Getting motivated

28 Jun 2012

Have to admit that we go through times that we can't seem to get motivated to go out, swinging or otherwise, does anyone else get this, and if they do, have they any tips on getting back out there? Usually we get to the stage where one of us gets a bit too pissed off with the same four walls no matter how big the space in between them. Can even get to the stage of one of us getting pissed of at the other or the kids or in general before we realise whats going on and force ourselves to go out. Would love a way that we could head this 'stage' off at the pass before it happens and prevent it.

28 Jun 2012

As with anything planning helps. For example that club I mentioned to you in chat the other night only has certain dates and some are better/busier than others. They always have Bank holiday events and these are popular. We like those so we avoid the event before and after thinking they will be quieter (Its never very quiet we are just choice whores lol

) Exclude summer holidays and monthly events and then theres only 4-5 dates left a year. So we have a good look at when we can go 2 months in advance and decide on which ones. We also look out for Free events that some places offer. Wack it all on the calander and know you are going. Works for us anyway smile

You could also always do another party in Gloucestershire which would give you something to aim for and you'd have our names on the list already biggrin

28 Jun 2012

I'm like this all the time. I have to be forced to go out and do stuff instead of just thinking about it. The majority of the time, it suits me. I'm pretty anti-social and very much a homebody, love my own company and peace and quiet. I put most of that down to being an only child and now a very independent adult with only a small number of close friends.
Your circumstances are obviously different in that you actually want to do something about it. I think the previous post was right - it's about the planning, to an extent. You might want to set yourself some "goals" ... "on this night, we are going to" ... and do it. Activities you can do together as well as stuff you do with other friends. Like anything else, don't make huge demands on yourself, don't make the "goals" to big or you won't achieve them. You just set yourself up for failure. Once you've got into the routine of regular activities (swinging or otherwise), the motivation will kick in ... I think! ;)
I see it like exercise; you know you should do it, it's good for you and once you're actually doing it, you love it ... it's just the doing it that's the problem!
Good luck smile

29 Jun 2012

"variety is the spice of life" i think it helps to break the rut by trying new things as well as those familiar to us, makes things more exciting and therefore more attractive to do.
Its easier to be motivated if your likely to be doing something - you enjoy, appeals to you, is likely to be beneficial, fun etc
hard to be motivated doing something that feels like its a task, has become boring, monotonous
personally i tend to find i am less motivated in the winter months or on dark dreary days so it does help to plan ahead and have something to look forward to do, i also find im more motivated if ive planned something with someone else as dont want to let them down
be realistic too, dont expect yourself to do lots when your already busy, knackered or have lots of commitments