Hi I was was wanting a bit of advice. I want to get my wife involved in swinging. I would love to watch her with another guy or guys. I don't really know how to get onto the topic and ask her. I'm not sure how she will react. Does anyone have any advice and are there any ladies out there that may be able to offer some ideas?
thanks
Jay
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Quote by Jayp292003
Hi I was was wanting a bit of advice. I want to get my wife involved in swinging. I would love to watch her with another guy or guys. I don't really know how to get onto the topic and ask her. I'm not sure how she will react. Does anyone have any advice and are there any ladies out there that may be able to offer some ideas?
thanks
Jay
Would i be right in thinking you have been swinging without her knowledge?
Sex God
Quote by Bloke2005
Just ask her mate.
If you ain't got the type of relationship that you can talk about this kind (and it's OK if you have as we are all different :P ) then I wouldn't advise you go anywhere near the swinging scene until you do,
He's been a member since 2004!!!!
Which tells me.... he's been at it without her knowing....is that a relationship where u can talk about this kind of thing???!
Wouldn't like to be in his shoes when she finds out
Quote by Bloke2005
Just ask her mate.
If you ain't got the type of relationship that you can talk about this kind (and it's OK if you have as we are all different :P ) then I wouldn't advise you go anywhere near the swinging scene until you do,
I agree with this!
I never had open enough relationships with other partners until I met Mr Snesh (and that isn't to say that they weren't good, they were just - as Bloke2005 says - different) to let them know that this kind of lifestyle was one that I wanted.. with Mr Snesh it all just happened naturally as we are very similar sexually....
That said, if you don't share your fantasies and wants as far as sex goes already then just ask her - she may well feel the same way as you, and even if she doesn't at least you'll know either way!
Layla xx
Sex God
Quote by Bloke2005
It says 03 Jan 2006 under the avatar that I'm reading, or am I missing something?
Well i went into his profile tab key next to pm at the bottom of the post
Sex God
So i guess his ad... has been there since jan 2004....
And he joined the forum jan 2006....
Would i be right?
And he joined the forum jan 2006....
Would i be right?
I think that swinging is something you need to definately sit down and talk about WITH HER before anyone else, however if the other posts are right and you have had an ad on here for 2 years that obviously has'nt happened and she is the last to know. That's a very bad start. If I was her I would feel betrayed! I think you have lost out on this before you've even got started.
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Mrs Lizard
hi jay, welcome to the forums,
your previous thread was asking for info regarding bi experience.
with that in mind, your ads and this thread i really feel you need to think about what you want and the value and importance on your desires.
your playing with fire if your married and get caught, there will be alot of hurt , and not just your wifes but yours.
you need to talk to your wife and see how she feels about it all, and for gods sake be honest, if your only hoping to get her involved so you can seceretly have a mmf 3 sum and hope to be near the man then your still asking for trouble.
good luck,
xx lou xxx
your previous thread was asking for info regarding bi experience.
with that in mind, your ads and this thread i really feel you need to think about what you want and the value and importance on your desires.
your playing with fire if your married and get caught, there will be alot of hurt , and not just your wifes but yours.
you need to talk to your wife and see how she feels about it all, and for gods sake be honest, if your only hoping to get her involved so you can seceretly have a mmf 3 sum and hope to be near the man then your still asking for trouble.
good luck,
xx lou xxx
Orgasminator
very wise words bloke 2005.....it never ceases to amaze me how people can marry people they never really know.,
Quote by Jayp292003
Hi I was was wanting a bit of advice. I want to get my wife involved in swinging. I would love to watch her with another guy or guys. I don't really know how to get onto the topic and ask her. I'm not sure how she will react. Does anyone have any advice and are there any ladies out there that may be able to offer some ideas?
thanks
Jay
If you don't know how she will react, then how the fluck are a bunch of strangers likely to know?
Why ask for ladies advice? Surely it is the guys who have been in your situation?
This may sound harsh - but this is your marriage you are talking about and you are asking a bunch of sexual deviants how to approach a subject (which they have an open attitude towards) without you ending up divorced.
I suggest before you try to encourage your wife to swing - you should learn to understand more about her.
Orgasminator
f@ck that im glad I'm a bachelor..........
Sex God
Maybe the ladies' ideas he wants, are 'do you want a sympathy shag' ideas?
Orgasminator
sounds like you have a good understanding of the male mind freckledbird 
Don't take to swinging scene without her knowledge. If she finds out your playing away, especially if it's another guy, then chances are your relationship is going to hit some very hard rocks.
Start by sharing your sexual fantasies with each other, which you've probably done already, but I'm betting you havn't told her your taste for guys as well as girls?
Open a bottle of wine and watch some porn together, preferably something with plenty of different situations in it, mf, mmf, ffm, mm, ff, mfmfmfmfm, black, white, everything you can think of. If you see something that does it for you, tell her! Likewise, get her to tell you what she likes or dislikes.
Hopefully you will both get a better understanding of each other and who knows, you may end up embarking on that happy adventure called swinging. If swinging doesn’t turn out to be her thing then at least you found out without risking your marriage by going it alone.
Start by sharing your sexual fantasies with each other, which you've probably done already, but I'm betting you havn't told her your taste for guys as well as girls?
Open a bottle of wine and watch some porn together, preferably something with plenty of different situations in it, mf, mmf, ffm, mm, ff, mfmfmfmfm, black, white, everything you can think of. If you see something that does it for you, tell her! Likewise, get her to tell you what she likes or dislikes.
Hopefully you will both get a better understanding of each other and who knows, you may end up embarking on that happy adventure called swinging. If swinging doesn’t turn out to be her thing then at least you found out without risking your marriage by going it alone.
Sex God
Quote by Dak37
Don't take to swinging scene without her knowledge. If she finds out your playing away, especially if it's another guy, then chances are your relationship is going to hit some very hard rocks.
Start by sharing your sexual fantasies with each other, which you've probably done already, but I'm betting you havn't told her your taste for guys as well as girls?
Open a bottle of wine and watch some porn together, preferably something with plenty of different situations in it, mf, mmf, ffm, mm, ff, mfmfmfmfm, black, white, everything you can think of. If you see something that does it for you, tell her! Likewise, get her to tell you what she likes or dislikes.
Hopefully you will both get a better understanding of each other and who knows, you may end up embarking on that happy adventure called swinging. If swinging doesn’t turn out to be her thing then at least you found out without risking your marriage by going it alone.
I think before he asks her he should be honest about wot... if anything... he has already been up to!!!
I'd hate to be him or her, if they did beging to swing together and then her find out!!!
Honesty is always the best option in my books!!
If she doesn't like the idea of swinging then leave the swinging sites behind you and find something you both like.
If you turn away from swinging don't despair, chances are you will both change as time goes by and grow to like things you never did before. I doubt there are many on here who started out thinking they would be swingers
We didn't think about it until we were in our 30's and married for over 10 years.
If you turn away from swinging don't despair, chances are you will both change as time goes by and grow to like things you never did before. I doubt there are many on here who started out thinking they would be swingers
We didn't think about it until we were in our 30's and married for over 10 years.
