Good at sex????

4 Nov 2005

Isnt good sex a matter of individual opinion, what might be good for one person/persons might not be good for another?
Communications is the key i think along with understanding and taking your time.
if all else fails, just get steamed in and give er one! lmao

4 Nov 2005

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4 Nov 2005

Quote by andysmith
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego
But, if the guy was to find out what you were doing, his ego would be even more bruised :idea:

4 Nov 2005

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4 Nov 2005

Quote by Phoenix
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego
But, if the guy was to find out what you were doing, his ego would be even more bruised :idea:
humm no sorry i disagree, i honestly do not think many men in this game really care about what the women is geting out of it to me honest......just my opinion tho (going from many of my past experiences) so don't all jump on me at once :lol:

4 Nov 2005

"how come youre so good at sex?"
I get asked that question all the time, I put it down to how poor me and the girlfriend were as teenagers. We used to go to orgies every week, just for the grapes!

4 Nov 2005

Quote by Happy Cats
"how come youre so good at sex?"
I get asked that question all the time, I put it down to how poor me and the girlfriend were as teenagers. We used to go to orgies every week, just for the grapes!

TUT

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
"how come youre so good at sex?"
I get asked that question all the time, I put it down to how poor me and the girlfriend were as teenagers. We used to go to orgies every week, just for the grapes!

TUT

TIT

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego
But, if the guy was to find out what you were doing, his ego would be even more bruised :idea:
humm no sorry i disagree, i honestly do not think many men in this game really care about what the women is geting out of it to me honest......just my opinion tho (going from many of my past experiences) so don't all jump on me at once :lol:
But haven't you just given that guy false confidence? If every woman did that then that bloke would be as useful as wet toilet paper. He would continue to do that technique with the next and the next just because they faked it when he did.
If he was really getting enthusiastic about it and he really enjoyed himself then I could understand a small amount of faking. The whole session, then no, thats just wrong.

4 Nov 2005

Quote by mattmoleman
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego
But, if the guy was to find out what you were doing, his ego would be even more bruised :idea:
humm no sorry i disagree, i honestly do not think many men in this game really care about what the women is geting out of it to me honest......just my opinion tho (going from many of my past experiences) so don't all jump on me at once :lol:
But haven't you just given that guy false confidence? If every woman did that then that bloke would be as useful as wet toilet paper. He would continue to do that technique with the next and the next just because they faked it when he did.
If he was really getting enthusiastic about it and he really enjoyed himself then I could understand a small amount of faking. The whole session, then no, thats just wrong.
Maybe he should learn how do do it right in the first place ? ;)
Minx x x

4 Nov 2005

Quote by mattmoleman
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego
But, if the guy was to find out what you were doing, his ego would be even more bruised :idea:
humm no sorry i disagree, i honestly do not think many men in this game really care about what the women is geting out of it to me honest......just my opinion tho (going from many of my past experiences) so don't all jump on me at once :lol:
But haven't you just given that guy false confidence? If every woman did that then that bloke would be as useful as wet toilet paper. He would continue to do that technique with the next and the next just because they faked it when he did.
If he was really getting enthusiastic about it and he really enjoyed himself then I could understand a small amount of faking. The whole session, then no, thats just wrong.
so now its my fault hes no good at sex :lol:
calm down calm down :shock:
look in my mind its better to fake it than have a guy go off in a huff cause you have told him what hes doing ain't really doing it for you :lol2:
if i was with a guy who i felt i could say...would you mind trying this......then i would, but in swinging its not that easy to know if a guy could take you saying that or not.

4 Nov 2005

Quote by BiWelshMinx
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego
But, if the guy was to find out what you were doing, his ego would be even more bruised :idea:
humm no sorry i disagree, i honestly do not think many men in this game really care about what the women is geting out of it to me honest......just my opinion tho (going from many of my past experiences) so don't all jump on me at once :lol:
But haven't you just given that guy false confidence? If every woman did that then that bloke would be as useful as wet toilet paper. He would continue to do that technique with the next and the next just because they faked it when he did.
If he was really getting enthusiastic about it and he really enjoyed himself then I could understand a small amount of faking. The whole session, then no, thats just wrong.
Maybe he should learn how do do it right in the first place ? ;)
Minx x x
:lol: :thumbup:

4 Nov 2005

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Maybe he should learn how do do it right in the first place ? ;)
Minx x x

Is that an offer of lessons Minxy lol

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I actually think its quite important for two people to communicate. If a girl is telling me (whispering in my ear is the best way!) what she likes/wants, then her wish is my command.

but i find quite a lot of men get a bit insulted if you tell them you actually like it a different way to how they are doing it so i usually just fake it and finsh myself off when they gone, nothing worse than a guy with a brused ego
But, if the guy was to find out what you were doing, his ego would be even more bruised :idea:
humm no sorry i disagree, i honestly do not think many men in this game really care about what the women is geting out of it to me honest......just my opinion tho (going from many of my past experiences) so don't all jump on me at once :lol:
But haven't you just given that guy false confidence? If every woman did that then that bloke would be as useful as wet toilet paper. He would continue to do that technique with the next and the next just because they faked it when he did.
If he was really getting enthusiastic about it and he really enjoyed himself then I could understand a small amount of faking. The whole session, then no, thats just wrong.
so now its my fault hes no good at sex :lol:
calm down calm down :shock:
look in my mind its better to fake it than have a guy go off in a huff cause you have told him what hes doing ain't really doing it for you :lol2:
if i was with a guy who i felt i could say...would you mind trying this......then i would, but in swinging its not that easy to know if a guy could take you saying that or not.
I see your point with a one nighter/swinger relationship. It wouldn't be your fault at all. Surely he should learn from every lady and bring something new into it but if every lady said 'yeah ok, that'll do' then why would he change? Kind of a vicious circle for him and an unfortunate one for you.
I always thought that yo both should enjoy the one nighter and not just one person. maybe I've got it all wrong?

4 Nov 2005

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4 Nov 2005

Quote by dambuster

Maybe he should learn how do do it right in the first place ? ;)
Minx x x

Is that an offer of lessons Minxy lol

Why DB, do you feel you need to learn? Now? At your age ? rotflmao

;)
Minx x x

4 Nov 2005

Quote by BiWelshMinx

Maybe he should learn how do do it right in the first place ? ;)
Minx x x

Is that an offer of lessons Minxy lol

Why DB, do you feel you need to learn? Now? At your age ? rotflmao

;)
Minx x x
Always :twisted:
This old dog lovesnew tricks wink

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
[don't all jump on me at once

:lol: :bounce:
I care what the woman thinks/feels, otherwise I don't get as much out of it .
A good two way communication on how, truthfully, how good/bad you are doing is the only way to improve.
A bad teacher gives piss poor results, no matter how hard the pupil tries wink

4 Nov 2005

Quote by Phoenix

should have known it would be my fault
If i wanted to be a teacher i'd change my job

4 Nov 2005

Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid. rolleyes

4 Nov 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid.

:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
now hang on a min here
thats fighting talk
i have lost count of the amount of time i have met guys and all they have wanted is a bj and soon as they have cum thats it they off, or the guys who lay there and have a bj and b4 you have even done they have the condom open in hand ready to put on and start shagging :roll:
P.S does that fact that its mainly on about what women do and done get out of it tell you we have more to moan about

4 Nov 2005

In my view it's competely different things here.
What makes someone good in bed. Personally I love the exploration of each other, no matter how many times you've had sex with each other, still having that fascination for each others bodies and minds, like it's the first time you've ever slept with them cool

Now you ain't gonna get that in a swinging club situation, not in my (extremely limited) experience anyway. Things are a lot more upbeat, you don't have the time or space to 'discover' what someone likes. It's pretty anonymous, chances are you ain't gonna get that person who just 'knows' exactly what YOU personally want and like - odds are you ain't gonna be that person with someone else either confused

To me, swinging is the situation as a whole that I find so erotic, not the individual touches. Love the feeling of receiving/giving "that" touch in the middle of that situation and know, without even looking, that it's your partner.
In a more private 3some/moresome situation - I haven't a clue dunno

not been there .... yet 8-) I'm presuming once again its gonna be the situation I find more erotic than the actual touches, cos the chances are, with people who don't 'know' each other, are not gonna get it exactly right :?

4 Nov 2005

I agree it does very much so depend on the situation, me personally (and of course this does NOT mean all men!) have found that in a club men as a rule are only there for what they can get out of it, i have found very few men in clubs will to give anything back, most do just want a bj and a shag, well most just a bj if i'm going to be honest, however i have found on more private meets men are more happy to give something back to you and even more so men you have met a few times, my problem is as a rule i only do club meets so i miss out on all the good bits

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
don't all jump on me at once

It's not your fault...... I'd jump on you anytime (and care about what you wanted) wink

I still say that I get enjoyment out pleasuring the lady (no matter how good/mediocre I am ).

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I agree it does very much so depend on the situation, me personally (and of course this does NOT mean all men!) have found that in a club men as a rule are only there for what they can get out of it, i have found very few men in clubs will to give anything back, most do just want a bj and a shag, well most just a bj if i'm going to be honest, however i have found on more private meets men are more happy to give something back to you and even more so men you have met a few times, my problem is as a rule i only do club meets so i miss out on all the good bits

Got to ask then Ali, why bother with clubs??? dunno

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid.

:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
now hang on a min here
thats fighting talk
i have lost count of the amount of time i have met guys and all they have wanted is a bj and soon as they have cum thats it they off, or the guys who lay there and have a bj and b4 you have even done they have the condom open in hand ready to put on and start shagging :roll:
And I've lost count of women who just lie there expecting me to do everything and give nothing back. There are men who are crap in bed and hey, guess what, there are women who are crap in bed too, but precious few women will accept their share of the responsibility, as this thread proves.
P.S does that fact that its mainly on about what women do and done get out of it tell you we have more to moan about
No, it just tells me most women are self-centred.

4 Nov 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid.

:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
now hang on a min here
thats fighting talk
i have lost count of the amount of time i have met guys and all they have wanted is a bj and soon as they have cum thats it they off, or the guys who lay there and have a bj and b4 you have even done they have the condom open in hand ready to put on and start shagging :roll:
And I've lost count of women who just lie there expecting me to do everything and give nothing back. There are men who are crap in bed and hey, guess what, there are women who are crap in bed too, but precious few women will accept their share of the responsibility, as this thread proves.
P.S does that fact that its mainly on about what women do and done get out of it tell you we have more to moan about
No, it just tells me most women are self-centred.
well guess i must just be judging all women on my standards then :wink:

4 Nov 2005

Quote by meat2pleaseu
I agree it does very much so depend on the situation, me personally (and of course this does NOT mean all men!) have found that in a club men as a rule are only there for what they can get out of it, i have found very few men in clubs will to give anything back, most do just want a bj and a shag, well most just a bj if i'm going to be honest, however i have found on more private meets men are more happy to give something back to you and even more so men you have met a few times, my problem is as a rule i only do club meets so i miss out on all the good bits

Got to ask then Ali, why bother with clubs??? dunno

because *sigh* :(
I have kids so i cannot accomadate, and very very few guys can accomate either so clubs just seem a easy option, plus i 'play' 'swing' whatever you want to call it on my own a lot so for me clubs are a safe place to go and meet people, not sure i would want to go and meet a total stranger and go back to his house maybe some would see that as me being OTT and say i should take a chance but thats just the way i am lol

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I have kids so i cannot accomadate, and very very few guys can accomate either

Dare I say it.... No..... Yes .....No... Oh the turmoil... I can accomodate wink