getting to involed with peeps that you swing with!

29 Jun 2005

well have to say when i first started out............ i ended up getting a little to attached to some peeps! redface

But as time has gone on......... i find it very easy now!........... some times its a littel hard!....but can put those feelings a side!....... after all we have too!..... we are swingers!
its a matter of clicking really with out t emotions!..or the green eyed monster getting in the way!
It can be done!....... if i can do it any one can!
so what i ask has any of you swingers out there found that you have got a little to involved at times and coursed complications?

29 Jun 2005

I think the best policy is to be open and honest with each other, and keep talking to each other
I love and am very fond of my swinging partner and of my swinging friends off this site, and I would hate to think of anything happening to any of them, or any of us all falling out, life is too short.

29 Jun 2005

Quote by Sarah
I think the best policy is to be open and honest with each other, and keep talking to each other

yes you are right thats why i have changed me titel :giggle:

29 Jun 2005

Not sure Debs, I'm a bit of a teflon man myself, and slide through life without much baggage at all.
It is important not to be afraid of feeling genuine affection for the people you meet through swinging, I've met people that I love dearly ( kiss

for Jags) but this in no way affects my relationship with Kit - there are people women in non-swinging friendships who I feel the same for.
Even as swingers - we are so indoctrinated with societies rules that life can get confusing for us.
I had an argument with my Mother-in-law once (I hope she is not reading this and recognises me) It was about love and marriage.
She said humans were naturally monogomous (phew, I am so glad Jags is not looking over my shoulder tonight - I am sure that is spelt wrong!) in love (as opposed to sex) - I said not. We are capable of loving many people.
lhk
Kat

29 Jun 2005

Just popped in to give kiss

to Kate too - I really enjoyed having your head in my lap the the other night!!
:inlove: :happy: :happy: :happy: :happy:

29 Jun 2005

Quote by KitKat
It is important not to be afraid of feeling genuine affection for the people you meet through swinging, I've met people that I love dearly ( for Jags) but this in no way affects my relationship with Kit - there are people women in non-swinging friendships who I feel the same for.
Even as swingers - we are so indoctrinated with societies rules that life can get confusing for us.

I agree ... I have great affection for a male that I used to go out with and swing with and still do ... but it in no way affected Morbius and I's relationship ... the fact ther we are so honest and open with each other gives chance to quell any bad feelings or draw in close the line behaviour
C x.

29 Jun 2005

Well I have a partner (Tim) and a boyfriend (Reese) and a girlfriend (Vix) on the site.
We seem to manage ok being a four and a two.
I'm currently chasing a new girlfriend as well :shock:
Denise you know I'm gonna get you passionkiss

That ass IS mine. smackbottom

Jas
XXX

29 Jun 2005

i have just had this pm sent to me but they want to stay anomuse!
but have agreed for me to put this Little bit in for them!.have had to cut a few bits out!

It happened to us, recently
We met our first single Bi-fem a few months back, had loads of fun and everything was great, then slowly, during our play times it became quite apparent that she was paying me far more attention than my other half! so we cooled thing down a bit

big hug to you both! really! passionkiss

29 Jun 2005

Oooohhhhh, good post Debs

Quote by KitKat
It is important not to be afraid of feeling genuine affection for the people you meet through swinging, I've met people that I love dearly ( for Jags) but this in no way affects my relationship with Kit

Thats completely the way i see it as well. There are without doubt people on here that I have a special and genuine affection for whether I play with them, Fee plays with them or we are just "non playing friends". I also find that in the wider community of regulars on here, I frequently give thought to their own personal predicaments in life.
As we've stated before, through SH we have met people we would now regard as close friends. The fact that we swing with them is an extra level of that friendship.
As Sarah has said,

I think the best policy is to be open and honest with each other, and keep talking to each other

The sexual friendships we have formed on here are no threat to the relationship I have with LadyFeeBee because we have such an understanding between us.............maybe we're just lucky, but having met quite a few couples on here I think it's a more common understanding than some may think.

29 Jun 2005

i have to say that i am meeting my first man on Friday! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
And spoke to MR Debs.............. and he is fine a bout it........... as long as i am care full and he is who he says he is!....... which i did make sure of.......... and want through all the proceeder's!
you no phone chat ,,,,,,,,,, meet in a public place........... etc! etc!
I have to say that we both have made it very clear that we are not to become attached!
he is a swinger!.... and i............ and Mr Debs
ooh i am sooo excited! :bounce: :bounce:
but this man i am meeting is a smasher!............. Love you babes!... in a very un involved way! :giggle:

29 Jun 2005

Quote by Debbiewebs
i have to say that i am meeting my first man on Friday! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

Never had you pegged as a virgin Debs! :shock: kiss

<hug>
lhk
Kat

29 Jun 2005

Quote by Debbiewebs
i have to say that i am meeting my first man on Friday! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
And spoke to MR Debs.............. and he is fine a bout it........... ! :giggle:

Nice one, Debbs :thumbup:
Good luck and enjoy biggrin

29 Jun 2005

we used 2 meet a cpl from brum regular and one day after 6 months of very regular meets they sprung a idea on us, that was for us both to sell up and buy a big house and all live together, now the woman couldn't have kids and we have 3 my youngest being only a very small baby at the time and they anounced they would also help take over bringing the baby up :shock:
needless to say we never met them again confused

Also we met a cpl who was first time swingers and a cpl days after we met the woman told Paul she had left her hubbie for him and wanted him to move in with her :shock:
needless to say we never saw them again either lol

29 Jun 2005

Me?
NEVER rolleyes

29 Jun 2005

mind you saying all that
there is one man that has just signed in......... that i find very difficult not to get involed with!...and that is.............
wait for it
nearly there
yes it is..............
SARGE!!