see this as a way to get sexual satisfaction and you see more to it.
Talking openly about this first is to me so dam important and even then you can still get it wrong - noted I have done that! I am talking friends here not partners as I think a partner/lover are another subject.
Sorry Jelly that you were let down by someone better sooner than later - get it out of your system and just make sure you realise it always comes back to bite them in some way further down the line ................
Corrie xxxx
I have few long term friends and each one has taken time to develop and has its ups and downs and disagreements, moments of pure love and an inner knowledge of each other that takes time and effort. If you find true friendship then you are extremely lucky in life.
People who are 'friendly' men and women, may let you down, potentially, if they only see this as a way to get sexual satisfaction and you see more to it.
Talking openly about this first is to me so dam important and even then you can still get it wrong - noted I have done that! I am talking friends here not partners as I think a partner/lover are another subject.
Sorry Jelly that you were let down by someone better sooner than later - get it out of your system and just make sure you realise it always comes back to bite them in some way further down the line ................
Corrie xxxx
I must agree with what's been said... but i'm not a nasty person or bitter person..i'm just glad i found out sooner rather then later....cos i know that what ever you do in life good or bad alway's come's back to you one way other another...thank you again to my true friend's for your support i love you all load's jelly xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
not often...but on this occasion do tend to agree with Corrie...the word friend is sometimes to easily used..... i think its more friendships that are formed on here..slighly differant I feel. Bit do think at all times...be this a swinging site or anything else...we should at least be honest with each other.
I am not sure whats fully gone on Jelly...but does sound as if someone or some people have been less than honest with you. Take it on the chin..learn from it..dust yourself off....and come back a bigger and better person. We all know in the end..what goes around...comes aound.
I am not sure whats fully gone on Jelly...but does sound as if someone or some people have been less than honest with you. Take it on the chin..learn from it..dust yourself off....and come back a bigger and better person. We all know in the end..what goes around...comes aound.
Sex God
I hope you get over your hurt Ms. I do think its odd though that we extoll the virtues of honesty as swingers though we have to (in the main) employ dishonesty to folow our persuits. Sometimes the wine seems a little cloudy. 
Warming the Bed
True friends stick by one another through thick and thin (((( Hug ))))
You will now find out who your real friends are.
Take care xxxxxxxxxx
You will now find out who your real friends are.
Take care xxxxxxxxxx
