g/f here was exactly the same, but doesn't have an reason to be paranoid. Was chatting about this last night!
Its almost certainly a "girl thing". It's an image centred society where every1 seeks what the media deems as perfection. Even girls who look vividly sexy to absolutely every1 can think they look like a beached whale themselves.
The key is being a good b/f, boosting her confidence, encouraging attention given to her, and with time she'll come out of her shell. There's no sure fire fix to it, but with patience and a loving partner, she'll come round!
It's herself holding her self esteem back.
Hi there!
Like every woman I know, I have had moments of low self esteem about my body, it can be really hard to believe any partner of mine could find me attractive when they lust after Kelly Brookes, Halley Berry, etc. However, one comment a partner said to me has helped, he told me men are far too busy looking at the attractive bits to bother looking at the not so attractive bits, and this really made sense to me. He would re-affirm this by staring at my naked body like a half straved man would look at a roast dinner!
I would also suggest you take up a sport together, not just to lose weight but its a well known fact the the human body gives off "feel good" chemicals called endorphins which should give your girlfriend more of a sense of well being. I personally like kick boxing but it could be cycling, swimming, hill walking, whatever takes your fancy!
Hope this helps x
Well i'm going to be totally honest and probabily go against what everyone else had said
confidence is something you either have or you don't have, i have never been a confident person and i doubt i ever will be, last year i lost over 6 stone in my quest to feel better and to be liked by more people, didn't work cause even tho i lost the weight the lack of confidence is still there, due to this i put quite a bit of it back on, this is a problem that drives my hubby mad, i have the habbit of deciding for people if they like me or not and speaking as a bigger women myself very much dount you will find many slim women or coupels with slim women who will be attracted to larger ladies, i don't mean that nasty i'm just talking from my own experience.
We have been swinging for about 5 years now and even after all that time i still do not like getting naked in front of to many people and i still find it very hard to make myself meet people, which is why i use clubs as people can see me so know if they like me.
besides that i don't know what else to say, i know its probabily not what u wanted to hear and was more looking for a ...hey i'm a big girl and i have a great time...type reply but i just don't find it as easy as that lol
all good suggestions people, and like many of you have already said, i do tell her she is beautifull, she`s only a size 14-16 for christ sake and she`s got massive boobs at that, i never saw a problem with her, she looks in proportion, extreamly attractive and really sexy (when she wants to be...ussually after a drink), im impressed with how quick you lot posted your comments...i only nipped out to do a quick shower job (20mins) and had all this waiting for me, i do think the main problem or (reason) is that when we met she was alot slimmer (keep telling her that,that isnt what attracted me in the first place) and i was quite a lot chubbier, it`s weird how we seem to have switched place`s i was at an all time low in my life (drinkin alot) low confidence, quite heavy,unfit......she`s made my confidence soar, the only reason weve switched places in weight is cause ive got 2 quite strenuous jobs now where`s she left a strnuous job for an office one (sat down all day), (bought a tear to my eye writing that) :cry: , keep the messages commin,thanx again peeps
sorry to argue with you naughty, but i dont agree with that, she did have confidence, all i have managed to do is stop it slippin as quick as it would have, alot of the time she says that she dont belive me....i dont understand..... she knows i`m working hard for us, i litrally come home an drop as soon as i walk in.....an she must know im not doin that for myself.................another thing as well that annoyes me, alot of peeps ive spoke to in the chat room call emselves mingers (another confidence thing), i think you`d be hard pushed to find a genuine mingin or ugly person, there is always somethin that you can see or feel about someone.....havin sed that i was speakin to a girl the other day, who looked like a cross between a porn star and a super model (exceptionally attractive looks) but she was the most conceated ,arrogant, self loving prat ive ever met and she was boring to boot.....
oh and thanx mal....ive been tryin to get her more invloved in this site, she tends to buzz in and out of the room, just lookin occasionally, will try harder
very good happy cats, funny......and no you cant win
Take lots of photos and let her choose the ones she thinks are the most flattering - post them and get some real feedback.
There are people out there that like all shapes and sizes.
Even when she gets some positive feedback - it will not be THE cure, but it will give her a boost in the right direction.
problems with the photos, she`s dead funny about postin em cause she thinks they`l end up on some kind of porn site, you try an reason with her,ha ha .... good idea tho
you can put ur email addy thro the middle of them usually stops people from pinching them
if shed let me id put both face pics on there, there would be no probs then, she looks a bit like billy piper, but with bigger boobs lol
anyone get the feeling shes got big boobs lol
ta dawn, thanks for the info on the chat as well, you got an ad or up for a threesome, those boobs look juicy....
sorry naughty (fit minge) but i do love big boobs, and that was a great idea about the email address, thanx chick
how do you sign up, shed be well up for that i rekon
thanks for readin peeps comments appreciated 
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