Hi....I've been trying to engage in converse with like minded peeps for a while...... you know what i'm gonna say!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How do we(newbies!) get into this.... nobody will talk... let alone give any advice.....
Ok...it might be a bit dodgy if the wrong people get the right info........ but if the right people get the right info there should be no need to broadcast info to everyone.....
being a closed nit bunch may be ok ......FOR YOU!..
Have a thought for all us who want to have some fun... surely it would be better for all if more got involved....
Anyway.. said my piece....
Thanks for listening...(or reading!)
Daz........
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Daz... I have only been posting here for about a week (ish) and at first my presence was acknowledged and tollerated... but as time progressed, it was tollerated less and enjoyed a bit more.
And then this evening I had not one but several PM's from various people on this board who previously I knew through just their public posts.
They all PM'ed me for different reasons, and were all perfectly social and not any kind of vulgar fuck requests... my point is, if you stick around and chat a bit... people get to know you, and they feel comfortable enough to PM you.... because you start to be less of a stranger to them.... More importantly, I now feel like I am more accepted, because ppl were nice enough to do something as simple as say hello.
So in a nutshell... thats how you crack the nut... and by all accounts its how everyone here got to be from the outside to the inside... there is no secret society or old boys club... just strangers and friends.
And then this evening I had not one but several PM's from various people on this board who previously I knew through just their public posts.
They all PM'ed me for different reasons, and were all perfectly social and not any kind of vulgar fuck requests... my point is, if you stick around and chat a bit... people get to know you, and they feel comfortable enough to PM you.... because you start to be less of a stranger to them.... More importantly, I now feel like I am more accepted, because ppl were nice enough to do something as simple as say hello.
So in a nutshell... thats how you crack the nut... and by all accounts its how everyone here got to be from the outside to the inside... there is no secret society or old boys club... just strangers and friends.
Its not time for me Greg, its more to do with effort.
We see alot of newbies come in and we all wave
say hi and then they stop posting, 3 weeks later they wonder why no one is talking to them.
So dodgydaz and anyone else, put in some effort and you will find others are more willing to have a banter with you
Dawn :silly:
We see alot of newbies come in and we all wave
say hi and then they stop posting, 3 weeks later they wonder why no one is talking to them.So dodgydaz and anyone else, put in some effort and you will find others are more willing to have a banter with you
Dawn :silly:
Dodgydaz, you asked questions and got a good bit of advice .......
And your reply ......
Maybe try reading the words as well as looking at the pictures eh?
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Sorry but I don't much much effort.
We natter alot in the cafe and this is your first posting in here so maybe a bit more effort, join in with some of the sillyness and I'm sure you will fit in fine
Dawn :silly:
And your reply ......
Quote by dodgydaz
Nice nipple rings...........got one of mine done...
Maybe try reading the words as well as looking at the pictures eh?
Well, I have made an effort to post a lot. The most frustrating thing about this place is that you start a thread and it degenerates into...people who already know each other flirting and joking. I don't really mind, but it makes it harder to break through and make an impression. It's the nature of the place, I suspect... there's a lot of sexual energy and people find it hard to stay focused on the topic in hand.
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Quote by EnglishChris99
Daz... I have only been posting here for about a week (ish) and at first my presence was acknowledged and tollerated... but as time progressed, it was tollerated less and enjoyed a bit more.
And then this evening I had not one but several PM's from various people on this board who previously I knew through just their public posts.
They all PM'ed me for different reasons, and were all perfectly social and not any kind of vulgar fuck requests... my point is, if you stick around and chat a bit... people get to know you, and they feel comfortable enough to PM you.... because you start to be less of a stranger to them.... More importantly, I now feel like I am more accepted, because ppl were nice enough to do something as simple as say hello.
So in a nutshell... thats how you crack the nut... and by all accounts its how everyone here got to be from the outside to the inside... there is no secret society or old boys club... just strangers and friends.
Well said Chris.
Welcome to the Cafe Dodgydaz
Hope you stick around and join in the banter
You will find that, as in real life, things are a little slower here and it takes time to make real friends.
Take it easy
xx
Del and Gill
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It can be a long journey, or short, depending on how many posts you make. Just please be aware that joining in .........is part of this site, if you want quick recognition, and want me........me............me........after a short while, that may not be possible.
Just mellow and take time...........yes the time to enjoy the people and characters here.
You will be part of the surreal, but lovely world of SH.
Just mellow and take time...........yes the time to enjoy the people and characters here.
You will be part of the surreal, but lovely world of SH.
Sex God
Quote by EnglishChris99
Daz... I have only been posting here for about a week (ish) and at first my presence was acknowledged and tollerated... but as time progressed, it was tollerated less and enjoyed a bit more.
And then this evening I had not one but several PM's from various people on this board who previously I knew through just their public posts.
They all PM'ed me for different reasons, and were all perfectly social and not any kind of vulgar fuck requests... my point is, if you stick around and chat a bit... people get to know you, and they feel comfortable enough to PM you.... because you start to be less of a stranger to them.... More importantly, I now feel like I am more accepted, because ppl were nice enough to do something as simple as say hello.
So in a nutshell... thats how you crack the nut... and by all accounts its how everyone here got to be from the outside to the inside... there is no secret society or old boys club... just strangers and friends.
nowt to add to that chris!
w've all been there, and all had to find our way, but we aren't closed. anyone can be accepted here, and noone knows that better than me. well i'm sure they do, but that's how i feel anyways!
:welcome: to the site dodgydaz. stick around, join in, get to know us,have fun, it's really that simple!
neil x x x ;)
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:welcome: dodgydaz. Just join in and have some fun. That's the best way to get to know people.
I don't think the aim in here should be to make an impression. It's to have fun. That can take lots of forms and we've all got to accept that that it happens like it happens, just like you say you've done. There is no control over how things develop unless they get out of hand and contravene the AUP.
Quote by GregLondon
..., but it makes it harder to break through and make an impression. .
I don't think the aim in here should be to make an impression. It's to have fun. That can take lots of forms and we've all got to accept that that it happens like it happens, just like you say you've done. There is no control over how things develop unless they get out of hand and contravene the AUP.
Quote by bigdog69
Mostly everyone forgets newbies have been reading the post for months before joining in..so.....go for it.
Bluddy good point Bigdog
I did the same thing, read the forums for about a month before posting anything. So by the time I did, I felt like I knew everyone ...... except they didn't have a clue who I was
It does take time, you have to settle in, let people get to know you, your opinions and humour - and vice versa. Then you find yourself clicking with people, and then things begin to happen. :D
Just for the record, I`ve been fairly quiet of late because I`ve been working on a project. Getting back into the swing of things (so to speak), when I`m done, will be difficult even for a post whore like myself! It`s like trying to jump back into a fast moving current. I remember it feeling difficult the last time I was absent.
So I just started lots of new threads (hopefully interesting ones!) so I was able to fit into a conversation from the start. After that it felt easier.
So it`s not always just a newbie thing.
Venusxxx
So I just started lots of new threads (hopefully interesting ones!) so I was able to fit into a conversation from the start. After that it felt easier.
So it`s not always just a newbie thing.
Venusxxx
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Quote by bigdog69
Seems to me you just barge in..make your point and wait for the flak...plenty of Mods & Knockers about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Even the regulars post "look at me"
Mostly everyone forgets newbies have been reading the post for months before joining in..so.....go for it.
i don't think so? many of us did that too?
many newbies post once or twice, then disappear forever finding the site ain't what they think it might be? but they always get a hello, and we wait to see? and yes everyone who posts is, at the end of the day, doing a look at me? it's how you get to know people? same as any hello we get in real life? and no many newbies do not read the posts before they join officially? IMHO and experience?
neil x x x ;)
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Mostly everyone forgets newbies have been reading the post for months before joining in..so.....go for it.
Bluddy good point Bigdog
I did the same thing, read the forums for about a month before posting anything. So by the time I did, I felt like I knew everyone ...... except they didn't have a clue who I was
It does take time, you have to settle in, let people get to know you, your opinions and humour - and vice versa. Then you find yourself clicking with people, and then things begin to happen. :D
I think I must be a noobie exception then... I just stormed right in and started posting... I get borred of just reading, I always find people say stuff that provokes me into conversation.
Although praise must surely go to MISSCHIEF... I have been in a playful mood all evening provoking her to give me a
and she is having none of it ;) Sex God
Quote by EnglishChris99
Mostly everyone forgets newbies have been reading the post for months before joining in..so.....go for it.
Bluddy good point Bigdog
I did the same thing, read the forums for about a month before posting anything. So by the time I did, I felt like I knew everyone ...... except they didn't have a clue who I was
It does take time, you have to settle in, let people get to know you, your opinions and humour - and vice versa. Then you find yourself clicking with people, and then things begin to happen. :D
I think I must be a noobie exception then... I just stormed right in and started posting... I get borred of just reading, I always find people say stuff that provokes me into conversation.
Although praise must surely go to MISSCHIEF... I have been in a playful mood all evening provoking her to give me a
and she is having none of it ;)once again! chris, missy. been there, done that. it's the only way forward. and i think we are all pleased to see newbies do that, cos we know it works. it's the only way! and boy does it work!
neil x x x ;)
Quote by EnglishChris99
Although praise must surely go to MISSCHIEF... I have been in a playful mood all evening provoking her to give me a
Oh Chris!!!!!!!! :smackbottom: You only said that cos you have already guessed I'm a nosy moo ...... and now will just have to go back and see what you've been posting!!!
I've only just come back from that bluddy test page thingy you put up, I've spent ages choosing colours to go with numbers, letters to go with colours etc!!! 
:smackbottom: to Chris for keep sending me all over here there and everywhere :roll: Quote by MISSCHIEF
Oh Chris!!!!!!!!
Gotta keep you on your toes!!! although I don't recall sending you ALLL over the place :twisted:
I only said it because your a sexy chick who likes perving at my avitar.... and quite frankly needs no excuse to go look at what I wrote
I think I am gonna have to change it for a different one... before you get borred of flogging my ass :D 
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Quote by MISSCHIEF
And your reply ......
Nice nipple rings...........got one of mine done...
Maybe try reading the words as well as looking at the pictures eh?
and we try and make it easier by not using joined up writing
:lol: for the advice........and the digs!....but please have a thought........
I'm married with kids......and i know some of you will scorn!....but i dont get much chance to sit on here and post..............
might not for a while after tomorrow........thats life as they say.....
sorry just trying to explain my situation.....
Carry on!
I'm married with kids......and i know some of you will scorn!....but i dont get much chance to sit on here and post..............
might not for a while after tomorrow........thats life as they say.....
sorry just trying to explain my situation.....
Carry on!