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Gallows humour, is it just a British thing?
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I have absolutely no problem with that. :thumbup:
Mmmmmmmmmmmm - wait until it's YOUR turn!!
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seems to be a bit of a persecution complex rolling about in this thread :cry:
Personally . . .
I think it's more a case of people not being able to agree to disagree - in general; and can't resist the temptation to take snipes.
Incidentally . . . . I don't give a fuck whether those I'm not close to consider me "good old uncle dammie" or "that arse dambuster" or anything in between.
Love me, hate me, anything between the two, or no feeling at all.
Be yourself. Because I will.
Regardless of what it costs me.
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It's something I will never understand, I think it's sick, way beyond childish and I just don't see the need for laughing at someone elses tradgedy in order to make yourself feel better about things, and I think that reasoning is just an excuse for someone to feel better about getting a very cheap laugh.
As I often work in intensive care with the sickest patients in the hospital, I can say I have never encountered staff making light of a situation through this kind of humour, and its something I would never do myself.
maz x
But do the patients do it?
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Personally . . .
I think it's more a case of people not being able to agree to disagree - in general; and can't resist the temptation to take snipes.
I can agree to disagree, I do it day in day out at work.
What I can't do is sit on my hands and watch as some people undertake to break people down with their own personal dogma.
....... ps: you know what I think of you - not that you care that is....
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It's something I will never understand, I think it's sick, way beyond childish and I just don't see the need for laughing at someone elses tradgedy in order to make yourself feel better about things, and I think that reasoning is just an excuse for someone to feel better about getting a very cheap laugh.
As I often work in intensive care with the sickest patients in the hospital, I can say I have never encountered staff making light of a situation through this kind of humour, and its something I would never do myself.
maz x
But do the patients do it?
Ah - now this might help.
Me at least.
I think one point that's being touched on, but slightly missed, is . . . . . .
In the circles I used to be in, and occasionaly still re-visit, yes; the patients/victims/unfortunates would join in. And in many cases, be the instigators of such "humour"
I think what Jon may be guilty of, and I know I've been guilty of many times, is allowing the "dark humour" to be shown to a wider, less involved/understanding audience.
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Midway through a colonoscopy last year, I asked if I could have some of the images saved as jpegs to use on my profile - as some of the site members seemed to like close-up shots.
I don't think the Doctor understood
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My late Dad had to have a massive tumour removed from his thigh, resulting in a stapled wound from his groin to his knee. He referred to it as his 'zip'
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laughter is a good way of dealing with the harsh things in life, the best comedians have had tough lives.
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But do the patients do it?
A (straight) relative of mine had a bowel disorder, which meant he used to have to visit public toilets alot, this meant he was approached often.
Eventually the progression of disease meant he had to have a colonoscopy.
When joking about being approached in mens loos, he now says......."I should just let them get on with it, that would confuse them wouldn't it?........now my a*sehole has been sewn up!"
Les x
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When my brother died we cried at the funeral service, after in the pub we all had a laugh thinking of the times we had with him, is gallows humour acceptable when you knew the person who died?.
I wouldn't call that gallows hunour at all hunni. I see that as remembering your brother with fondness and love. To be able to think of the good things about them is all part of the healing process of grief. I would much rather see people laughing at good memories of a loved one as it shows how much of a mark they made on the lives of the people they left behind. A fitting and loving tribute rather than gallows humour
I remember when my mum was in intensive care before she died, me, my sisiter and 2 brothers were in the waiting room, my sister was reading readers digest and she had read a joke and started to gigle when she told us it we couldnt stop laughing, it was a nice relief to laugh after so much crying but I bet the staff thought we were crackers!!
I also recall a time (after losing a significant amount of blood) being attached to two drips (one saline or something similar and one blood). My somewhat confused relatives, wondering WTF was going on, didn’t find it funny when I commented on the precision with which the NHS diluted their Ribena 
The thing about humour is everyone finds differant things funny, some laugh at my jokes some don't. The point is no matter how grim the situation may be if we find it funny we will laugh. A few years a very close relation of mine died and me and 5 other males from my family were coffin bearers. Now to set the scene at 6 foot tall and 12 stone I'm the runt of the litter so to speak.
We carried the coffin out of the house up the garden path with tears rolling down our eyes then we encountered a problem the deceased had a few years ago built a stone arch over his front gate that was over grown with honey suckle. Now trying to get 6 very burly men through said arch whilst carrying a very heavy solid oak coffin turned out to be a logistical night mare as we struggeled and tried not to get out suits looking quite litteraly like we had been dragged through a hedge backwards someone remarked "he wants fookin for building this".
Prehaps to you reading this it's not the right thing to say at a time like that but we were all in histerics at a quite unapropiate comment. It lightened the mood and helped with our grieving. Humour comes in many forms but it always has one thing in common some people will laugh at it.
We carried the coffin out of the house up the garden path with tears rolling down our eyes then we encountered a problem the deceased had a few years ago built a stone arch over his front gate that was over grown with honey suckle. Now trying to get 6 very burly men through said arch whilst carrying a very heavy solid oak coffin turned out to be a logistical night mare as we struggeled and tried not to get out suits looking quite litteraly like we had been dragged through a hedge backwards someone remarked "he wants fookin for building this".
Prehaps to you reading this it's not the right thing to say at a time like that but we were all in histerics at a quite unapropiate comment. It lightened the mood and helped with our grieving. Humour comes in many forms but it always has one thing in common some people will laugh at it.