Frustration.

20 Jun 2004

We went into Manchester last night, myself, Mrs. easy and a few friends. Anyway we ended up in Manchesters gay village, fine. Doesn't bother me I spent half of my 20's clubbing around there (not gay before some of you guys start sending me pictures and PMs) as I've got a few friends that are gay.
So were donstairs in a bar and there's with us stood round a table and Mrs. e sat on a chair (I told her not to wear those bloody shoes rolleyes

) when I notice this VERY hot Spanish-looking girl walking past looking at me and I mean looking at me. Very intense eye-contact. Didn't think much about it, but she and her 2 friends re-appear again and start dancing near by and there's loads of eye contact again. And before you lot say anything about me drinking I had been drinking Coke all night.:P
I think I'd better not lead her on here so I kneel down next to my Mrs and start passionkiss

her and generally making a show that I'm with someone, but she's still making loads of eye contact, smiling and shaking her ass at me (well us now). Definately up for a little 3 fun.
Only problem..................
Mrs. easy isn't sad

:banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
Ah well. We left about half an hour later. Still it's boosted my self-estime no end (as she was completely gorgeous) and, although my Mrs says she may be bi curious I'm guessing it's never going to happen. :( I've come so close this weekend to telling her about this site it's unbelievable.
I can't have been the only one in this situation ie 1 up for swinging and 1 possibly not. Don't get me wrong I don't want to make her start doing anything she doesn't want to, but she's said in the past she'd like to try FF and poss M, but feels that she's not in a position now where she can
Has anyone any advice on how I broach the subject with her?
Thanks for listening guys. I had to tell someone about this. smile

20 Jun 2004

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW - poor you kiss

20 Jun 2004

I dunno... Some of us on here have a hard enough time even getting women to acknowledge we exist and easy comes on here frustrated about not getting a threesome?
Bloody cheek... :grin: lol

:grin:

20 Jun 2004

We went into Manchester last night, myself, Mrs. easy and a few friends. Anyway we ended up in Manchesters gay village, fine.
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So were donstairs in a bar
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when I notice this VERY hot Spanish-looking girl walking past looking at me and I mean looking at me. Very intense eye-contact.
Didn't think much about it,
( not half Easy)
but she's still making loads of eye contact, smiling and shaking her ass at me (well us now). Definately up for a little 3 fun.
Easy you are certain it was a lady of the feminine persuasion are you?
Glibert wink

20 Jun 2004

Quote by gilbert
We went into Manchester last night, myself, Mrs. easy and a few friends. Anyway we ended up in Manchesters gay village, fine.
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So were donstairs in a bar
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when I notice this VERY hot Spanish-looking girl walking past looking at me and I mean looking at me. Very intense eye-contact.
Didn't think much about it,
( not half Easy)
but she's still making loads of eye contact, smiling and shaking her ass at me (well us now). Definately up for a little 3 fun.
Easy you are certain it was a lady of the feminine persuasion are you?
Glibert

The clothes she was wearing any "meat and 2 veg" would have been on very obvious display. Very tight balck trousers and a tight flowery top. She was DEFINATELY all woman. TVs don't silly

hwoar: like that.

20 Jun 2004

hi easy
we are regulars down at the village, and we have always found that alot of bi sexual woman do go to the bars around canal street for the very thing you mentioned 'the 3some'...we have been very fortunate and lucky to meet a number of girls here, we as a cpl think its a great place to meet and hook up with open females wanting to try something new. Spirit at the bottom of canal street is a fascinating place, great music, great looking girls, its a real fun atmosphere.
so if anyone ever gets to manchester, you have got to go to the gay village, its the most chilled out place in manchester, and alot of people would agree a great night out
soph n nige
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sing.....3 is the magic number

20 Jun 2004

Easy, I'd like to put in my tuppnyworth as what you said has really struck a cord with me.
As you know (I think) I am nine tenths out of a relationship. I'm not going to go into the break up here as I think that is between her and me. I think the fairest thing to say is that C decided we should call it a day and I agreed. We are getting on better now, and having more and better sex than we have in the past two years or so.
2 or 3 weeks ago she told me that it bothered her, and she felt insulted if I was on here. But only in her company. Not in general.
Now I know I can't compare your marriage to my situation. We (all 4) don't know each other and I'm not going to ask personal questions here in public.
C and me have/are having a good weekend. I popped in here on Friday night and when she came in I told her that I would finish what I doing at the time and she said there was no need. By the end of last night she started asking me what was being said as I posted and read other posts. Even to the point of asking me; out of sequence, where certain posts were going.
Even this morning she asked me again about the shaving below and ball cancer posts, and I wasn't even logged on.
I as I said you and I cannot make a direct comparison.
I suppose your problem would depend on your relationship. How open and honest you are with each other. How much trust there is between you and (forgive me) whether of either you has played away without permission and been caught.
I'm not going to say "Take the bull by the horns and go for it" I'm going to guess that your marriage and relationship is much more important to you than your 'membership of the swinging community"
What I will say though is that you'll not know for sure unless you try. And only you know Mrs Easy well enough to make an educated guess at her response. As you say, she's already expressed a slight interest in exploring other avenues. There we can make a comparison.
I have just thought of something that I've done recently and put it forward as a mere example, not advice. Where 'delicate' subjects/ideas have come into my mind; I have emailed C. This gives her the freedom to read them at her leisure without the pressure of me asking face to face questions and the ability to fully digest the information at her own pace and willingness. I'm fortunate enough that I log on via my laptop in the lounge and we've given her the PC upstairs. We have separate ISPs and email addresses.
(She's just asked me what I'm telling you. I think I might have to keep an eye on the new members joining wink

)
One thing I hope you do take away from this rather rambling post is that you are not alone in you quandary. I wish you well, whichever way you go and whatever the outcome.

20 Jun 2004

eginhpos: I'd forgotten how good it was in the village. It's been a while since I've been down there. I had a really good night (especially the details above). We started off at Dukes, just off the end of Deansgate and I just found most of the people to be a bit full of themselves tbh.
Dambuster: thanks for that. Yep if Mrs. easy found out about this site and felt uncomfortable then I would stop using it. Maybe that's why I don't tell her. dunno

I've made some really good friends here and I'd hate to loose touch with them, just because they are swingers.
I've come sooo close to just saying it over the last couple of days and maybe that's part of the problem, I've built it up into something it isn't.
Ah well who knows. Only time will tell I guess.

20 Jun 2004

Easy, my friend - as you know I'm in the same boat - p'raps in the stern when you're in the bow - but the same boat!
I think my take on it is that one shouldn't push it at all but that may be a function of Mrs TE's lack of interest. I have therefore resigned myself to it never happening. If it does then it won't be solely of my doing it will be a joint thing. I can't for the life of me think how that will come about but life plays strange tricks.
I know you have a good time on the social side here and I think Dambuster is fortunate that C is now expressing an interest in the site, because it is very welcoming. The problem of that seems to be that we are in a way a circle of friends and if one's partner is not in the circle it can sometimes be a real repellent with feelings of exclusion and even rejection.
I have to say I enjoy the social interaction here and I would dearly love to attend a Munch sometime - I'd just love to meet the people on here. However, as things stand that would amount to betrayal and so it's not on.
Right that's cheered me up! I'm off to open another bottle of wine f*ck it!

20 Jun 2004

Are you certain he wasn't Juan of 'those' roflmao

21 Jun 2004

Quote by Silk and Big G
Are you certain he wasn't Juan of 'those' roflmao

:lol: :lol: :P

21 Jun 2004

OOO errrrr hi!...... the new me! must get that bl--dy add off........and put it in me siggy! but i dont no how to do it! redface

well i would just like to say this!........i wish my hubby would stop working for one min and start enjoying the wonders of the swinging world! sad

I would love to take him there!............. as manchester is not far away but.... can i get him there NO ! so advice there would be helpfull! Easy as for a women being bi....................... alot of us [ sos i cannot say that really as i am only cur bi}... tend to put it aside in fear of opening up in are emotions! if u get what i meen! i do not dare tell my friends as i am afried what thay might think! and that i my loose tham!...................... its was told to me that evey one is bi! ............. and its a metter of realize it!.... as r sersitie [bl--dy hell can not spell that one} we live in steers in all kind of diractions and we find r self going down another path! and there is so many nieve folks around too!
Well my addvice would be to come out with the.......Did u knows smile

b/h did that make any sence dunno

love debbie xxx

21 Jun 2004

As I see it you dont want to show your wife this site for fear that she may not approve and you would feel you had to stop visiting?
Then whay not show her another similar site, perhaps an American basedone as she may not see this as such a threat?If she does dissaprove then you havnt really lost anything.
You never know she may surprise you!!

21 Jun 2004

Debbiwebs: Errrrrrrr....................
Yeah I kind of got what you're saying. Everyone is capable of being bi, but there's a social stigmatism attached to it so some people just repress it for an easy life?
Oh and the addy (if you haven't changed it already), you need to click on the "profile" bit at the top, next to the PM button.
Foxy: What you doing here? Shouldn't you be off writting something? confused

:twisted:
TBH the site doesn't matter. If she asks me not to visit swinging sites again, I won't be visiting any so no small print or get-out clause there I'm afraid. sad

21 Jun 2004

Bugger this... I'm dragging my missus down the gay village this weekend. Waste not, want not Easy hehe lol

21 Jun 2004

Easy
I can work and pop into the cafe at the same time, unfortunatley I cant work and write at the same time - its the dyslexia. how3ever I am writing in my mind but cant write at the moment due to too much wine (hic)
Kisses
S****

21 Jun 2004

personally if the one you love dont wanna share then dont
what looks good in fantasy can cause a lot of heart ache in reality
by the way hands up for gay men ...every girl shoulf have 1 as a best mate
i love em
they take me out clubbing treat me like a queen (no pun intended)

21 Jun 2004

what about hands up for fisting?
just a thought and not my cup of tea i might add

21 Jun 2004

Quote by midlandsmale39
what about hands up for fisting?
just a thought and not my cup of tea i might add

did you say tea
lol

fisting ouch

22 Jun 2004

Right Esay,well i think if you really feel this is what you want Mrs Easy to see then do it.
The only problem she might have is not the site itself but the fact that youve been posting on here for a while,i know if it was Steve that would probably be the problem i'd have with it.
As for if shes showing inclinations in certain ways then maybe it would be a good idea,it may open her eyes a bit!!!!
Hope thats helped in some way,and good luck with it,
Clare,xxx
wink

22 Jun 2004

Quote by JudyTV
Easy you are certain it was a lady of the feminine persuasion are you?
Glibert

The clothes she was wearing any "meat and 2 veg" would have been on very obvious display. Very tight balck trousers and a tight flowery top. She was DEFINATELY all woman. TVs don't silly

hwoar: like that.
If you spent as much damn time in that village as I have over the years you would know very well that there are TVs there that you just couldnt tell the difference, tight black trousers or not. After a year or two on hormones the thing shrivells to almost nothing so believe me you would not have known. Anyway, as a Mancunian yourself you should already know that hunni. I was there too on Saturday night remember :wink: .
JudyTV :P
*sighs* sad

Yep I know Judy I was just trying to think positively for myself. lol

(always someone who likes to throw a spanner in your works, isn't there? rolleyes

:P :lol: )
Yeah C&S that's another problem, but she knows that I can quite easily rack up a couple of hundred posts in a day, so at the mo I'm not doing too bad. Just got to figure some way of getting rid of the date joined bit. :lol:

22 Jun 2004

dont know if it will help but the way things worked out for us was by watching movies of the adult persuasion, casually asking questions and judging her reactions,i was surprised how keen s was.i wouldnt say outright during the film that you can propably arrange for something just work it into a bit of fantasy"what would you think of a woman doing that to you "etc etc and see where it goes
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