I wasnt here for a while :shock:
I have outlined previously our experience - which has been good and was a joint decision when I myself felt ready.
I agree whoeheartedly with what FB is saying to you - because there is two sides to every story and thread so to speak. You will know your wife, my husband knew me and not to pressurise what so ever, because i would kick back big style and he probably would be left without a wife - swinging is not about that - you and your partner are the people that matter in this, and she may change her mind but also may never - that is the thing that you might have to get your head around.
To be frank, not insulting may i add, reading all of the thread - you do seem to be over anxious about trying to persuade. Swinging is not something that can be "persuaded" or it will end in tears in my opinion - again, has been said, but she did try for you and a lot of women would not even do that !!!
Sorry, have been busy all day so only just read the comments on here.
Don't be offended about comments you get here, it's a mixed bunch and we all post differently. Sometimes the best answers are not necessarily what you want to hear.
Only your wife knows at this stage how she really feels. You need to just be patient and keep showing her how special she is to you. Don't plan anything without her consent.
As for saying things when she's turned on - I tell Mr TN i'd fuck anything he asked me to when I'm on a roll.... but I wouldn't do it. (well, maybe... heehee)
I noted the comments about her feeling she would be the biggest one at a party. I can soooooooo empathyse with that. After a week on here, I realised that I had no cause to worry. Was still stupidly nervous but managed to get out of the car (after over and hour in Asda carpark) and go to a party.
As it turned out, we knew no-one but were made welcome - calling first helps - and I did spend half the night sitting in the corner with no-one talking to me. That's where Mr TN was a diamond and kept up the compliments etc, and I eventually came out of my shell and played in the mirror room (of all rooms for a nervous big person), and spoke to some lovely people. If you don't talk to them, they may not talk to you.
Anyway - have a good think about the comments on here. Don't push her and if she wants to play on here then allow her the freedom to discover things with no interruption. There is a BBW (big beautiful women) room on the chat rooms. There are tonnes of big people out there, and they are all sexy and gorgeous in their own right. I truly hope that she discovers how gorgeous she undoubtedly is and can come out of her shell a little. Regardless of wether she wants to swing or not.
Take care
xxxx
