Girl on girl????

25 Oct 2004

: OK here goes.
I am a 35 y/o male, living with my g/f.
From time to time, she has mentioned her trying it on with another girl (sometimes sober, sometimes after having a drink).
I myself find this arousing, but am afraid that it would spoil out A1 relationship!
She is and attractive and said she would like a girl only if she was likewise.
Can trying out these fantasies be nothing but long-term disaster?
replys from other girls that have been there and done it who also have partners would be ideal. Let me know how you felt afterwards and did it cause any problems?
Thanks,
Jay.

25 Oct 2004

Hi Jpf
As long as this idea has come from her and not yourself (planting ideas and all that), then it should be okay as along as u both heed any warning signs, she takes her time finding the right person and she isnt forced into it by yourself or the other girl.
For myself, it was the right person, at the right time, at the right place, it was completely left down to me to decide and it was a blast! It never caused us any problems whatsoever, because although i knew i had the blessing of my hubby, he didnt force me to be with the first girl we met.
Good luck, hope you all enjoy when it happens! lol

26 Oct 2004

thank youfor that GenHertsCpl, The idea did not come from me. I had often thought about it, but never said anything. I was suprised to say the least when she first mentioned it, even thou' she had had a drink...or two!!!!. I then thought no more about what she had said until the conversation came up again, only this time after no drink, that I am now asking the question. wink

26 Oct 2004

Quote by jpf113
Can trying out these fantasies be nothing but long-term disaster?

Hi,
I know you are specifically asking for replies from women in relationships - but I wanted to ask why, if you have a stable relationship, you think this would lead to long-term disaster?
Are you worried that by having sex with another woman she might decide that she is Lesbian?

26 Oct 2004

Quote by Rainbows
Can trying out these fantasies be nothing but long-term disaster?

Hi,
I know you are specifically asking for replies from women in relationships - but I wanted to ask why, if you have a stable relationship, you think this would lead to long-term disaster?
Are you worried that by having sex with another woman she might decide that she is Lesbian?
maybe not.....
in my (limited experience) the problem that may arise is your g/f becomes insecure.
A few years back when I was even younger and so perhaps too immature to be talking about it, my g/f at the time brought the subject up and that she would like to try.... however, if she ever pointed someone out that she fancied and I agreed that said lass was attractive.... nothing but earache for 3 days.
My lesson...... seemed it was all a scam to see if I had wandering eyes!
And now I still haven't had the pleasure of two lasses together (and she, so she informs me, now has!!)

26 Oct 2004

Quote by Jay_Derby
in my (limited experience) the problem that may arise is your g/f becomes insecure.

I would suggest that if your g/f is serious about this, then she would also be open to talking about boundaries that would ensure she didn't feel insecure. I would strongly suggest that you discussed your only being involved with HER if you were to pursue the FFM thing. Let HER decide if she wants you to be involved with the other person, and if so to what degree. Make sure all parties are aware of the boundaries in the beginning.
And yeah - perhaps a good idea not to go commenting on the "great tits" the other girl had, or anything like that lol

I will admit to not being totally experienced in this but I have had a couple of FFM experiences and in both instances the boundaries were clearly set with the fem not being sure that she could "handle" seeing her partner with me. I respected those boundaries becuase I was aware of them up front ( in both instances the boundaries were overstepped on the instigation of the other woman - but ONLY on her instigation). In both instances they were in stable relationships and it had no adverse affect.
I guess my advise is to talk openly and honestly about what you would both want to get out of it.