Getting over things

8 Feb 2008

Hello, it's ages since I posted in here. Just split up with my GF of the last year or so and feeling very empty and sad. Anyone got some good tips as to how to move forward ... it never seems to get any easier!
Done the "much too much booze" trip and that's exhausted. Hoping to have a bit of fun via this site, but back to being a single guy, that really doesn't offer much sad

! So, any more practical tips?

8 Feb 2008

dont just rely on one thing join other groups .. not just online but in the real world ... a gym, a social club (perhaps your fav sport) do an eveng course in somthing your interested in. just get out and about and meet people. keep yourself occupied.
i have been there done that and worked for me the whole mysery thing is not good for you both physicaly and mentaly go get up an do something.
best of luck with it and chin up it wont last foreever xx

8 Feb 2008

Wise words there worship

You can't afford to let yourself live in the past- it's a waste of your future.
If you have no commitments the world is out there waiting to be grabbed by the balls. Scare yourself. Do something you would never have imagined doing. Show yourself that you can. wink

8 Feb 2008

Yes wise words indeed, being online can be good as you can chat to people but it's virtual and you need to get out in the fresh air and maybe take up some sport.
When my first marriage ended, after weeping and wailing and gorging myself I joined a gym, got a babysitter and went out! It was the best thing I could have done. Initally after so many years I found male attention difficult to deal with, didn't last long believe me lol

You'll be fine I'm sure xx

9 Feb 2008

Quote by winchwench
You can't afford to let yourself live in the past- it's a waste of your future.
If you have no commitments the world is out there waiting to be grabbed by the balls. Scare yourself. Do something you would never have imagined doing. Show yourself that you can.

What great advice... and so, so, true! :thumbup:
Make 2008 the year that you surprise yourself... not the year you split up with someone - grab every opportunity and you just never know what will come of it.
Take care. :therethere:
Nola x

9 Feb 2008

Been there very recently Del and I sympathise with you but it really DOES get better. :therethere:
Keep yourself busy with new stuff, treat yourself even if only to some quality YOU time. If you find it hard to get out and meet people why not join a dating site to meet new friends locally? It does work believe me.
As for the swinging side of things, stick around here, get to some socials and have fun. Everyone gets over a split in their own time but with a bit of a diversion into something new, you could do it faster and easier.
My pm box is always hun kiss

9 Feb 2008

as someone who's been there recently I can say that all of the above is darned good advice .......... you can feel a but coming here can't you?
just please be careful. by all means have fun, meet as many people as you can, but you soooo need to watch the whole rebound thing, no really you do!
above all, be sensible with yourself, sit down and really think about what it is you want, what you are really looking for, use your head, not your heart, that way you'll avoid not only hurting yourself, but hurting other people as well.
hope it all works out for you fellah :thumbup:
good luck

9 Feb 2008

Quote by Pete_sw
as someone who's been there recently I can say that all of the above is darned good advice .......... you can feel a but coming here can't you?
just please be careful. by all means have fun, meet as many people as you can, but you soooo need to watch the whole rebound thing, no really you do!
above all, be sensible with yourself, sit down and really think about what it is you want, what you are really looking for, use your head, not your heart, that way you'll avoid not only hurting yourself, but hurting other people as well.
hope it all works out for you fellah :thumbup:
good luck

Pete :thumbup: oh and passionkiss

Nola x

9 Feb 2008

I'm sorry to hear you're going through that. Don;t forget that the path back to being yourself isn't a straight one (I'm not suggesting you go gay here btw). What I mean is you'll have good days and bad days. It's FINE to have a sad night in, get a slushy film (Love Actually is good for this) and have a bottle of wine, six-pack or 1kg of Cadbury's best. Then put that night behind you and the next day you'll feel that bit better.
Think about pain as rubbish - sometimes you have to get rid of it by letting it out.
You WILL feel better soon. passionkiss